The world needs more acronyms, right?? Lol. Kidding, but I came across this one and shared it with my single sister-in-law who keeps thinking she can change men.
Don't Even Think About Changing Him
In love there is attachment, but to keep it healthy there has to be some detachment, too.
I know when I was dating I experienced my own levels of crazy, but I'm happy to say I learned from them. I hope my sis does too. She actually wants a guy she's dating to stop watching so much golf and to not wear carpenter pants. The kicker, though? She got mad when he suggested she not wear the cold shoulder shirts that are all the rage these days. I gently pointed out that was no different from her wanting him to dress differently. I also said it points to a shaky foundation right out of the shoot.
Am I wrong?
I didn't go into my relationship settling. I didn't say "well, I like him, buttttt......"
I accept my husband for who he is. He's a morally upstanding man, so any annoyances I might have are trivial and I detach myself from them. I celebrate the good stuff.
Just thinking outloud....
Last Edit: Jul 10, 2018 7:32:49 GMT -5 by WindSister
Those who feel lovable, who love, and who experience belonging simply believe they are worthy of love and belonging. - Brene Brown
That is exactly right! When you love someone you accept them as they are. I totally agree with the detachment part and maybe it’s who I have evolved into but I need my space, my alone time, and I enjoy my own company. Having independence and autonomy is so important in a healthy romantic relationship. I’m currently reading Ester Perel’s book Mating in Captivity and in it she discusses the importance of separateness to sustain desire. Right now I’m out having breakfast by myself and I’m at peace.
misssunnybunny: You're welcome! So glad to hear you had a great day
Jan 19, 2019 16:34:01 GMT -5
worksforme2: anyone hear anything lately from mrslowmaintenance or smartkat?
Jan 24, 2019 18:06:02 GMT -5
petrushka: Just saw the forecast for Mildura at 47C -- I hope you and Ms. Enna are going to be ok Baz. That's getting dangerous.
Jan 24, 2019 20:10:00 GMT -5
lifeinwoodinville: I last heard from mrslowmaintenance about a month ago. I have been in regular contact with her for the last year and a half. I feel comfortable in saying that her situation remains unchanged. If you want to know more PM me.
Jan 25, 2019 22:36:50 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey baza,...I know it's hot and dry down under. N.C. is having record rainfall. I would gladly trade some rain for some sunshine....
Feb 22, 2019 20:28:35 GMT -5
tamara68: Today it's steak and blowjob day! I suppose the steak is for those who don't get a blowjob.
Mar 14, 2019 16:49:49 GMT -5
petrushka: tamara68 Laughing with tears in my eyes. And my steak is going to be semolina gruel, due to some tummy upset :-\
Mar 15, 2019 1:11:10 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: So sad to hear the news from New Zealand. Boston Strong supports Kiwi Strong!!
Mar 15, 2019 7:46:22 GMT -5
petrushka: I was gobsmacked when I heard. This is just not us. In all of 2017 we had 37 murders in the country ..... I think the echo chambers of "social media" have a lot to answer for.
Mar 15, 2019 18:45:45 GMT -5
baza: Feeling for our Brothers and Sisters across the ditch Brother petrushka .
Mar 15, 2019 19:27:50 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: petrushka, I thought I read the headline wrong (this stuff happens here, not in NZ). It is frightening the hate that is being spread; it makes my heart hurt.
Mar 15, 2019 20:46:54 GMT -5
saarinista: All of us, IMHO, should try to be civil and kind as much as possible in person and online. I actively Tweet (civilly) on political matters and am horrified by the rancor & trolling on both sides of the spectrum, which only inflames unstable people.
Mar 19, 2019 23:21:20 GMT -5
saarinista: is anyone else watching March Madness?
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