Hi,everyone I am a 34 woman. I have a daughter and I love my husband.i live in a sexless marriage for almost 6 years,after my daughter was born everything changed very quickly. you know we have sex like twice in a year and I feel terrible because I really love sex i tried so many times to start with my husband but I don’t know every time he has his excuses. how should i talk to him? how can i express my emotion? he is a good man nd i know he loves me too. we have cuddles, hugs but no sex ? what should i do?
Post by worksforme2 on Jul 29, 2018 10:52:23 GMT -5
You'll need to pick a time when there's no rush. Approach it from a perspective of a problem that has to be addressed before it gets any worse. Don't assign blame or be confrontational. Explain to him how hurtful it is to you when your intimacy needs go unaddressed for such extended periods. Speak to him in terms of how it makes you feel as a woman not to feel desired and what it is doing to your self esteem.
Are his excuses mainly of physical ailments or psychological in nature. Do they seem legit or contrived. Assuming your H is about the same age as you you should 1st eliminate hormonal or other medical conditions that might be the caus. If there's nothing wrong physical with him then it has to be mental. One way or another you will have to make him see his behavior is damaging to the marriage and to you.
worksforme2: hey nancyb, how are things perkolating with the older gentleman you spoke of a while back?
Jul 28, 2018 18:25:32 GMT -5
nancyb: worksforme2: Relationship died when we had a difference in opinion regarding UFO's and extraterrestrial beings. LOL I weighed in on the nay side and he believed they walk amongst us.
Jul 30, 2018 5:51:07 GMT -5
bc: I can’t stop laughing...go ahead, micromanage and analyze that marriage and see what she will do for you.
Jul 30, 2018 8:17:58 GMT -5
Dan: I think I'd have to see how good a new girlfriend was in the sack before I crossed her off the list -- or kicked her out of bed -- for believing in UFOs. I guess that makes me... male!
Jul 30, 2018 21:25:05 GMT -5
solodriver: It's been so long for me, I might see UFOs my first time. lol
Jul 31, 2018 1:42:47 GMT -5
beachguy: nancyb: He's right. It's all in the X Files, if you care to look.
Jul 31, 2018 3:45:13 GMT -5
nancyb: Dan: It was a tough decision, he was a good lover but the craziness ended things. Been dating since but nothing serious. I paint a lot.
Jul 31, 2018 5:57:00 GMT -5
petrushka: Thing is, someone being a fruit-loop about something like UFOs usually is not confined to one area; even if it is not immediately obvious. People who are nutty about one thing can go off at a tangent any time, I found (...out the hard way).
Jul 31, 2018 7:39:29 GMT -5
greatcoastal: nancyb: Sounds like you Identified a Fucking Object for what it truly is!
Jul 31, 2018 8:25:25 GMT -5
worksforme2: nancyb,...I am going to paint my living room soon as I can decide on the color.
Jul 31, 2018 19:15:08 GMT -5
worksforme2: When it comes to UFO's we always hear about "little green men", why are there never any "little green women"?
Aug 1, 2018 6:21:15 GMT -5
solodriver: I think I recall an episode of "Lost In Space where Dr. Smith was being chased by a green woman
Aug 1, 2018 21:29:17 GMT -5