The bandage, well most are about to come off anyway so it isn't fast or slow.
hell no to cold pools! What’s the point? And... shrinkage!
I an not concerned with shrinkage. I used to recover fast but now take a little while.
One of my jobs was to go out in -20f weather and start cars or tow them to the garage where I worked. I had my fill of cold and wet so I try to avoid it. If I am out on a bike ride and get wet, that too leaves me with "why bother with cold water voluntary."
Among many religious Jews, dating for fun is discouraged. One only starts dating when ready to get married. And although in my day it wasn't as prevalent, nowadays most of these dates are arranged by matchmakers.
So these dates are somewhat formal. The guy dresses up and goes to the girl's house and meets the parents first. The dates are usually to places where the couple can talk, so often a restaurant or coffee shop....or hotel lobby. The talk is oriented towards figuring out if the other is good spouse material.
It is still possible to have fun. My now married kids went on dates that included archery and animatronic dinosaurs. But still formal.
For the first couple of dates, the couple doesn't even talk on the phone directly, all communication is through the matchmaker... whether they want to meet again.
Things are a little less formal for the more modern variants of Orthodox Judaism and more formal for those more traditional.
Eventually the couple breaks up or gets engaged.
That's pretty much it. Sort of bizarre, but surprisingly successful for most who share the same values to begin with.
Thanks for the explanation, this is very interesting, and not an approach I am familiar with. I have a few Jewish friends and co- workers who appear to have gone about things in a conventional way. I am sure this method produces as many successful and unsuccessful matches as any other. I have a friend who argues vociferously that dating apps are simply digital matchmakers and suggests that this proves that society is regressing rather than progressing. I’m unconvinced.
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frednsa: i saw something on the wedding night (in the 60's) should have ended it during the honeymoon. i was played so perfectly. she is so wonderful in almost every other way, so...still wondering...thinking frigidity is a real thing and untreatable
Aug 29, 2019 12:07:04 GMT -5
worksforme2: Tomorrow is Labor Day 2019, no big plans for the day....thinking seriously of going commando
Sept 1, 2019 11:37:07 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey ironhamster...I just saw your picture on another site and your head wasn't covered. You actually look better without the bandana....
Sept 2, 2019 11:54:55 GMT -5
javba: Dunno Iron Hamster - I have not seen your other photo - I think you ROCK anyways.
Sept 4, 2019 10:11:42 GMT -5