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Post by Handy on Sept 28, 2018 21:04:43 GMT -5
I gained weight for two reasons. One was a work related change to a less active job and two was eating to fill a longing or counteract my frustrations.
I lost 25lbs a couple of times but it all came back. Anti depressants helped me to not feel so frustrated but there were other things that also got me to feel I didn't care about some other important things. I decided anti depressants were not going to fix anything so I tapered myself off of them.
I don't eat very much junk but sometimes I feel hungrier after I eat than before I started. After I eat, it takes 2 hrs to feel satisfied so I try to remember that and just quit eating.
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Post by choosinghappy on Sept 28, 2018 21:32:55 GMT -5
Yes.
For me, an SM meant depression which meant eating as self-soothing/to fill a hole.
There was also an element of: “if I’m overweight then it makes sense why he wouldn’t desire me”.
What is interesting though, is I felt ugly and undesirable when in my SM yet, even at the same weight (overweight), I both outsourced and felt sexy and desirable and still feel that way now, when out of my SM.
I have been overweight for most of my life so I can’t blame extra weight on just the SM but I do know it had a negative effect on my self-esteem, habits, and libido. When I am at a healthier weight my libido skyrockets. That was a convenient excuse for me not to put the work in over the years to lose weight since I didn’t want to be even hornier and more sexually frustrated than I already was.
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Post by javba on Sept 28, 2018 21:41:23 GMT -5
Massively over the last 2 years But I'm working on it
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Post by Deleted on Sept 28, 2018 22:09:16 GMT -5
During the many years that I felt stuck, I definitely struggled with my weight and overeating. However, once I decided to take agency over my relationship and life, I also took control of my health and my weight. That was about 2.5 years ago.
I am now, at age 46, in the best shape of my life and have become a gym rat. It’s a lifestyle and a habit for me now. The gym comes first. Doesn’t hurt that at my gym, it’s mostly men and I get to practice my flirting skills. I meet a new man every few weeks and have amassed a handful of new guy friends. It’s fun!!! And I feel better than I’ve felt in years. I honestly feel about 25 years old. I have no reason to ever quit.
Now that I’m out, I see no reason to move backward. It’s only up from here!
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Post by johannesfactotum on Sept 28, 2018 22:39:46 GMT -5
I've always been pretty fit and healthy and have been since I was in the military. My weight hasn't fluctuated more than a few pounds over the last 25 years and I can still wear clothes and uniforms I used to wear in the 90s. As a physician, I feel obligated to practice what I preach to patients in terms of diet, exercise, and fitness.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 28, 2018 22:49:33 GMT -5
As a physician, I feel obligated to practice what I preach to patients in terms of diet, exercise, and fitness. I can’t resist saying that you’d be one of the few who take this seriously. I’m also in healthcare and feel it is my obligation to be fit and healthy for my patients. First of all, they’re not going to take my nutrition or exercise advice if I don’t walk the talk. And second, I need to stay strong so I can safely and efficiently transfer my patients. However, this is not necessarily the view of most healthcare professionals. Sadly, I see lots of overweight doctors, nurses, and therapists walking around. Ok, back on topic! SM bod - a post script: I noticed that my ex, who was always fit, is now sporting the beginnings of a beer belly. This is new over the last 2 years. It seems while I got fitter, he got fatter. Not sure what’s up with that. And don’t really care either!
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Post by tiredofbeinglonely on Sept 28, 2018 23:51:27 GMT -5
As a physician, I feel obligated to practice what I preach to patients in terms of diet, exercise, and fitness. I can’t resist saying that you’d be one of the few who take this seriously. I’m also in healthcare and feel it is my obligation to be fit and healthy for my patients. First of all, they’re not going to take my nutrition or exercise advice if I don’t walk the talk. And second, I need to stay strong so I can safely and efficiently transfer my patients. However, this is not necessarily the view of most healthcare professionals. Sadly, I see lots of overweight doctors, nurses, and therapists walking around. Ok, back on topic! SM bod - a post script: I noticed that my ex, who was always fit, is now sporting the beginnings of a beer belly. This is new over the last 2 years. It seems while I got fitter, he got fatter. Not sure what’s up with that. And don’t really care either! Was an overweight nurse. I may not have been sending the best message, but I always took care of my patients safely. Not fat anymore. I actually go and give weight loss talks to our inpatient population. It has been very rewarding
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Post by ironhamster on Sept 29, 2018 0:45:34 GMT -5
My body had no correlation with my marriage. I was in shape and out of shape based on how things were at work. When I had a desk job, I was in the worst shape of my life. When my job was physically demanding, I was in good shape. When I started working out at the gym, not only did I get into better shape but I got a lot of positive attention.
