I recall reading some study from the University of Dunedin a couple of years back.
As I recollect the study found very little - if any - gender difference in the rates of verbal / physical abuse present in the study group.
I think a university in Denmark may have done some work on the subject too.
It all read to me like women are just as likely to insult or hit blokes as blokes are likely to insult or hit women.
But the physical effect is usually worse when a physically bigger person hits a smaller person. And generally the smaller person in the situation is a woman.
More on topic - I saw this Documentary on tv last night - about this bloke in the UK who was foully abused verbally and physically by his partner, oftentimes requiring hospital treatment, police intervention and all. An awful tale (as is any abusive story) and the thinking of both abuser and abusee is highly HIGHLY complex. Looks simple from the outside looking in, but is not at all simple.
My wife drives me nuckin' futz! My psychologist says she's a bully, a lazy diva, and she treats me like her personal servant. I tolerate her because of my kids.
I don't want to break up the family. I don't want my kids have to move away from their friends because as single people neither of us can afford to live in this area. I don't want to see my kids half the time. I don't want my wife remarrying and have some other guy raising my kids when I am not there.
I made the decision long ago to put up with my wife as long as I can because of my kids. I am fully aware of the arguments against my plan but this is what I think is best for everyone involved.
If you are considering leaving after the kids grow up, there is one thing you should consider. In this area, the longer you are married, the more it will cost you to leave. (This is a general rule.) You may lose more assets. Your retirement savings could take a major hit. If you live in an area with LIFETIME alimony, after than kicks in you may be really trapped!!!
On a similar point, the older you are when you leave, the fewer years you have to recover financially afterwards.
I don’t think that when men get abused in a relationship it is ever as serious as the more serious cases of female abuse and I think my concern would lie more with vulnerable women but the male cases are there and this needs to be recognised.
I suspect that one of the unrecognized effects of abusive women is male suicide.
Some men are unable to talk about or seek help in dealing with an abusive woman. Such men have been taught (or brainwashed!) to never admit that a woman is hurting or harming them. They think such an admission is a sign of weakness. So they take it....until they no longer can live with it.
misssunnybunny: You're welcome! So glad to hear you had a great day
Jan 19, 2019 16:34:01 GMT -5
worksforme2: anyone hear anything lately from mrslowmaintenance or smartkat?
Jan 24, 2019 18:06:02 GMT -5
petrushka: Just saw the forecast for Mildura at 47C -- I hope you and Ms. Enna are going to be ok Baz. That's getting dangerous.
Jan 24, 2019 20:10:00 GMT -5
lifeinwoodinville: I last heard from mrslowmaintenance about a month ago. I have been in regular contact with her for the last year and a half. I feel comfortable in saying that her situation remains unchanged. If you want to know more PM me.
Jan 25, 2019 22:36:50 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey baza,...I know it's hot and dry down under. N.C. is having record rainfall. I would gladly trade some rain for some sunshine....
Feb 22, 2019 20:28:35 GMT -5
tamara68: Today it's steak and blowjob day! I suppose the steak is for those who don't get a blowjob.
Mar 14, 2019 16:49:49 GMT -5
petrushka: tamara68 Laughing with tears in my eyes. And my steak is going to be semolina gruel, due to some tummy upset :-\
Mar 15, 2019 1:11:10 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: So sad to hear the news from New Zealand. Boston Strong supports Kiwi Strong!!
Mar 15, 2019 7:46:22 GMT -5
petrushka: I was gobsmacked when I heard. This is just not us. In all of 2017 we had 37 murders in the country ..... I think the echo chambers of "social media" have a lot to answer for.
Mar 15, 2019 18:45:45 GMT -5
baza: Feeling for our Brothers and Sisters across the ditch Brother petrushka .
Mar 15, 2019 19:27:50 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: petrushka, I thought I read the headline wrong (this stuff happens here, not in NZ). It is frightening the hate that is being spread; it makes my heart hurt.
Mar 15, 2019 20:46:54 GMT -5
saarinista: All of us, IMHO, should try to be civil and kind as much as possible in person and online. I actively Tweet (civilly) on political matters and am horrified by the rancor & trolling on both sides of the spectrum, which only inflames unstable people.
Mar 19, 2019 23:21:20 GMT -5