Eventually, this Tara Jane Parmieter cuts to the chase and says -
"If you’re married with kids, please do your due diligence. Educate yourself about family court, high-conflict divorce, how to vet skilled attorneys, potential children’s therapists, parental alienation, parallel parenting, how to document abuse and parenting logs and, most importantly, how to exit as safely as possible so you don’t end up with a false abuse allegation and a restraining order. Talk to other men and women with similar experiences and find out what worked for them and what didn’t. Get some support whether it’s professional or a trusted friend. If you encounter anyone who minimizes, makes light of or blames you for your abuser’s behavior, disregard their ignorant bias. Keep working at taking care of yourself and don’t let the bastards get you down"
In other words - - see a lawyer and establish how a divorce would shake out for you - within those parameters start putting an exit strategy in place and get it into do-able shape - shore up your support network - research everything you can about shepherding your kids through such an event
These points (above) get hammered in here all the time....the necessity to create an alternative to staying in a sub-optimal situation.
And FWIW, I reckon that's why people (women and/or men) don't leave their dysfunctional marriages - because they have not constructed a viable alternative to staying in the status quo. They have not - presently - got an alternative choice. And/or in some instances, they have been so beaten down, the construction of a viable alternative plan is not - presently - within their capabilities.
handy: Cutiecakes, I see you posted on another forum. How about copying that other post and place it here. It hase some very relevant information and I think this forum will be of more help.
Dec 3, 2018 17:17:52 GMT -5
worksforme2: Watching the funeral....RIP George Herbert Walker Bush
Dec 5, 2018 12:46:01 GMT -5
worksforme2: Man oh man, look at all that snow. Looks like snow cream is going to be on the menu today.
Dec 9, 2018 13:23:24 GMT -5