The world needs more acronyms, right?? Lol. Kidding, but I came across this one and shared it with my single sister-in-law who keeps thinking she can change men.
Don't Even Think About Changing Him
In love there is attachment, but to keep it healthy there has to be some detachment, too.
I know when I was dating I experienced my own levels of crazy, but I'm happy to say I learned from them. I hope my sis does too. She actually wants a guy she's dating to stop watching so much golf and to not wear carpenter pants. The kicker, though? She got mad when he suggested she not wear the cold shoulder shirts that are all the rage these days. I gently pointed out that was no different from her wanting him to dress differently. I also said it points to a shaky foundation right out of the shoot.
Am I wrong?
I didn't go into my relationship settling. I didn't say "well, I like him, buttttt......"
I accept my husband for who he is. He's a morally upstanding man, so any annoyances I might have are trivial and I detach myself from them. I celebrate the good stuff.
Just thinking outloud....
Last Edit: Jul 10, 2018 7:32:49 GMT -5 by WindSister
Those who feel lovable, who love, and who experience belonging simply believe they are worthy of love and belonging. - Brene Brown
That is exactly right! When you love someone you accept them as they are. I totally agree with the detachment part and maybe it’s who I have evolved into but I need my space, my alone time, and I enjoy my own company. Having independence and autonomy is so important in a healthy romantic relationship. I’m currently reading Ester Perel’s book Mating in Captivity and in it she discusses the importance of separateness to sustain desire. Right now I’m out having breakfast by myself and I’m at peace.
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