The bandage, well most are about to come off anyway so it isn't fast or slow.
hell no to cold pools! What’s the point? And... shrinkage!
I an not concerned with shrinkage. I used to recover fast but now take a little while.
One of my jobs was to go out in -20f weather and start cars or tow them to the garage where I worked. I had my fill of cold and wet so I try to avoid it. If I am out on a bike ride and get wet, that too leaves me with "why bother with cold water voluntary."
Among many religious Jews, dating for fun is discouraged. One only starts dating when ready to get married. And although in my day it wasn't as prevalent, nowadays most of these dates are arranged by matchmakers.
So these dates are somewhat formal. The guy dresses up and goes to the girl's house and meets the parents first. The dates are usually to places where the couple can talk, so often a restaurant or coffee shop....or hotel lobby. The talk is oriented towards figuring out if the other is good spouse material.
It is still possible to have fun. My now married kids went on dates that included archery and animatronic dinosaurs. But still formal.
For the first couple of dates, the couple doesn't even talk on the phone directly, all communication is through the matchmaker... whether they want to meet again.
Things are a little less formal for the more modern variants of Orthodox Judaism and more formal for those more traditional.
Eventually the couple breaks up or gets engaged.
That's pretty much it. Sort of bizarre, but surprisingly successful for most who share the same values to begin with.
Thanks for the explanation, this is very interesting, and not an approach I am familiar with. I have a few Jewish friends and co- workers who appear to have gone about things in a conventional way. I am sure this method produces as many successful and unsuccessful matches as any other. I have a friend who argues vociferously that dating apps are simply digital matchmakers and suggests that this proves that society is regressing rather than progressing. I’m unconvinced.
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Not a vacation but yesterday I went to a mid-scale place for lunch, alone, again.
No use being upset. That is the way it is and I am not going to change my W.
I was given a $50 gift card for Applebee's and I decided not to share it with my roommate. So I went by myself a few weeks ago and still have 1 or 2 more meals on it. You're exactly right, nothing's going to change and neither is my wife. The last few times we went out together to eat, she just played with her iPad or iPhone the whole entire meal with no conversation.
I also have another meal card for $50 that I will go by myself and not share with her either.
It’s hard to continue to love someone romantically who doesn’t love you back in the way you need to feel like a whole person.
solodriver ....she just played with her iPad or iPhone the whole entire meal with no conversation.
That is really disconnected behavior because I hear people complain about people that are glued to their electronic devices when doing things that are considered social events. It seems us older folks dislike the electronic intrusion more than the younger folks.
I don't mean to upset anyone belief system but I watched a couple creation-intelligent design VS big-bang and natural selection-evolution videos. My W doesn't like those things and to her they are depressing.
My W has her daily devotion books and today's article was depicting how cruel animals are, where one animal eats another animal to survive and comparing the love for fellow man as written about in her devotional litature, as a much better thing to think about, as more enlightening.
On one level, the daily devotion was slamming Charles Darwin and suggesting being happy with God's love. My W was trying to get me to read her devotional books and quit watching and reading about what I consider "how the universe works."
She seems upset with the Darwin's writings, upset with the expanding universe and the what is called "The Big bang" and that I don't buy the idea the Earth is 6K years old.
Bottom line is nothing romantic is going to happen between us, it will be distant roomies at best, so why not just go for what I believe to be the truth instead of some writings where everything is all laid out nice and neat in one book?
I said people can be kind to others without a carrot or a stick, just because it leads to a better life style for all, or it would if more people lived that way.
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petrushka: In my world view, you are buying into some really shitty memes there.
Nov 5, 2019 17:25:20 GMT -5
apocrypha: The "feminist agenda" has changed across the past 60 years. Some feminists of the 60's call the current iteration "fainting couch feminism", thinking it a subversion and betrayal of women's lib. Hard to get a bead on what folks think, using a broad label.
Nov 8, 2019 9:37:14 GMT -5
apocrypha: No aspect of that article (which I amount to a magazine offering bad diet advice) promotes rape, coercion (beyond seduction), sexual assault, and I don't understand your public performance suggesting that they would be and thus implicating bfar.
Nov 8, 2019 9:41:51 GMT -5
mirrororchid: pfar, being sensitive means understanding how others think and feel. It doesn't mean you are compelled to adopt their thoughts and feelings. This is a matter of understanding people including loved ones. If you aren't sensitive, you lack tools to
Nov 11, 2019 8:09:49 GMT -5
mirrororchid: live well. You need not soften, but you should be able to understand vulnerability. Recognizing others' distress provides me with cues when I need to use self-control or extend help. If you're strong, you should be helping others. Use what works.
Nov 11, 2019 8:14:06 GMT -5
worksforme2: You know who I miss ...I miss smartkat and andie..and snowman 12345
Nov 14, 2019 9:16:44 GMT -5