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Post by h on Mar 14, 2019 9:37:51 GMT -5
Question for today: Besides your home or work, where do you spend most of your time? I don't understand the question. I go to work and come home. Does "lost in the thoughts in my head" count as a place?
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Post by angeleyes65 on Mar 14, 2019 9:42:01 GMT -5
That one is hard to answer I am usually at work or home. When its not winter I try to be outside as much as possible
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Post by isthisit on Mar 14, 2019 9:55:33 GMT -5
For me that would be walking by a river very close to my home. I can get lost in my thoughts there and find it very therapeutic.
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 14, 2019 10:00:44 GMT -5
Now that I am single again I spend a lot more time in the yard looking after the fruit trees, landscaping and general maintenance of the property. When talking with my X about all the yard work she responded "that's one thing I don't miss at all". Since she never calls me unless she needs something I guess I am the 2nd thing she doesn't miss at all.
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Post by sadkat on Mar 14, 2019 11:32:50 GMT -5
This IS a hard question. I imagine most of us are either at home or at work. In my case, I work from home so I spend more time than I’d like at home. If I am not at home, I’m usually out walking or at the gym. Here’s a branch question for you- what kinds of hobbies can we get into that will take us away from work and home for a while?
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Post by Handy on Mar 14, 2019 17:26:00 GMT -5
what kinds of hobbies can we get into that will take us away from work and home for a while?
Going to yoga/the gym, riding my bicycle, going to "Meet-up" groups.
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Post by sadkat on Mar 15, 2019 16:11:50 GMT -5
Your question for the weekend:
What is the main way you show your love?
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Post by angeleyes65 on Mar 15, 2019 16:16:43 GMT -5
Physical affection and taking care of them
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Post by h on Mar 16, 2019 8:02:26 GMT -5
Your question for the weekend: What is the main way you show your love? I suppose it would be gifts and acts of service. I like giving and doing things for others that are appreciated. Maybe that says more about my need for appreciation than showing love.
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Post by choosinghappy on Mar 16, 2019 13:04:23 GMT -5
Your question for the weekend: What is the main way you show your love? Physical affection and being mentally and emotionally present.
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Post by solodriver on Mar 16, 2019 13:47:10 GMT -5
1. Physical affection - hand holding, hugging, kissing, sex, spending time together enjoying each other 2. Giving gifts 3. Doing things for her that make her life easier and make her happy
The problem that has happened to me with the third one is that after awhile it becomes EXPECTED and not ACCEPTED. For example for a number of years now, not only do I work full-time, I also do most of the housework. I NEVER hear a "Thank You", get any sort of appreciation for any of it at any time. And then to add insult to injury, when I don't do something, I hear "Why didn't you do _________?"
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Post by choosinghappy on Mar 16, 2019 13:50:42 GMT -5
1. Physical affection - hand holding, hugging, kissing, sex, spending time together enjoying each other 2. Giving gifts 3. Doing things for her that make her life easier and make her happy
The problem that has happened to me with the third one is that after awhile it becomes EXPECTED and not ACCEPTED. For example for a number of years now, not only do I work full-time, I also do most of the housework. I NEVER hear a "Thank You", get any sort of appreciation for any of it at any time. And then to add insult to injury, when I don't do something, I hear "Why didn't you do _________?"
solodriver maybe you should stop. ? See what happens.
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Post by solodriver on Mar 16, 2019 15:23:14 GMT -5
1. Physical affection - hand holding, hugging, kissing, sex, spending time together enjoying each other 2. Giving gifts 3. Doing things for her that make her life easier and make her happy
The problem that has happened to me with the third one is that after awhile it becomes EXPECTED and not ACCEPTED. For example for a number of years now, not only do I work full-time, I also do most of the housework. I NEVER hear a "Thank You", get any sort of appreciation for any of it at any time. And then to add insult to injury, when I don't do something, I hear "Why didn't you do _________?"
solodriver maybe you should stop. ? See what happens. Sadly, nothing would happen and the house would become a health hazard quickly. I wouldn't have a clean dish to eat with, no clothes to wear, bathroom becoming totally disgusting. I do leave the room she is in alone and it's filthy, dirty dishes everywhere, cans and bottles from drinks piling up on the floor and under the bed. So that's what the rest of the house will be like after I leave but while I'm here, I'm going to keep things going, at least for myself and the pets.
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Post by sadkat on Mar 16, 2019 18:47:15 GMT -5
For me, it’s affection followed by acts of service.
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Post by DryCreek on Mar 16, 2019 23:23:27 GMT -5
What is the main way you show your love? Touch; spontaneous hugs and kisses. Awesome if it leads to more, but not the motive. And massage, which I suppose is a combination of touch and acts of service. I’m happy to do acts of service when the dynamic is healthy, but it’s more out of kindness / thoughtfulness than an expression of love.
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