Back when I was researching the Mormon Church (long story having to do with distant relatives), I came upon the precursor post to this post.
Essentially, he was a gay man, and he and his wife married knowing he was gay. They had a family and (if memory served) he went about living as a heterosexual Mormon, even though he and his wife outed themselves and it went viral.
So, a lot of this blog post has to do with the LGBTQIA community and the Mormon church, but I found it very interesting that they both now know that romantic attachment is an important part of a relationship - even though they had sexual relations throughout their marriage. Her words later in the article about how it affected her as a woman were totally relatable to me and I suspect, this group.
And yes, in this case, they do have an “acceptable” reason to part ways, but it also reminded me of what beachguy argued long ago on a post to a young “joy”. The orientation could be homosexuality, it could be asexuality, it could be that they just don’t feel it for YOU (I will name that notyouality). It’s still an orientation as it relates to YOU. I hope for all to read the parts of this article in that context. I kept that in mind as I read it too.
Interesting to note the reactions of their older children as well.
Always wanted my parents to get divorced. They did when I was 13. Best thing they ever did!! To this day I still have no idea why they got married. He was already hitting her before the wedding. That is fine, but why bring us into the world and such a fucked up situation?
In truth Sister JMX I lost interest in the article pretty quick and only skimmed it.
But it told a tale (to me) of a long, arduous and ultimately successful "why chase".
They found the "why" - and it didn't make a blind bit of difference to the trajectory their marriage was on.
Yeah - it was stupid long. Cutting to her part would probably suffice. I find it interesting that there was no “why” chase at all. They knew he was gay when they married. Even knowing ahead of time, not being blind-sided, produced the same results. Meh.
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