Post by northstarmom on Oct 19, 2018 9:18:15 GMT -5
I’m sure that — especially as people get up in age— there are plenty of men and women on dating sites looking for just companionship, financial or caregiving help. I know a man who as a senior was in Match.com but has ED and doesn’t think it is cureable.
Actually I had told her so... Some time back she mentioned she might venture on to a dating site. She looks good to be coming up on 67. When she mentioned it I told her to just be prepared, that the men contacting her were going to want to have sex with her. I don't think she believed me. Once again I turn out to be something of a prophet.
I just can't for the life of me understand why someone who doesn't like sex would want to go on a dating site in the first place.
My best guess on this is that she likes to travel and having a partner makes doing so more possible and enjoyable. And I think she believes doing so with a male is more fun than having the experience with her girlfriends. I would have to agree knowing her girlfriends. At this point I believe she would be good for a man who also seeks a platonic relationship and who enjoys conversation with a woman. She does have some strong points other than having a good looking head. She keeps an immaculate house and is a fair cook. She generally is willing to consider differing points of view even if she finds the argument for them wanting. She will pay her own way or split costs if it means she gets to take a trip or do something new and interesting. She has a fair quantity of money squirreled away. If I were an asexual male but still desired to spend time in the company of a woman she would not be a bad pick.
Full disclosure: She is not a good navigator and gets lost easily, even with a GPS. And she can only decorate using brown colors.
I spotted my ex's profile on one of the dating sites I was using. Also a super creepy former colleague! I don't know about the latter (and I'll never find out!) but I know my ex is unlikely to have a healthy attitude toward sex with anyone - I really don't think it was a problem just with me. This is not to say he might be better with a different partner, but he'd never be 'right'.
Post by jamesbonding on Oct 19, 2018 21:57:07 GMT -5
"But I guess better with like minded than screwing up a heterosexual person's life."
Probably a lot of the people on ILIASM are married to asexuals. And many of those spouses are reluctant to divorce, for a variety of understandable reasons. Many of them are probably not even aware that they are asexual, or that asexuality is "a thing." (I had not heard of asexuality until about ten years ago.) So, for those ILIASM people who are married to asexuals and want to divorce, it might help to educate your spouse about asexuality, encourage them to check out the asexual dating sites, etc. When the asexual spouses see that there are others like them, who would perhaps be better partners than their current, sexual spouse, it might make those asexual spouses more amenable to an amicable divorce.
It would be nice if sex education classes mentioned asexuality and the wide range of sexual appetites among people and how mismatched libidos can cause problems in relationships.
Dating sites ought to include some questions about sexual appetite to determine the minimum and maximum acceptable frequency for each person, including no sex at all! Then the websites could match people with overlapping ranges. Unfortunately this doesn't easily fit in with the multiple choice pattern used by many dating sites. It would require some special programming to handle this question. For those of you on dating websites: I encourage you to submit this suggestion.
I think it's great that they exist. Make it easy for like-minded people find each other for relationships, cuddling, or whatever!
You're killing my business plan, brother.
But I guess better with like minded than screwing up a heterosexual person's life.
i scoff! 😁😜 Cuddling is for wussies. At least cuddling that doesnt lead to something steamier! 😉😎 hey, I'm not judging , but I am speaking for myself. Give me sex or give me room to just get a good night's sleep. 😁
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misssunnybunny: I'm also very sad to see that andie is gone
Oct 22, 2018 16:25:07 GMT -5
jim44444: hmisssunnybunny not only did andie delete her existence here she also deleted her tumblr account. Maybe her hubby found her online postings.
Oct 22, 2018 19:52:59 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Oh, no! Hope she is okay...
Oct 22, 2018 20:00:25 GMT -5
solodriver: I'm sad andie is gone too. She reached out to me when I first joined the group at a time when I was really sick, and talked to me everyday until I was well again and shared a lot of her stories with me.
Oct 22, 2018 20:58:28 GMT -5
isthisit: Apologies for being a techno numpty- can anyone help me to send a PM? When I choose the member as a recipient the error message indicating a staff member is required. Eh?
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solodriver: isthisit you cannot send PMs until your membership changes to member
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isthisit: Thanks solodriver and shynjdude for your replies. Is there some info somewhere about these divisions? I have had a mooch around and haven't come across it yet.
Nov 8, 2018 10:22:28 GMT -5
solodriver: I think it is/was under the Welcome tab, but not sure where.
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