choosinghappy no sex after the kid is born, was that a Madonna-whore situation?
Madonna-whore is when the H will have sex with his GF or W but not after the kid is born because a mother is too holy to to have sex with. The mother = the Madonna, too sacred to defile with sex. A few women also had a similar problem, they didn't think there H was a sexual being, just a dad.
My ex remembered. When we were in therapy he was the one who came right out and said that we hadn’t had sex since conceiving our son. He acknowledged it was a problem, HIS problem, and that he knew that that was why I was so unhappy. It was sad to sit there and hear him acknowledge the problem but also that he didn’t feel capable of fixing it. There was no denial in our marriage, just no way he could see that he would desire sex or intimacy with me. He didn’t say that in so many words but that was the gist. Sobering as hell.
At the time it did nyctos. But I was already hurting and in a way it was cleansing to hear him “admit” things. And in the end it turned out to be a very good thing because I received clarity on my situation, which many here do not: I knew it would be very difficult for him, if not impossible, to make progress in this way and for our marriage to improve. It was almost a gift because the lack of doubt made my decision easier.
At the time it did nyctos . But I was already hurting and in a way it was cleansing to hear him “admit” things. And in the end it turned out to be a very good thing because I received clarity on my situation, which many here do not: I knew it would be very difficult for him, if not impossible, to make progress in this way and for our marriage to improve. It was almost a gift because the lack of doubt made my decision easier.
some of our spouses "admit' to things, without saying "yes it's true". Instead they say"so? I don't have a problem with it". They like it that way, and you're supposed to accept that ,and they just don't want to ever admit that there is any problem at all with them, it's all you!
Once you finally realize that, the doubt goes away, and the decision to end things gets easier.
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petrushka: Just saw the forecast for Mildura at 47C -- I hope you and Ms. Enna are going to be ok Baz. That's getting dangerous.
Jan 24, 2019 20:10:00 GMT -5
lifeinwoodinville: I last heard from mrslowmaintenance about a month ago. I have been in regular contact with her for the last year and a half. I feel comfortable in saying that her situation remains unchanged. If you want to know more PM me.
Jan 25, 2019 22:36:50 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey baza,...I know it's hot and dry down under. N.C. is having record rainfall. I would gladly trade some rain for some sunshine....
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Mar 14, 2019 16:49:49 GMT -5
petrushka: tamara68 Laughing with tears in my eyes. And my steak is going to be semolina gruel, due to some tummy upset :-\
Mar 15, 2019 1:11:10 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: So sad to hear the news from New Zealand. Boston Strong supports Kiwi Strong!!
Mar 15, 2019 7:46:22 GMT -5
petrushka: I was gobsmacked when I heard. This is just not us. In all of 2017 we had 37 murders in the country ..... I think the echo chambers of "social media" have a lot to answer for.
Mar 15, 2019 18:45:45 GMT -5
baza: Feeling for our Brothers and Sisters across the ditch Brother petrushka .
Mar 15, 2019 19:27:50 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: petrushka, I thought I read the headline wrong (this stuff happens here, not in NZ). It is frightening the hate that is being spread; it makes my heart hurt.
Mar 15, 2019 20:46:54 GMT -5
saarinista: All of us, IMHO, should try to be civil and kind as much as possible in person and online. I actively Tweet (civilly) on political matters and am horrified by the rancor & trolling on both sides of the spectrum, which only inflames unstable people.
Mar 19, 2019 23:21:20 GMT -5
saarinista: is anyone else watching March Madness?
Mar 24, 2019 11:44:48 GMT -5
worksforme2: doesn't much look like it...
Mar 27, 2019 12:20:10 GMT -5
saarinista: Well, my team is going to the Final Four! I am beyond thrilled. Basketball is life.
Apr 1, 2019 0:47:14 GMT -5
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Apr 1, 2019 15:38:34 GMT -5
wewbwb: Or, maybe baseball season started . . .
Apr 2, 2019 5:27:34 GMT -5
flashjohn: saarinista, my alma mater, Texas Tech, is also in the final four.
Apr 3, 2019 14:59:01 GMT -5
saarinista: : flashjohn Ruh, roh. Then we have to be mortal enemies for the weekend because I went to MSU!
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