Hi,everyone I am a 34 woman. I have a daughter and I love my husband.i live in a sexless marriage for almost 6 years,after my daughter was born everything changed very quickly. you know we have sex like twice in a year and I feel terrible because I really love sex i tried so many times to start with my husband but I don’t know every time he has his excuses. how should i talk to him? how can i express my emotion? he is a good man nd i know he loves me too. we have cuddles, hugs but no sex ? what should i do?
Post by worksforme2 on Jul 29, 2018 10:52:23 GMT -5
You'll need to pick a time when there's no rush. Approach it from a perspective of a problem that has to be addressed before it gets any worse. Don't assign blame or be confrontational. Explain to him how hurtful it is to you when your intimacy needs go unaddressed for such extended periods. Speak to him in terms of how it makes you feel as a woman not to feel desired and what it is doing to your self esteem.
Are his excuses mainly of physical ailments or psychological in nature. Do they seem legit or contrived. Assuming your H is about the same age as you you should 1st eliminate hormonal or other medical conditions that might be the caus. If there's nothing wrong physical with him then it has to be mental. One way or another you will have to make him see his behavior is damaging to the marriage and to you.
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