Well Brother deadzone75 , maybe looking at it this way might help.....
What ever choice you make you are absolutely guaranteed that with the choice comes problems. There is no choice that does not also come with problems.
If you choose (or just float on) staying you have the largely intractable problems that come with being in an ILIASM shithole. If you choose leaving, then that comes with the problems of being single.
You are already very familiar with the problems of being in an ILIASM shithole. You are possibly nowhere near as well informed at the moment about the problems of being single.
It comes down to which set of problems you'd sooner have, and that is a judgement call.
Someone like Brother thebaffledking may choose to take on the problems of being single (a perfectly valid choice) Someone like Brother solodriver may choose to continue to take on the problems of being in an ILIASM deal (every bit as valid a choice)
All I'd suggest is that you make your choice on as fully informed a basis as you can. That might involve you in a bit of research.
At first, tracking seemed petty to me. I’m not one to “keep score” or to dwell on past hurts. But I’ve realized that there’s tremendous value in recording events as objectively as possible and having that to refer back to when I need a reality check. Otherwise, I can get spun up in doubting what is real.
I also started tracking for my own sanity. Turned out, we were more frequent than I thought. But, of course, less frequent than she thought. And that changed a lot over the years.
For one, it gave me some awareness that I need reinforcement at least every ~3 days to stay happy with the relationship. Not necessarily sex, but quality closeness.
Also telling is what you track, because it highlights what you’re missing. Sex, foreplay, touch, kissing. When you’re down to tracking kisses, it’s kinda grim.
misssunnybunny: You're welcome! So glad to hear you had a great day
Jan 19, 2019 16:34:01 GMT -5
worksforme2: anyone hear anything lately from mrslowmaintenance or smartkat?
Jan 24, 2019 18:06:02 GMT -5
petrushka: Just saw the forecast for Mildura at 47C -- I hope you and Ms. Enna are going to be ok Baz. That's getting dangerous.
Jan 24, 2019 20:10:00 GMT -5
lifeinwoodinville: I last heard from mrslowmaintenance about a month ago. I have been in regular contact with her for the last year and a half. I feel comfortable in saying that her situation remains unchanged. If you want to know more PM me.
Jan 25, 2019 22:36:50 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey baza,...I know it's hot and dry down under. N.C. is having record rainfall. I would gladly trade some rain for some sunshine....
Feb 22, 2019 20:28:35 GMT -5
tamara68: Today it's steak and blowjob day! I suppose the steak is for those who don't get a blowjob.
Mar 14, 2019 16:49:49 GMT -5
petrushka: tamara68 Laughing with tears in my eyes. And my steak is going to be semolina gruel, due to some tummy upset :-\
Mar 15, 2019 1:11:10 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: So sad to hear the news from New Zealand. Boston Strong supports Kiwi Strong!!
Mar 15, 2019 7:46:22 GMT -5
petrushka: I was gobsmacked when I heard. This is just not us. In all of 2017 we had 37 murders in the country ..... I think the echo chambers of "social media" have a lot to answer for.
Mar 15, 2019 18:45:45 GMT -5
baza: Feeling for our Brothers and Sisters across the ditch Brother petrushka .
Mar 15, 2019 19:27:50 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: petrushka, I thought I read the headline wrong (this stuff happens here, not in NZ). It is frightening the hate that is being spread; it makes my heart hurt.
Mar 15, 2019 20:46:54 GMT -5
saarinista: All of us, IMHO, should try to be civil and kind as much as possible in person and online. I actively Tweet (civilly) on political matters and am horrified by the rancor & trolling on both sides of the spectrum, which only inflames unstable people.
Mar 19, 2019 23:21:20 GMT -5
saarinista: is anyone else watching March Madness?
Mar 24, 2019 11:44:48 GMT -5