You're right about there being work to be done on ourselves once out of an ILIASM deal Sister choosinghappy . Ms enna and I used to call it "un-learning". Unlearning all sorts of unhelpful thinking patterns and responses that our ILIASM deals had taught us.
In many ways this work is even more difficult than the work done whilst in the ILIASM situation, because it is no longer a theory, and needs to be put into practice.
Those 5 points you quote look like an excellent starting point.
I like this! It’s becoming obvious to me that I’ll need to work on boundaries before venturing into love again. I think it will be a while before I’m ready. Hoping that friendship and sex would be on the table as more immediate options tho. 😉
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handy: Cutiecakes, I see you posted on another forum. How about copying that other post and place it here. It hase some very relevant information and I think this forum will be of more help.
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worksforme2: Watching the funeral....RIP George Herbert Walker Bush
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worksforme2: Man oh man, look at all that snow. Looks like snow cream is going to be on the menu today.
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