Post by time4intimacy on Dec 17, 2018 18:48:13 GMT -5
So, my bad on not being on here in a while. Life gets so buys and work travel has been crazy. Your guys are all awesome. Making good money can sometimes be a hindrance to making the right decision to get to happiness. I grew up extremely poor and really valued just simple things in life and money did not mean much. Now I have been used to a higher cost of living, I don't want to give that up, but more importantly, if I am being honest, I don't want the social stigma that I am am divorced again. I hate to fail at anything and resigning to failing twice at marriage is something I am afraid to do. With all that, I know I am not happy having sex once every few months. It is not enough for me.
Thanks to all for all the advice and support. Most of you are right, I am probably not going anywhere and I will deal with this situation to avoid the social and monetary impact. Right or wrong, it is a choice of mine. However, outsourcing is not out of the question, the longing for sex is just too much for me right now. So most likely I will just be on here to vent and talk with like minded individuals and who knows, maybe find an alternative to my situation.
It is not unknown in this group for the refuser to act pre-emptively and initiate a divorce. There's about 4 cases of that in the current membership. I mention this only to make the point Brother time4intimacy , that you are NOT the sole arbiter of whether the marriage continues or not.
Anyway, staying for access to the money, and staying to avoid social stigma are perfectly legitimate choices.
In regard to the outsourcing option, the gaping hole in that strategy is you getting caught, and that precipitating a divorce - the very thing you don't want.
What you have got here though, is clarity about what you are prepared to do, and not do, and that is a good thing.
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petrushka: I was gobsmacked when I heard. This is just not us. In all of 2017 we had 37 murders in the country ..... I think the echo chambers of "social media" have a lot to answer for.
Mar 15, 2019 18:45:45 GMT -5
baza: Feeling for our Brothers and Sisters across the ditch Brother petrushka .
Mar 15, 2019 19:27:50 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: petrushka, I thought I read the headline wrong (this stuff happens here, not in NZ). It is frightening the hate that is being spread; it makes my heart hurt.
Mar 15, 2019 20:46:54 GMT -5
saarinista: All of us, IMHO, should try to be civil and kind as much as possible in person and online. I actively Tweet (civilly) on political matters and am horrified by the rancor & trolling on both sides of the spectrum, which only inflames unstable people.
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saarinista: is anyone else watching March Madness?
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worksforme2: doesn't much look like it...
Mar 27, 2019 12:20:10 GMT -5
saarinista: Well, my team is going to the Final Four! I am beyond thrilled. Basketball is life.
Apr 1, 2019 0:47:14 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Congrats! Yay! I don't know how many people see the shout box, I don't think it shows up not he mobile version of the site. Maybe post something in the Off Topic section and more folks may see it?
Apr 1, 2019 15:38:34 GMT -5
wewbwb: Or, maybe baseball season started . . .
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flashjohn: saarinista, my alma mater, Texas Tech, is also in the final four.
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saarinista: : flashjohn Ruh, roh. Then we have to be mortal enemies for the weekend because I went to MSU!
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worksforme2: The add attachment says a max of 1mb...I see plenty of videos that are way longer than that...how do I do that? My video is 4.97 mbs
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h: The videos posted aren't attached. They are links to videos outside the site.
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noregretz: You can never outrun a Grizzly bear, but that's ok. You only have to outrun the person you're with....
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solodriver: or in this case your refuser.
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