Post by flashjohn on Jul 18, 2018 11:24:41 GMT -5
Ok, my background is here somewhere, but I am going to give you a brief summary. I am going to use explicit language, so if it bothers you, hit the back button.
Married 28 years. W refused to fuck on the honeymoon. After, we finally got up to 6-8 times per year. Some years were more, but that is about the amount of sex we had. W never gave me a blowjob, and only "allowed" me to eat her pussy about 5-7 times the entire joke of a marriage. She told me that women "just don't get horny," and I should be grateful that such a beautiful woman would ever fuck me at all, and if I complained, she would cut me off because she could take or leave sex. She was also very selfish and abusive, but the glaring lack of decent sex blinded me to much of that. I was taught that if you are always sweet and kind to a woman, she will always respond positively. In Oct, 2008, she had a partial hysterectomy, and I was with her the whole time. In May, 2010, she had her remaining ovary removed. After that, she refused to go back to the doctor to have her hormones checked, and announced that sex was over. If I ever asked, she told me that it didn't matter because my penis didn't work anymore anyway. She continued to verbally abuse me, telling me that I was a horrible husband, all of her friends had better husbands, and she could easily find a better one. I moved out on 2/19/16, and the divorce is STILL pending. After being out for so long, I realized just how horribly abusive she was. I easily work 50-55 hour weeks, and if I wanted to sleep past 10 on a Saturday morning, she would come in and yell at me. She would hit me with every problem she could think of as soon as I came home, and would not shut up until we went to bed. She would scream at me if I spent a penny on myself, while she had secretly saved over $40,000 to keep to herself.
Here is my suggestion of a timeline of rejections. It is just my opinion.
1. If you have not had sex with your spouse in a week, no problem.
2. If you have not had sex with your spouse in two weeks, could be a problem.
3. If you have not had sex with your spouse in a month, definite problem.
4. If you have not had sex with your spouse in six months, huge problem.
5. If you have not had sex with your spouse in a year, you need to ask yourself why you are staying in this relationship.
Just some rules of thumb from an old fool who was taken in by a narcissist.
BTW, I do have a wonderful GF now, here is a link to a pic I posted a while back iliasm.org/thread/3061/minus?page=30