I definitely recall a thread dealing with this, with plenty of helpful comments as well......but shit it is hard to find specific back stories in here. Using assorted options in the "search" functions can help.
Found this site that can calculate alimony payments based on general input data. Obviously specific individual factors can affect the amount but it gives you the general formula for calculation to get a rough estimate of what you may be looking at paying (or receiving) and it also narrows it down for several US states that have specific laws pertaining to alimony.
I have been to one initial attorney consult. I found my attorney by asking an attorney friend (non family law) for three recommendations. I said “I was asking for a friend”. I asked her to tell me why those were the 3 she recommended. Then I sent each of them an email and told them who recommended me and that I was looking for a consult. Then I just went on gut instinct + google based on the responses. And, because I was a referral from someone they respected my consult was only $150 vs $300. Go, take your financial info - all of it. Make a spread sheet. Assets , debts, income, recent tax filing.. Then take notes. Write down everything . It’s stressful and you will forget some things. I left my financial snapshot there in a file. I check in once per year and update info. It gives a measure of relief knowing that if the straw that breaks the camel falls - I have that piece calmly taken care of prior to the extreme stress event of whatever is going to finally force me out. Just having that info & attorney resource had a situation calming effect - put me more ‘in the drivers seat’ and changed my outlook at bit. It is good to be informed. Good luck and sorry you are wrestling with this too.
misssunnybunny: You're welcome! So glad to hear you had a great day
Jan 19, 2019 16:34:01 GMT -5
worksforme2: anyone hear anything lately from mrslowmaintenance or smartkat?
Jan 24, 2019 18:06:02 GMT -5
petrushka: Just saw the forecast for Mildura at 47C -- I hope you and Ms. Enna are going to be ok Baz. That's getting dangerous.
Jan 24, 2019 20:10:00 GMT -5
lifeinwoodinville: I last heard from mrslowmaintenance about a month ago. I have been in regular contact with her for the last year and a half. I feel comfortable in saying that her situation remains unchanged. If you want to know more PM me.
Jan 25, 2019 22:36:50 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey baza,...I know it's hot and dry down under. N.C. is having record rainfall. I would gladly trade some rain for some sunshine....
Feb 22, 2019 20:28:35 GMT -5
tamara68: Today it's steak and blowjob day! I suppose the steak is for those who don't get a blowjob.
Mar 14, 2019 16:49:49 GMT -5
petrushka: tamara68 Laughing with tears in my eyes. And my steak is going to be semolina gruel, due to some tummy upset :-\
Mar 15, 2019 1:11:10 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: So sad to hear the news from New Zealand. Boston Strong supports Kiwi Strong!!
Mar 15, 2019 7:46:22 GMT -5
petrushka: I was gobsmacked when I heard. This is just not us. In all of 2017 we had 37 murders in the country ..... I think the echo chambers of "social media" have a lot to answer for.
Mar 15, 2019 18:45:45 GMT -5
baza: Feeling for our Brothers and Sisters across the ditch Brother petrushka .
Mar 15, 2019 19:27:50 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: petrushka, I thought I read the headline wrong (this stuff happens here, not in NZ). It is frightening the hate that is being spread; it makes my heart hurt.
Mar 15, 2019 20:46:54 GMT -5
saarinista: All of us, IMHO, should try to be civil and kind as much as possible in person and online. I actively Tweet (civilly) on political matters and am horrified by the rancor & trolling on both sides of the spectrum, which only inflames unstable people.
Mar 19, 2019 23:21:20 GMT -5