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Post by ihadalove on Jul 13, 2018 11:52:53 GMT -5
Long story short, I did a little sexting with w which was well received. Didn't lead to anything at all when we saw each other. I can't tell if it's willful or if she's oblivious. Is it so hard to be interested in intimacy and KEEP being interested, for 8 hours at least? Ugh. There are women out there who would be salivating and excited to come home to the scenario I had laid out. Not her.
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Post by beachguy on Jul 13, 2018 12:50:05 GMT -5
At some point I hope you come to an understanding that she’s not oblivious. Why she engages in this past time that, for most people ended early in High School is beyond comprehension.
Sorry if I’m too blunt but just reading this annoys me and I’ve read this story too many times before.
ETA: I could make an argument that this is gaslighting since it is driving you insane and making you question reality.
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Post by ironhamster on Jul 13, 2018 13:55:01 GMT -5
Well, you got farther than I did. My stbx was adamantly opposed to sexting. In fact, she was not even receptive to selfies.
But, in the end, it is five of one, half a dozen of the other. It's almost the same. Nothing. Nothing from the wife, anyway. That "nothing" is pretty honest and more revealing than any naughty pic.
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Post by beachguy on Jul 13, 2018 15:30:19 GMT -5
Well, you got farther than I did. My stbx was adamantly opposed to sexting. In fact, she was not even receptive to selfies. But, in the end, it is five of one, half a dozen of the other. It's almost the same. Nothing. Nothing from the wife, anyway. That "nothing" is pretty honest and more revealing than any naughty pic. At least she is honest with you, unlike ihadalove's wife. I stopped bothering before the cellphone (smartphone?) age but I'm pretty sure my STBX would have not reacted well to a sext. That much I have to give her credit for. She was consistent in her refusal.
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Post by choosinghappy on Jul 13, 2018 15:35:24 GMT -5
Did you ask her outright why, when she had a good response to the sexy messages earlier, is she not actually interested in sex when you guys could finally be together?
You’ll need to put her on the spot if you want clarity in your situation. Not in a blaming or hurt way, if you can help it, but in a curious way so she can hopefully feel comfortable to give a real answer and not just more excuses.
And you are right - there are women who not only couldn’t wait for that scenario but maybe WOULDN’T wait and would rush home early from work to be with you. Your wife is not one of them. My guess is that it’s unlikely she ever will BE one of them. You need to decide if you can live with that and accept it.
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A Rant
Jul 13, 2018 16:27:16 GMT -5
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Post by ihadalove on Jul 13, 2018 16:27:16 GMT -5
Did you ask her outright why, when she had a good response to the sexy messages earlier, is she not actually interested in sex when you guys could finally be together? You’ll need to put her on the spot if you want clarity in your situation. Not in a blaming or hurt way, if you can help it, but in a curious way so she can hopefully feel comfortable to give a real answer and not just more excuses. No, I wasn't interested in a conflict last night or this morning. The fact that it could be a conflict is probably on me though. I'm guessing I would have gotten one of the standard excuses.
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Post by baza on Jul 14, 2018 4:16:34 GMT -5
There's a consistent theme through your posts Brother ihadalove , all the way back to when you were Brother cloudless in July 2016. That being your descriptives of your missus'rejective behaviour toward you. Where the rejection takes place varies, how the rejection is delivered changes, the excuses for the rejection vary. What doesn't vary is the rejection. What also doesn't vary is your response to the rejection. What also hasn't changed are the options you have available to you. So it looks very much like you have plenty more of the same to come.
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