You're right about there being work to be done on ourselves once out of an ILIASM deal Sister choosinghappy . Ms enna and I used to call it "un-learning". Unlearning all sorts of unhelpful thinking patterns and responses that our ILIASM deals had taught us.
In many ways this work is even more difficult than the work done whilst in the ILIASM situation, because it is no longer a theory, and needs to be put into practice.
Those 5 points you quote look like an excellent starting point.
I like this! It’s becoming obvious to me that I’ll need to work on boundaries before venturing into love again. I think it will be a while before I’m ready. Hoping that friendship and sex would be on the table as more immediate options tho. 😉
misssunnybunny: I'm also very sad to see that andie is gone
Oct 22, 2018 16:25:07 GMT -5
jim44444: hmisssunnybunny not only did andie delete her existence here she also deleted her tumblr account. Maybe her hubby found her online postings.
Oct 22, 2018 19:52:59 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Oh, no! Hope she is okay...
Oct 22, 2018 20:00:25 GMT -5
solodriver: I'm sad andie is gone too. She reached out to me when I first joined the group at a time when I was really sick, and talked to me everyday until I was well again and shared a lot of her stories with me.
Oct 22, 2018 20:58:28 GMT -5
isthisit: Apologies for being a techno numpty- can anyone help me to send a PM? When I choose the member as a recipient the error message indicating a staff member is required. Eh?
Nov 6, 2018 15:03:40 GMT -5
solodriver: isthisit you cannot send PMs until your membership changes to member
Nov 6, 2018 21:41:58 GMT -5
isthisit: Thanks solodriver and shynjdude for your replies. Is there some info somewhere about these divisions? I have had a mooch around and haven't come across it yet.
Nov 8, 2018 10:22:28 GMT -5
solodriver: I think it is/was under the Welcome tab, but not sure where.
Nov 8, 2018 21:52:19 GMT -5