Post by jamesbonding on Dec 4, 2018 0:18:07 GMT -5
Fortunately I live in a no-fault divorce state, and I'm not considering divorce right now, but I'm just curious:
If you live in a place where the divorce laws are not favorable for you, could you move to another state or country (with or without your spouse accompanying you) and file for divorce there, to take advantage of more favorable divorce laws?
Or, on the other side of the coin, if your marriage is on the brink of divorce, and you or your spouse are considering moving to a place with less favorable divorce laws, should you file for divorce in your current location immediately?
Good questions to put to ones' lawyer Brother jamesbonding .
In my jurisdiction the divorce laws are Federal and it does not matter a rats arse what state within the Commonwealth of Australia you reside, or file in.
I understand that in the US divorce laws may vary from state to state.
Something else to consider - Even if your marriage is "made in heaven" it doesn't hurt to know how a divorce would shake out for you. There are about 4 current members here who also were "not considering divorce right now" and their spouse blindsided them and filed first, much to the ILIASM members surprise and consternation. The continuation (or otherwise) of your marriage is not solely at your discretion....it's as well to keep that in mind.
Post by choosinghappy on Dec 4, 2018 20:43:33 GMT -5
Before my ex and I split we were discussing moving to a different state so I researched how a divorce would shake out for me both in the current state and in the new state. I learned that in order to file for divorce in the new state we would have had to be residents there for at least a year. I am under the impression there are at least some US states that have this rule.
Btw: There were things that would have been to my advantage if we moved and I filed in the new state but it wasn’t worth wasting another year of my life and my sanity.
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solodriver: Thanks warmways
Oct 30, 2019 23:36:15 GMT -5
RealMustangGuy: When using a member's username in a post, how does one get it to be in different color and work as a link? I can type in the name but after posting it doesn't look the same as when others use member's usernames in their posts.
Nov 2, 2019 11:37:25 GMT -5
bfar: Just stumbled on this article:https://masculinebydesign.com/sexless-marriage-is-symptomatic-of-emasculated-husbands/ was more than a little disconcerting. Are we digging ourselves further in the hole by trying to be all enlightened and sensitive?
Nov 3, 2019 13:46:42 GMT -5
petrushka: Mate, what's the alternative to all enlightened and sensitive here? Rape? Coercion? Sexual assault? Thanks, but I can do better than being a complete arsehole (or psychopath for that matter).
Nov 3, 2019 21:11:53 GMT -5
bfar: Petrushka... I'm just wondering if we shot ourselves in the foot, as it were, by giving giving up on our strength, and giving in to the feminist agenda of making men irrelevant.
Nov 5, 2019 11:30:21 GMT -5
petrushka: Sorry, I don't buy into that at all. I'm not giving up anything. I've been into the "feminist agenda" for nearly 60 years. Having an empowered partner empowers me. I want strong women around me who take responsibility for themselves and who can face me
Nov 5, 2019 17:20:16 GMT -5
petrushka: I see 'strong men', and controlling bullies, as basically weak, lacking confidence and self esteem -- hence they think they need to assert themselves that way. I loathe patriarchy as much as matriarchy. Partners should be equals.
Nov 5, 2019 17:24:43 GMT -5
petrushka: In my world view, you are buying into some really shitty memes there.
Nov 5, 2019 17:25:20 GMT -5
apocrypha: The "feminist agenda" has changed across the past 60 years. Some feminists of the 60's call the current iteration "fainting couch feminism", thinking it a subversion and betrayal of women's lib. Hard to get a bead on what folks think, using a broad label.
Nov 8, 2019 9:37:14 GMT -5
apocrypha: No aspect of that article (which I amount to a magazine offering bad diet advice) promotes rape, coercion (beyond seduction), sexual assault, and I don't understand your public performance suggesting that they would be and thus implicating bfar.
Nov 8, 2019 9:41:51 GMT -5
mirrororchid: pfar, being sensitive means understanding how others think and feel. It doesn't mean you are compelled to adopt their thoughts and feelings. This is a matter of understanding people including loved ones. If you aren't sensitive, you lack tools to
Nov 11, 2019 8:09:49 GMT -5
mirrororchid: live well. You need not soften, but you should be able to understand vulnerability. Recognizing others' distress provides me with cues when I need to use self-control or extend help. If you're strong, you should be helping others. Use what works.
Nov 11, 2019 8:14:06 GMT -5
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Nov 14, 2019 9:16:44 GMT -5