@ deadzone ... You made me chuckle! I may just go buy myself something nice after all! That said, big blow up over the weekend and a reset right before Christmas may work to my advantage this year. Now he feels badly and will want to make it up to me. I may score in the bedroom and under the tree! lol! I will enjoy it while it lasts. Sadly, it never lasts quite long enough. :/ Enjoy your new toys!!
I actually saw your post about the blow up after I commented. You're exactly right; enjoy it while it lasts! AND under the tree?? Well, Merry Christmas to you! Props to you for at least having that dialogue and telling him how you feel and how he humiliated you. In most cases we know where things will eventually end up after a reset, but like you said, the more you have those conversations, the easier it is for you to picture yourself doing what you need to do for you. Who knows, maybe 2019 will be a better year for many of us ILIASM sufferers, one way or another.
@ deadzone ... " under the tree!" Ha! Haven't done it under the tree since we started dating! Sigh ... why it gotta change? Oh well, here's to a more fulfilling 2019 for all of us!
Thank you all so much. I made it thru the day and it wasn't horrible. Time to go home to my "roommate". He will have a peck on the lips and hot cup of tea waiting for me. I will listen to him about his day, then we will discuss the kids' days, and retreat to our silent corners. Sigh ........
Hugs, and Support - many of our friends here wrote to you. I hope things improve for you. Unfortunately time is of essence and at least in my case there's clarity that nothing much is changing. I am writing to support and hope you have clarity of direction (I am trying to find it as well)
Your eyes cannot see, what your mind does not know.