Post by solodriver on Sept 8, 2018 12:15:06 GMT -5
Yes! I've worked through the denial I had about my SM situation and faced it with the reality of what my relationship has been and what it will always be. And the only way for me to have what I need is to change ME. No amount of talking to my refuser spouse has made any difference. I had to face the painful reality, that although in the past she loved me, she no longer does and hasn't for a very long time. I've learned that marriage doesn't mean the person you married will always love you, even though that's what they promised to do. That is a very painful reality to have to deal with. But once you do accept that reality, you can move forward with what you need to do to get what you need and not accept what you currently have.
Last Edit: Sept 8, 2018 12:16:48 GMT -5 by solodriver
misssunnybunny: I'm also very sad to see that andie is gone
Oct 22, 2018 16:25:07 GMT -5
jim44444: hmisssunnybunny not only did andie delete her existence here she also deleted her tumblr account. Maybe her hubby found her online postings.
Oct 22, 2018 19:52:59 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Oh, no! Hope she is okay...
Oct 22, 2018 20:00:25 GMT -5
solodriver: I'm sad andie is gone too. She reached out to me when I first joined the group at a time when I was really sick, and talked to me everyday until I was well again and shared a lot of her stories with me.
Oct 22, 2018 20:58:28 GMT -5
isthisit: Apologies for being a techno numpty- can anyone help me to send a PM? When I choose the member as a recipient the error message indicating a staff member is required. Eh?
Nov 6, 2018 15:03:40 GMT -5
solodriver: isthisit you cannot send PMs until your membership changes to member
Nov 6, 2018 21:41:58 GMT -5
isthisit: Thanks solodriver and shynjdude for your replies. Is there some info somewhere about these divisions? I have had a mooch around and haven't come across it yet.
Nov 8, 2018 10:22:28 GMT -5
solodriver: I think it is/was under the Welcome tab, but not sure where.
Nov 8, 2018 21:52:19 GMT -5