I definitely recall a thread dealing with this, with plenty of helpful comments as well......but shit it is hard to find specific back stories in here. Using assorted options in the "search" functions can help.
Found this site that can calculate alimony payments based on general input data. Obviously specific individual factors can affect the amount but it gives you the general formula for calculation to get a rough estimate of what you may be looking at paying (or receiving) and it also narrows it down for several US states that have specific laws pertaining to alimony.
I have been to one initial attorney consult. I found my attorney by asking an attorney friend (non family law) for three recommendations. I said “I was asking for a friend”. I asked her to tell me why those were the 3 she recommended. Then I sent each of them an email and told them who recommended me and that I was looking for a consult. Then I just went on gut instinct + google based on the responses. And, because I was a referral from someone they respected my consult was only $150 vs $300. Go, take your financial info - all of it. Make a spread sheet. Assets , debts, income, recent tax filing.. Then take notes. Write down everything . It’s stressful and you will forget some things. I left my financial snapshot there in a file. I check in once per year and update info. It gives a measure of relief knowing that if the straw that breaks the camel falls - I have that piece calmly taken care of prior to the extreme stress event of whatever is going to finally force me out. Just having that info & attorney resource had a situation calming effect - put me more ‘in the drivers seat’ and changed my outlook at bit. It is good to be informed. Good luck and sorry you are wrestling with this too.
frednsa: i saw something on the wedding night (in the 60's) should have ended it during the honeymoon. i was played so perfectly. she is so wonderful in almost every other way, so...still wondering...thinking frigidity is a real thing and untreatable
Aug 29, 2019 12:07:04 GMT -5
worksforme2: Tomorrow is Labor Day 2019, no big plans for the day....thinking seriously of going commando
Sept 1, 2019 11:37:07 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey ironhamster...I just saw your picture on another site and your head wasn't covered. You actually look better without the bandana....
Sept 2, 2019 11:54:55 GMT -5
javba: Dunno Iron Hamster - I have not seen your other photo - I think you ROCK anyways.
Sept 4, 2019 10:11:42 GMT -5
worksforme2: Happened across Tamara68 on another site, messaged her but she didn't respond...
Sept 15, 2019 13:13:02 GMT -5
elkclan2: Dealing with an escaped gerbil. Fun times.
Sept 16, 2019 13:01:50 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: 1. Hope tamara is doing well. 2. Elkclan2, did you catch the critter???
Sept 17, 2019 15:40:05 GMT -5
worksforme2: Tamara answered me yesterday. She and her partner are moving into a house next week. It's probably about as good as is possible. She didn't comment on the situation with her daughter.
Sept 17, 2019 17:46:02 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Thanks for the update; just hope she is happy
Sept 17, 2019 19:49:55 GMT -5
workingonit: Elkclan2 my son's gerbil escaped at the same time as his pet snake. I did not think it was a coincidence!
Sept 17, 2019 20:40:26 GMT -5
hopingforachange: Wow, is been forever since I read the shoutbox.
Sept 17, 2019 21:33:01 GMT -5
hopingforachange: I need to set up another Skype session.
Sept 17, 2019 21:33:16 GMT -5