Post by solodriver on Sept 8, 2018 12:15:06 GMT -5
Yes! I've worked through the denial I had about my SM situation and faced it with the reality of what my relationship has been and what it will always be. And the only way for me to have what I need is to change ME. No amount of talking to my refuser spouse has made any difference. I had to face the painful reality, that although in the past she loved me, she no longer does and hasn't for a very long time. I've learned that marriage doesn't mean the person you married will always love you, even though that's what they promised to do. That is a very painful reality to have to deal with. But once you do accept that reality, you can move forward with what you need to do to get what you need and not accept what you currently have.
Last Edit: Sept 8, 2018 12:16:48 GMT -5 by solodriver
choosinghappy: Hope you had a great birthday h!
Sept 1, 2018 21:19:34 GMT -5
mrrobot: Hi guys, I don't know if this community is still active - if so, I posted a thread at the forum if anyone could give me some light I'd be really thankful! Cheers
Sept 2, 2018 7:48:17 GMT -5
georgia: Hi...I’ve just joined the group. And I simply need a place to vent and hopefully receive some help dealing with my utterly sexless marriage. After 15 years of marriage our sex life has dwindled to nada, zero, nothing.
Sept 3, 2018 14:48:18 GMT -5
kh: why even marry someone with a high libido if you hate sex
Sept 4, 2018 4:28:42 GMT -5
javba: kh - fast forward 2 kids and 20 years later I have not resolved the problem you're looking at. Now I have cracked 51 yrs, have lesser chances of finding someone, not as market-able. You may want to reconsider "child is 8 mon old" with a 50% divorce rate
Sept 4, 2018 10:07:57 GMT -5
DryCreek: mrrobot, georgia, kh - welcome! I see a couple of you have posted your stories in the forum. I think not a lot of folks use this chat because you can only see it on laptops, not on phones. georgia, please do post your story and vent here. We get it.
Sept 6, 2018 10:29:43 GMT -5