Post by workingonit on Aug 1, 2018 19:53:46 GMT -5
Oh yes, so very many. Obviously none have worked. Over the years I would find a new one and get really into it and then nothing would change. Rinse, repeat. I have really enjoyed listening to Esther Perel's podcast though. She is really great and the podcast works with lots of sexless couples. Very powerful. I have not read her book yet but heard great things. She is extraordinary.
Like Sister workingonit I was an outright devourer of such literature back in the day. And, in just about every one there was "something" of value even if a helluva lot of the content was garbage. I learned an absolute heap about dud marriages and assorted related matters. So from that 'gaining knowledge' perspective these various books etc were really really valuable. To me. But I would have to say that the exercise had no discernable effect on my ILASM deal...although I did *understand* it a bit better. As far as being an agent for change, it was a complete non-event. I don't regard it as wasted effort however, as I learned a lot.
So Brother @lostsoul , my suggestion is - every time you see such a book, podcast etc, read it, watch it, devour it. It will add to your knowledge. And that's a worthwhile outcome all by itself.
As far as doing much about your ILIASM shithole, keep your expectations real low. REAL low. Because if you are the only one doing the research, that alone can not get "the marriage" very far.
misssunnybunny: You're welcome! So glad to hear you had a great day
Jan 19, 2019 16:34:01 GMT -5
worksforme2: anyone hear anything lately from mrslowmaintenance or smartkat?
Jan 24, 2019 18:06:02 GMT -5
petrushka: Just saw the forecast for Mildura at 47C -- I hope you and Ms. Enna are going to be ok Baz. That's getting dangerous.
Jan 24, 2019 20:10:00 GMT -5
lifeinwoodinville: I last heard from mrslowmaintenance about a month ago. I have been in regular contact with her for the last year and a half. I feel comfortable in saying that her situation remains unchanged. If you want to know more PM me.
Jan 25, 2019 22:36:50 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey baza,...I know it's hot and dry down under. N.C. is having record rainfall. I would gladly trade some rain for some sunshine....
Feb 22, 2019 20:28:35 GMT -5
tamara68: Today it's steak and blowjob day! I suppose the steak is for those who don't get a blowjob.
Mar 14, 2019 16:49:49 GMT -5
petrushka: tamara68 Laughing with tears in my eyes. And my steak is going to be semolina gruel, due to some tummy upset :-\
Mar 15, 2019 1:11:10 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: So sad to hear the news from New Zealand. Boston Strong supports Kiwi Strong!!
Mar 15, 2019 7:46:22 GMT -5
petrushka: I was gobsmacked when I heard. This is just not us. In all of 2017 we had 37 murders in the country ..... I think the echo chambers of "social media" have a lot to answer for.
Mar 15, 2019 18:45:45 GMT -5
baza: Feeling for our Brothers and Sisters across the ditch Brother petrushka .
Mar 15, 2019 19:27:50 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: petrushka, I thought I read the headline wrong (this stuff happens here, not in NZ). It is frightening the hate that is being spread; it makes my heart hurt.
Mar 15, 2019 20:46:54 GMT -5
saarinista: All of us, IMHO, should try to be civil and kind as much as possible in person and online. I actively Tweet (civilly) on political matters and am horrified by the rancor & trolling on both sides of the spectrum, which only inflames unstable people.
Mar 19, 2019 23:21:20 GMT -5