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Post by h on Oct 15, 2018 12:03:38 GMT -5
I would post if I had any.
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Post by tinymouse on Oct 15, 2018 20:39:18 GMT -5
I was visiting friends and went to take a shower. There was a small bottle of lube in their shower.... yeah it made me cry
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Post by flashjohn on Oct 16, 2018 15:43:06 GMT -5
This kind of thing used to bother me as well. But not any more!
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Post by Handy on Oct 16, 2018 15:45:37 GMT -5
There was a small bottle of lube in their shower...
The lube could be for couple sex or solo sex.
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Post by tinymouse on Oct 17, 2018 1:03:14 GMT -5
There was a small bottle of lube in their shower...The lube could be for couple sex or solo sex. I know. But they definitely did not have a sexless marriage like I did at that time
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Post by Handy on Oct 17, 2018 1:05:53 GMT -5
I understand your frustrations being in a sexless marriage, it can take the joy out of a relationship.
Back when sex was a rare event, I bought 3 brands of lube. I had those 3 brands for a long time and used some solo after my W moved to the other bedroom. I had one bottle in my shop so I could pull wires through tight places or where a bunch of wires go into a sleeve type abrasion protection covering. I could have bought wire lube but I try to use what I have on hand. If someone saw the bottle of lube, they might think I was having sex in my shop or using it for self pleasure.
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Post by thebaffledking on Oct 18, 2018 6:27:04 GMT -5
I just want to mention, in regards to the title of this thread, a simple reminder: you have TOTAL control over the adjective that precedes 'existence'. TOTAL CONTROL.
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Post by ironhamster on Oct 18, 2018 11:39:37 GMT -5
One of the precursory events that led to my understanding of just how futile my predicament was, was when the couple leading our church small group divorced. One of the issues was that the husband had no sex drive and his wife did. I had fantasies after that, that we could have started swinging. My images were of loud, animated, and erotic sex acts with the wife, while her husband and my wife sat on the couch surfing Facebook on their smartphones while complaining about how worthless the other was.
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Post by javba on Oct 18, 2018 11:50:40 GMT -5
One of the precursory events that led to my understanding of just how futile my predicament was, was when the couple leading our church small group divorced. One of the issues was that the husband had no sex drive and his wife did. I had fantasies after that, that we could have started swinging. My images were of loud, animated, and erotic sex acts with the wife, while her husband and my wife sat on the couch surfing Facebook on their smartphones while complaining about how worthless the other was. Lovely thought Would have fulfilled the mission of keeping the families together
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Post by saarinista on Nov 15, 2018 15:55:38 GMT -5
One of the precursory events that led to my understanding of just how futile my predicament was, was when the couple leading our church small group divorced. One of the issues was that the husband had no sex drive and his wife did. I had fantasies after that, that we could have started swinging. My images were of loud, animated, and erotic sex acts with the wife, while her husband and my wife sat on the couch surfing Facebook on their smartphones while complaining about how worthless the other was. Lovely thought Would have fulfilled the mission of keeping the families together You know I can't believe how much my mindset has changed on this stuff over the last 1.5 years. Why can't we just come up with alternative solutions to life problems as you suggested javba. Outside the box and societally sanctioned. As I keep thinking, recently the traditional institution of marriage does not necessarily meet the realities of today's life span and other stuff. I still believe marriage and monogamy are great ideas, but they certainly don't work out all the time for everyone for a variety of reasons. Sometimes divorce is the best answer. In other cases, divorce is highly problematic. I wish we could come up more outside the box solutions for those situations - either stopgap or permanent ones. it would be great if churches were more sex positive, too.
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Post by saarinista on Nov 15, 2018 16:02:21 GMT -5
I understand your frustrations being in a sexless marriage, it can take the joy out of a relationship.
Back when sex was a rare event, I bought 3 brands of lube. I had those 3 brands for a long time and used some solo after my W moved to the other bedroom. I had one bottle in my shop so I could pull wires through tight places or where a bunch of wires go into a sleeve type abrasion protection covering. I could have bought wire lube but I try to use what I have on hand. If someone saw the bottle of lube, they might think I was having sex in my shop or using it for self pleasure.
