Back when I was researching the Mormon Church (long story having to do with distant relatives), I came upon the precursor post to this post.
Essentially, he was a gay man, and he and his wife married knowing he was gay. They had a family and (if memory served) he went about living as a heterosexual Mormon, even though he and his wife outed themselves and it went viral.
So, a lot of this blog post has to do with the LGBTQIA community and the Mormon church, but I found it very interesting that they both now know that romantic attachment is an important part of a relationship - even though they had sexual relations throughout their marriage. Her words later in the article about how it affected her as a woman were totally relatable to me and I suspect, this group.
And yes, in this case, they do have an “acceptable” reason to part ways, but it also reminded me of what beachguy argued long ago on a post to a young “joy”. The orientation could be homosexuality, it could be asexuality, it could be that they just don’t feel it for YOU (I will name that notyouality). It’s still an orientation as it relates to YOU. I hope for all to read the parts of this article in that context. I kept that in mind as I read it too.
Interesting to note the reactions of their older children as well.
Always wanted my parents to get divorced. They did when I was 13. Best thing they ever did!! To this day I still have no idea why they got married. He was already hitting her before the wedding. That is fine, but why bring us into the world and such a fucked up situation?
In truth Sister JMX I lost interest in the article pretty quick and only skimmed it.
But it told a tale (to me) of a long, arduous and ultimately successful "why chase".
They found the "why" - and it didn't make a blind bit of difference to the trajectory their marriage was on.
Yeah - it was stupid long. Cutting to her part would probably suffice. I find it interesting that there was no “why” chase at all. They knew he was gay when they married. Even knowing ahead of time, not being blind-sided, produced the same results. Meh.
worksforme2: hey nancyb, how are things perkolating with the older gentleman you spoke of a while back?
Jul 28, 2018 18:25:32 GMT -5
nancyb: worksforme2: Relationship died when we had a difference in opinion regarding UFO's and extraterrestrial beings. LOL I weighed in on the nay side and he believed they walk amongst us.
Jul 30, 2018 5:51:07 GMT -5
bc: I can’t stop laughing...go ahead, micromanage and analyze that marriage and see what she will do for you.
Jul 30, 2018 8:17:58 GMT -5
Dan: I think I'd have to see how good a new girlfriend was in the sack before I crossed her off the list -- or kicked her out of bed -- for believing in UFOs. I guess that makes me... male!
Jul 30, 2018 21:25:05 GMT -5
solodriver: It's been so long for me, I might see UFOs my first time. lol
Jul 31, 2018 1:42:47 GMT -5
beachguy: nancyb: He's right. It's all in the X Files, if you care to look.
Jul 31, 2018 3:45:13 GMT -5
nancyb: Dan: It was a tough decision, he was a good lover but the craziness ended things. Been dating since but nothing serious. I paint a lot.
Jul 31, 2018 5:57:00 GMT -5
petrushka: Thing is, someone being a fruit-loop about something like UFOs usually is not confined to one area; even if it is not immediately obvious. People who are nutty about one thing can go off at a tangent any time, I found (...out the hard way).
Jul 31, 2018 7:39:29 GMT -5
greatcoastal: nancyb: Sounds like you Identified a Fucking Object for what it truly is!
Jul 31, 2018 8:25:25 GMT -5
worksforme2: nancyb,...I am going to paint my living room soon as I can decide on the color.
Jul 31, 2018 19:15:08 GMT -5
worksforme2: When it comes to UFO's we always hear about "little green men", why are there never any "little green women"?
Aug 1, 2018 6:21:15 GMT -5
solodriver: I think I recall an episode of "Lost In Space where Dr. Smith was being chased by a green woman
Aug 1, 2018 21:29:17 GMT -5