There was a death in my town,a suicide, of a father of three who was my age. I knew him -- he was the first person to welcome me to the town at a back-you-school night. My oldest was in the same class as his daughter.
There's not much being given out on possible reasons he may have done it, and this makes me wonder if he had been living in an SM. I could have at least commiserated with him.
It also makes me wonder how many of us actually know who each other are IRL. As of now, no one here knows my identity, so if anything were to happen to me I'd simply fall silent, only to live on in posts saying is joined and then become inactive.
Post by greatcoastal on Aug 22, 2018 13:39:04 GMT -5
Sorry for your loss, and for the three children.
If I was to pass away I did have thoughts way,way, in the back of my mind, that I have told a few of my close friends that I use this sight. I would hope my teenage children would go on my computer and inform this sight, facebook, or any others of the news. My phone is loaded with names too. I would do the same for them.
This does cross my own mind because I’ve made no friends here in the 3-years I’ve lived in this new city/State. There would only be one person at my funeral, and it bothers me that my eldest child would have to bear this alone. He has no idea of my online presence, so I’d just disappear. Never thought my life would turn out like it has, but I suppose I’m not alone in this.
This is a downside of online anonymity, someone could drop dead and the online friends would not know. I have a few here that know me IRL. Plus I am FB friends with birdie39, so she could come back and post a notice.
"I believe everything happens for a reason, sometimes the reason is you're stupid and make bad decisions." Greeneyedlady72
If you get a chance Brother jim44444 , pass on my regards to birdy. Her run of stories from "everythings great bar the sex" to "out" on EP was a terrific journal. And was compressed into one of the shortest time frames seen in the group. My recollection is that it was about a 4 month process.
nyctos I'm very sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to his family and your community.
Why a person takes their own life, even if they leave a note, is unknown to the survivors. We trudge through the stages of grief trying to process what the fuck happened. The what-ifs can drive us nuts. I greatly admired Anthony Bourdain and his suicide affected me more than a normal celebrity. I always thought he was on top of his game, and his insight into the world's cultures helped me deepen my own understanding. We just never know what lurks beneath the surface.
This the "Shoutbox" -- basically a site-wide, group chat. (It's only visible to members.)
petrushka: I was gobsmacked when I heard. This is just not us. In all of 2017 we had 37 murders in the country ..... I think the echo chambers of "social media" have a lot to answer for.
Mar 15, 2019 18:45:45 GMT -5
baza: Feeling for our Brothers and Sisters across the ditch Brother petrushka .
Mar 15, 2019 19:27:50 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: petrushka, I thought I read the headline wrong (this stuff happens here, not in NZ). It is frightening the hate that is being spread; it makes my heart hurt.
Mar 15, 2019 20:46:54 GMT -5
saarinista: All of us, IMHO, should try to be civil and kind as much as possible in person and online. I actively Tweet (civilly) on political matters and am horrified by the rancor & trolling on both sides of the spectrum, which only inflames unstable people.
Mar 19, 2019 23:21:20 GMT -5
saarinista: is anyone else watching March Madness?
Mar 24, 2019 11:44:48 GMT -5
worksforme2: doesn't much look like it...
Mar 27, 2019 12:20:10 GMT -5
saarinista: Well, my team is going to the Final Four! I am beyond thrilled. Basketball is life.
Apr 1, 2019 0:47:14 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Congrats! Yay! I don't know how many people see the shout box, I don't think it shows up not he mobile version of the site. Maybe post something in the Off Topic section and more folks may see it?
Apr 1, 2019 15:38:34 GMT -5
wewbwb: Or, maybe baseball season started . . .
Apr 2, 2019 5:27:34 GMT -5
flashjohn: saarinista, my alma mater, Texas Tech, is also in the final four.
Apr 3, 2019 14:59:01 GMT -5
saarinista: : flashjohn Ruh, roh. Then we have to be mortal enemies for the weekend because I went to MSU!
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worksforme2: The add attachment says a max of 1mb...I see plenty of videos that are way longer than that...how do I do that? My video is 4.97 mbs
Apr 25, 2019 20:10:25 GMT -5
h: The videos posted aren't attached. They are links to videos outside the site.
Apr 26, 2019 14:09:04 GMT -5
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noregretz: You can never outrun a Grizzly bear, but that's ok. You only have to outrun the person you're with....
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solodriver: or in this case your refuser.
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