You know what Handy? I think I really AM mechanically inclined especially for a girl! A few years ago, my doctor gave me a few sample packages of lube (which sadly I had to use solo.) I couldn't help thinking as I tested it that it would be an excellent fix for some some of my household repair lubricating needs. 😜 I also thought it might be a great product to smooth down any frizzies when I flat iron my hair. I think it's probably about the same thing as a lot of hair products and household lubricants are made out of-perhaps silicones? Disclaimer! Please do not use products for anything other than what they are marketed. But I'm just saying the textures and everything seemed very similar...😉
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Post by Handy on Nov 15, 2018 20:27:53 GMT -5
Saarinista Pulling wires through a tight place that does NOT get hot was safe in my opinion. Sorry you had to use your lubes solo. BTDT.
From the first post on this thread: A middle-aged woman's head slowly rose up into view as she stared into my headlights with a mischievous look on her face. By the time I got parked, the man's head popped up and it became obvious they were getting it on!..... Out of reverence for what they were doing, I quickly exited the vehicle and kept my eyes down on the pavement as I entered the restaurant. But I was rooting for them on the inside!
I would advise giving them the "thumbs-up" hand gesture. . Yea Thumbs-up and way to go.
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Post by jim44444 on Nov 16, 2018 9:44:34 GMT -5
I understand your frustrations being in a sexless marriage, it can take the joy out of a relationship.
Back when sex was a rare event, I bought 3 brands of lube. I had those 3 brands for a long time and used some solo after my W moved to the other bedroom. I had one bottle in my shop so I could pull wires through tight places or where a bunch of wires go into a sleeve type abrasion protection covering. I could have bought wire lube but I try to use what I have on hand. If someone saw the bottle of lube, they might think I was having sex in my shop or using it for self pleasure.
You know what Handy? I think I really AM mechanically inclined especially for a girl! A few years ago, my doctor gave me a few sample packages of lube (which sadly I had to use solo.) I couldn't help thinking as I tested it that it would be an excellent fix for some some of my household repair lubricating needs. 😜 I also thought it might be a great product to smooth down any frizzies when I flat iron my hair. I think it's probably about the same thing as a lot of hair products and household lubricants are made out of-perhaps silicones? Disclaimer! Please do not use products for anything other than what they are marketed. But I'm just saying the textures and everything seemed very similar...😉 Using personal lubricants for other purposes is doable, just differentiate between the water based and the silicone based. Although it would not be economically feasible since personal lubes are damned expensive compared to trade lubricants.
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Post by elkclan2 on Nov 16, 2018 9:49:04 GMT -5
Right there - this is part of the reason I'm still here. Economic advice on substituting personal lubes for trade lubricants. :-)
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Post by Handy on Nov 16, 2018 13:18:48 GMT -5
I just had one vacuum cleaner wire to route through a tight rubber grommet so the amount of lube was no more than a dab. The wire was not subject to heat or any other harsh environment. I could have just pushed the wire harder through the hole in the rubber grommet but thought why force things, a little dab of lube will make the wire insertion through the rubber grommet much easier. The water based lube was getting old and starting to separate so why not use it before it got thrown out. I didn't have anyone to use it on or with. As a general rule, lube is something you don't accept from someone else once it had been opened, so out it went.
When I used lube with my W, I liked the silicone based lube. It didn't dry out or get sticky and most of the lube wiped off with a tissue.
I work on car electrical systems and plumbing fittings. I use a small amount of silicone grease on the electrical connectors to reduce the potential of corrosion. Automotive computer electrical curcuits are typically 0, 2, 5 or 12 volts and have very little current/amp flow so a small amount of resistance in the circuit can make the computer not function properly.
There is a silicone "plumber's grease" I use that I like and it last a long time. I also use "anti-seize" paste on plumbing fittings that typically corrode without the anti-seize past being applied. Without the "anti-seize" paste, there are things that do not come apart without damaging the component.
I also used silicone on many pre 1990 copiers and laser printers.
To me the silicone only looked different in how viscous it was but I am not a chemist so don't rely on my observations about the suitability of silicone for any particular application.
For any sexual play, I will use a silicone based lube if I had my druthers.
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