Post by workingonit on Aug 1, 2018 19:53:46 GMT -5
Oh yes, so very many. Obviously none have worked. Over the years I would find a new one and get really into it and then nothing would change. Rinse, repeat. I have really enjoyed listening to Esther Perel's podcast though. She is really great and the podcast works with lots of sexless couples. Very powerful. I have not read her book yet but heard great things. She is extraordinary.
Like Sister workingonit I was an outright devourer of such literature back in the day. And, in just about every one there was "something" of value even if a helluva lot of the content was garbage. I learned an absolute heap about dud marriages and assorted related matters. So from that 'gaining knowledge' perspective these various books etc were really really valuable. To me. But I would have to say that the exercise had no discernable effect on my ILASM deal...although I did *understand* it a bit better. As far as being an agent for change, it was a complete non-event. I don't regard it as wasted effort however, as I learned a lot.
So Brother lostsoul , my suggestion is - every time you see such a book, podcast etc, read it, watch it, devour it. It will add to your knowledge. And that's a worthwhile outcome all by itself.
As far as doing much about your ILIASM shithole, keep your expectations real low. REAL low. Because if you are the only one doing the research, that alone can not get "the marriage" very far.
worksforme2: hey nancyb, how are things perkolating with the older gentleman you spoke of a while back?
Jul 28, 2018 18:25:32 GMT -5
nancyb: worksforme2: Relationship died when we had a difference in opinion regarding UFO's and extraterrestrial beings. LOL I weighed in on the nay side and he believed they walk amongst us.
Jul 30, 2018 5:51:07 GMT -5
bc: I can’t stop laughing...go ahead, micromanage and analyze that marriage and see what she will do for you.
Jul 30, 2018 8:17:58 GMT -5
Dan: I think I'd have to see how good a new girlfriend was in the sack before I crossed her off the list -- or kicked her out of bed -- for believing in UFOs. I guess that makes me... male!
Jul 30, 2018 21:25:05 GMT -5
solodriver: It's been so long for me, I might see UFOs my first time. lol
Jul 31, 2018 1:42:47 GMT -5
beachguy: nancyb: He's right. It's all in the X Files, if you care to look.
Jul 31, 2018 3:45:13 GMT -5
nancyb: Dan: It was a tough decision, he was a good lover but the craziness ended things. Been dating since but nothing serious. I paint a lot.
Jul 31, 2018 5:57:00 GMT -5
petrushka: Thing is, someone being a fruit-loop about something like UFOs usually is not confined to one area; even if it is not immediately obvious. People who are nutty about one thing can go off at a tangent any time, I found (...out the hard way).
Jul 31, 2018 7:39:29 GMT -5
greatcoastal: nancyb: Sounds like you Identified a Fucking Object for what it truly is!
Jul 31, 2018 8:25:25 GMT -5
worksforme2: nancyb,...I am going to paint my living room soon as I can decide on the color.
Jul 31, 2018 19:15:08 GMT -5
worksforme2: When it comes to UFO's we always hear about "little green men", why are there never any "little green women"?
Aug 1, 2018 6:21:15 GMT -5
solodriver: I think I recall an episode of "Lost In Space where Dr. Smith was being chased by a green woman
Aug 1, 2018 21:29:17 GMT -5