Post by solodriver on Sept 8, 2018 12:15:06 GMT -5
Yes! I've worked through the denial I had about my SM situation and faced it with the reality of what my relationship has been and what it will always be. And the only way for me to have what I need is to change ME. No amount of talking to my refuser spouse has made any difference. I had to face the painful reality, that although in the past she loved me, she no longer does and hasn't for a very long time. I've learned that marriage doesn't mean the person you married will always love you, even though that's what they promised to do. That is a very painful reality to have to deal with. But once you do accept that reality, you can move forward with what you need to do to get what you need and not accept what you currently have.
Last Edit: Sept 8, 2018 12:16:48 GMT -5 by solodriver
It’s hard to continue to love someone romantically who doesn’t love you back in the way you need to feel like a whole person.
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