This message board -- "Choosing To Stay" -- is for posts focusing on the challenges of staying in a sexless marriage and for the support of those specifically endeavoring to do just that. Anyone who posts here must respect that this is a valid choice for anyone dealing with an SM.
Thus the "rules" for this board are pretty simple:
If you are in an SM and choosing to staying in the marriage, you may post here. Post your questions, advice, struggles, and -- we hope to hear -- your successes.
If that isn’t you, but you are willing to give earnest, supportive advice, you may post here.
If that isn’t you and you aren’t willing to be supportive… consider replying to other posts in other boards in the ILIASM forum.
Note that "being supportive" may take the form of "encouraging someone to stay in the marriage because that is their stated goal", but it may occasionally take the form of "encouraging someone to consider what is really best for the individual" (even if it is at odds with supporting the marriage, per se).
We expect a respectful decorum EVERYWHERE on this forum, and in that sense the rules are no different here. If you feel someone is missing the mark on "supportive" or "respectful", you may either respectfully attempt to point this out on the thread, or use the "Report Post" menu option to flag a post for review by the moderators.
solodriver: Happy Birthday shamwow!!
Oct 11, 2018 20:35:02 GMT -5
shynjdude: Andie seems to have deleted her account here. Hope she's OK.
Oct 12, 2018 9:41:52 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Oh, no! I hope she is okay...
Oct 12, 2018 15:31:30 GMT -5
solodriver: Maybe over what happened last weekend with the discussion board men vs. women
Oct 12, 2018 20:42:13 GMT -5
jetcity: Had to have my cat put down today. He was very old and he let us know it was time this morning. My wife went to visit her mother today So now It’s just me, the cats and dog and a couple cold beers. Now that’s a party right?
Oct 12, 2018 21:57:32 GMT -5
solodriver: So sorry jetcity, I've done that many times over the years, never gets any easier.
Oct 12, 2018 22:45:20 GMT -5
jetcity: I managed to create an avatar! The beard and mustache are kind of funky though.
Oct 12, 2018 23:30:07 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Welcome, dontstart! Feel free to post in the introduction thread; not many people see/use the shout box. Read and explore here, and hope you find us a helpful community.
Oct 14, 2018 10:41:21 GMT -5
caballotierra: Hey all, I setup a new account since my W figured out my login and was using my posts against me. Since we're going through divorce, I thought it would be safer to remove my old name. Although I feel attached to it.
Oct 15, 2018 16:12:30 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Oh, wow. Sorry that happened to you!
Oct 15, 2018 16:36:32 GMT -5
caballotierra: Does anyone know how to delete my old account? Right now, it's still searchable, which is a problem.
Oct 16, 2018 12:12:19 GMT -5
h: @andie left us ☹️ No more Grammar Queen.
Oct 22, 2018 12:15:27 GMT -5