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Post by baza on Nov 4, 2018 23:29:34 GMT -5
These 10 members below joined the group in November 2016 and posted at least an introductry story. All started off as "stayers". lew - (inactive) last post Apr 2017 cavu - last post Nov 2018 - staying forestsoul - last post Jan 2018 - staying drbamboo - last post Nov 2018 - left Ed - last post Mar 2018 - staying elena - (inactive) last post Nov 2016 nealbtheman - last post Apr 2018 - staying thebaffledking - last post Nov 2018 - left gerry - (inactive) last post Nov 2016 wom360 - last post Oct 2018 - staying After the passage of 2 years ....... (EDITED - after cavu's post of November 8th 2018) 3 of them went inactive so we don't know what happened to them. 5 of them are still in their ILIASM deals 2 have left their ILIASM deals Again, no examples of 'turnarounds'. Incidently. Apart from the above first 10 members to join in November 2016 (as above), there were roughly 25 other people who joined later during the month of November 2016 - and made at least 1 post, - as well. Then about as many who joined but have not contributed a single post.
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Post by hopingforachange on Nov 5, 2018 9:56:05 GMT -5
🙋🏼♂️ you forgot about me, I would say my marriage is 1/2 turned around.
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Post by baza on Nov 5, 2018 15:52:22 GMT -5
The above 10 were the first to join in November 2016 hopingforachange . I see your joining date was 27 November 2016 - that's why you weren't in that sample.
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Post by choosinghappy on Nov 6, 2018 1:12:47 GMT -5
🙋🏼♂️ you forgot about me, I would say my marriage is 1/2 turned around. It’s 1/2 turned around? Give us an update!
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Post by hopingforachange on Nov 6, 2018 10:15:39 GMT -5
So sex is happening but I'm not that interested in sex from her. She will accidently say like things that trigger flash backs to ask of the years of pain and unlike before, I'm letting myself feel them.
Also I'm realizing how different we are sexually, I'm more of a go with the flow and trust my partner type of person and she wants to talk everything to death.
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Post by cavu on Nov 9, 2018 2:15:42 GMT -5
I’m still here. I occasionally drift in, out, lurking, reading and learning. Leaving a marriage, I’ve discovered, is a very difficult decision. I initially stayed for the kids. Our sons are older now. They’re not children anymore. The oldest graduated high school and the youngest just started. Another man raising my kids used to bring me to tears. But, my boys have since grown into fine young men so, I don’t worry of losing my connection to them through divorce. Things never got better in the two years since I’ve joined. We went to marriage counseling for a year and that was a complete waste of time. I’ve since gotten used to sleeping on the edge of the bed with my back to her. I don’t reach out to touch her anymore and I don’t bother to try to initiate sex. What used to frustrate me was the searching for the why or how this happened. In other words, why chasing. That has given way to indifference and apathy. I’ve since contacted a lawyer twice to ask questions but I have yet to file. I’ve opened separate bank accounts and have my mail sent elsewhere. Resentment and contempt are feelings I have, which are usually not overcome. Anyway, overall though, I do very much miss the touch of a woman and the deeper connection from intimacy. I hope to one day find that again. I won’t ever remarry though. It would be hard to trust someone.
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Post by saarinista on Nov 10, 2018 16:38:12 GMT -5
So sex is happening but I'm not that interested in sex from her. She will accidently say like things that trigger flash backs to ask of the years of pain and unlike before, I'm letting myself feel them. Also I'm realizing how different we are sexually, I'm more of a go with the flow and trust my partner type of person and she wants to talk everything to death. hopingforachange not to talk my question to death 🤔 but I'm curious... what is it that your wife wants to talk about endlessly? Is it about the sexual aspect of your marriage itself or just other stuff? I mean if it's just about the sexual part... I don't know, maybe there's some way you could just get her to hush up and f---. (Is that inappropriate to say? I don't know.) I do think women in general are more talkative than men, so some of it may be just the inherent nature of male-female relationships. However, it kind of sounds like the thrill Is gone for you regardless. In that situation, those inherent male-female differences which, when the sex was hot, were cute, endearing or quirky instead become damned annoying and a turn-off. That is a problem. ❤️😩.
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