Right now, I need to make some changes again. My new job does not have the physical challenges that the old one did, a minor sports injury is holding me back from activities, and I am really enjoying cooking. That is three really bad things for my weight. Since the injury, I've put on twenty pounds, and I am trying to hold the line there.
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Post by solodriver on Sept 29, 2018 0:47:50 GMT -5
My weight has ballooned over the years and I didn't care either since I wasn't having sex. But now I'm working on getting the weight off and it's working. I think I will be a better sex partner if I'm at a healthier weight. I want that more than anything.
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Post by flounder on Sept 29, 2018 5:37:38 GMT -5
My weight has ballooned over the years and I didn't care either since I wasn't having sex. But now I'm working on getting the weight off and it's working. I think I will be a better sex partner if I'm at a healthier weight. I want that more than anything. Lose the weight for your health and well being. Now,the perks that go along with it.......
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Post by muzack on Oct 8, 2018 21:32:04 GMT -5
I was keeping pace for an extra 1-2 lb per year. I don't attribute it to SM, more the typical pattern of metabolism changing while the eating habits don't. My dad had a heart attack three years ago (1st instance of heart attack in several generations of the family). I made it a priority to hit the gym twice a week and eat better. Since then I have lost 15 lbs off the scale and gained a decent amount of muscle. If I lose another 5 lbs, I expect to call that "far enough".
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Post by lifeinwoodinville on Oct 8, 2018 23:18:03 GMT -5
Oh boy! I ride the weight rollercoaster like a pro. In the past ten years I have weighed as little as 162 and as much as 230, currently I am hovering around 195. I don't think my sexless marriage had any influence on my weight, I think it's mostly environmental and Parkinson's related. Animal protein delays the absorption of my Parkinson's meds so I'm leaning more towards a vegetarian diet these days.
My wife also rides the weight rollercoaster too, however since the birth of our last child eight and a half years ago, her rollercoaster seems to only be going up. If I had to guess her weight I would say she is somewhere in the 250 to 270 range. She hates her body and I am certain that plays a role in her "lack of interest".
It's a real shame that my wife cannot get past her weight issues, I would love to show her how much I appreciate her big ass!
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Post by tiredoftears on Oct 9, 2018 0:47:40 GMT -5
Oh, weight gain, big time! Never diminished my libido, though. I'd hoped if I got fat, I wouldn't want it as much.... or something like that. Didn't work. Gained a LOT of weight. A lot. However, many kinksters I've met don't care. Some prefer it. I'm still cute in the face, and many have told me I have an "innocent" look that makes the fact I'm kibkyyand in a sexless relationship outsourcing even more of a turn on.
I'll lose weight eventually, but it's going to be a big lifestyle change, and it would be easier when the baby is a bit older, and can help with some chores, instead of I put chores off because I'm too stressed about him getting into everything. Lol.
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Post by solodriver on Oct 9, 2018 0:56:05 GMT -5
Oh, weight gain, big time! Never diminished my libido, though. I'd hoped if I got fat, I wouldn't want it as much.... or something like that. Didn't work. Gained a LOT of weight. A lot. However, many kinksters I've met don't care. Some prefer it. I'm still cute in the face, and many have told me I have an "innocent" look that makes the fact I'm kibkyyand in a sexless relationship outsourcing even more of a turn on. I'll lose weight eventually, but it's going to be a big lifestyle change, and it would be easier when the baby is a bit older, and can help with some chores, instead of I put chores off because I'm too stressed about him getting into everything. Lol. Well I have to admit I have always loved BBWs.
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Post by flashjohn on Oct 9, 2018 10:46:58 GMT -5
I started putting on weight soon after the wedding. In the pictures of me on the honeymoon, I look so miserable because I was not having sex like I was told I would be.
I got really heavy for several years, but now I weigh less than I did when I got married in 1988. I feel much better also.
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