Well, it has been a very long road, but I am finally divorced.
My refuser had previously agreed to a final hearing date on 10/19, but cancelled it two days before the hearing with no explanation. Then she refused to sign the final documents, and my lawyer had to threaten her with contempt to get her to agree to another final hearing date, 11/15/18.
Well, on Monday, 11/12, the Alzeimer's facility where my mom was called and said that she is not responsive, so I went there. My brother and I sat with her for the evening, then my sister came in from out of town Monday evening. She stayed with my mom overnight, then I came back in the morning, and was there while my sister went to take a shower and get some breakfast. We were there the rest of the day & my brother came in about 4 pm. Mom died at 5:43 pm.
My lawyer asked if I wanted to keep the hearing, and I told her absolutely. So after doing funeral plans on Wednesday, I was at the courthouse and we got the final hearing done. On Friday, my extended family met and talked about her.
So I am divorced and my mom is gone. Both are a blessing. Alzeimers is a really tough disease, and she had it for 11 years before it took her.
Congratulations on your divorce and I hope having that behind you makes it easier to handle everything else. It's good that your mom isn't suffering anymore but I know it must still be difficult to go through.
Alzheimer's is a terrible thing. I have an aunt struggling with it now. She has good days and bad days but it really takes a toll on my cousins. I was never very close to her because she and my uncle divorced long before I was born but I still keep in touch with my cousins and hear about her through them. It's not easy to have a loved one forget who you are.
Realizing that it was a reset. Learning to accept what is, without resentment.
Post by worksforme2 on Nov 19, 2018 17:18:24 GMT -5
I won't say congrats on the divorce. I will simply acknowledge the milestone it represents for you and wish you the best as you can finally set about rebuilding your life. I have an uncle who is about 5-6 yrs. into Alzheimer's. It's difficult to see the changes in him. He was the 1st person in our family to complete college. He managed a branch bank for decades and was a pretty sharp guy in the thinking/reasoning department. h is correct when he says it's hard to watch someone's mind fail and to have a loved one no longer recognize you.
My condolences for the loss of your mom. Alzheimer’s is a vicious disease and I know how horrendous it is watching someone you love go through it. Now that your divorce is final, you can finally start over- good luck on your journey. Touch base every once in a while and let us know how you are doing.
Post by GeekGoddess on Nov 28, 2018 17:43:22 GMT -5
My thoughts are wish you, flashjohn, on both of these major landmark events. To the good, it is great to finally be free of the Ex and I know your new life has already started, but to have the LEGAL parts really DONE is a weight off the shoulders for sure. I’m glad you got to be around with your mother as she completed her passage, too. My dad is well beyond real conversation anymore. I know how his current state would bother him to no end if he were in his right mind to know just how gone he is. It’s a very weird twilight. But I know I’ll actually feel a lot of loss AND gratitude for it being done, when he does go. Thoughts and blessings and hugs to you.
handy: Cutiecakes, I see you posted on another forum. How about copying that other post and place it here. It hase some very relevant information and I think this forum will be of more help.
Dec 3, 2018 17:17:52 GMT -5
worksforme2: Watching the funeral....RIP George Herbert Walker Bush
Dec 5, 2018 12:46:01 GMT -5
worksforme2: Man oh man, look at all that snow. Looks like snow cream is going to be on the menu today.
Dec 9, 2018 13:23:24 GMT -5