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Post by jim44444 on Jul 2, 2018 21:22:23 GMT -5
I took off my wedding ring about seven (?) years ago. Husband never asked why. Took mine off 3 years ago when I had swollen tendon. After a year she asked when was I going to wear my ring again. I said I would when she became my lover again. Still ain't wearing it.
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Post by ironhamster on Jul 2, 2018 22:02:57 GMT -5
When I took my wedding ring off, I added it to my keychain. It was a Tungsten Carbide ring, so it was not going to get damaged. At one point, I also had it surrounded by three stainless cock rings. My wife, if she ever noticed, never said a word.
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Post by tirefire on Jul 3, 2018 4:34:45 GMT -5
I took off my wedding ring about seven (?) years ago. Husband never asked why. I took mine off most of the time for the last part of the marriage but w always complained that it made people wonder and it looks bad. That ring had become a symbol that just made me angry and sad inside.
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Post by Carol on Jul 3, 2018 4:46:30 GMT -5
I never wear my wedding ring anymore when I’m by myself. It’s on most of the time if I’m with the husband. He has a fit when I don’t wear it. Lately, it’s felt like a noose on my finger!
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Post by workingonit on Jul 3, 2018 5:09:27 GMT -5
Neither of us wear our rings. Havent since year 1. Probably was a sign
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Post by northstarmom on Jul 3, 2018 6:29:22 GMT -5
“I never wear my wedding ring anymore when I’m by myself. It’s on most of the time if I’m with the husband. He has a fit when I don’t wear it. Lately, it’s felt like a noose on my finger!”
When will you pull the plug?
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Post by elynne on Jul 3, 2018 6:42:18 GMT -5
I took off my wedding ring about seven (?) years ago. Husband never asked why. I took mine off about a year ago. H has lost his a few times and never wears the replacement one. He’s never mentioned that I stopped wearing mine after 10 years. It seemed like such a farce to wear it. I put it back on for a big party with all of his friends. He didn’t comment. I left it on for the weekend, but will probably take it off again soon.
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Post by dallasgia on Jul 3, 2018 6:46:01 GMT -5
I took off my wedding ring about seven (?) years ago. Husband never asked why. Me too - he never said a word.
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Post by dallasgia on Jul 3, 2018 6:59:04 GMT -5
I'm wondering if there is - or if there should be - some sort of visual indicator that we in the ILIASM community can wear that would help us identify one another "in the wild". The only example I can think of is (so I am told) some members of the swinging community apparently wear black rings on their right index finger. Although our community couldn't have less in common with theirs, it might still be nice to be able to spot one another. Any thoughts or ideas? I heard that an upside down pineapple in your shopping cart indicated you to other swingers … lgbtq has the rainbow… the mental health community has the semi colon… we need a very subtle symbol - maybe a winking eye
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Post by elynne on Jul 3, 2018 7:09:18 GMT -5
I took off my wedding ring about seven (?) years ago. Husband never asked why. Me too - he never said a word. I find it interesting how many of us have removed our wedding rings as a form of silent protest. I also find it very telling that the spouses don’t comment.
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Post by flyingsolo on Jul 3, 2018 12:39:19 GMT -5
I've thought about taking mine off but still haven't. Still working on fixing things.....we shall see.
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Post by saarinista on Jul 4, 2018 21:07:02 GMT -5
I never got an actual wedding band because we only got married in the courthouse (another bad sign) but I do have a nice engagement ring. The baguettes cracked and one fell out, so I stopped wearing it for a while, because of that, and also because I was trying to "gently" protest and get some response out of my husband. But I didn't. Finally I got it back out of his gun safe (sigh) and put the sucker back on again, because I am that materialistic. It needs to be fixed, but I don't know what to do. I haven't decided for sure yet what to do about the SM, so I don't feel like it's right to get it reset-but it looks awfully tacky the way it is, all cracked and missing part of its bling.
SIGH! Sort of a metaphor for the whole marriage, I guess.
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Post by saarinista on Jul 4, 2018 21:09:04 GMT -5
When I took my wedding ring off, I added it to my keychain. It was a Tungsten Carbide ring, so it was not going to get damaged. At one point, I also had it surrounded by three stainless cock rings. My wife, if she ever noticed, never said a word. ironhamster, you never cease to be provocative! BTW, what's Tungsten Carbide? Could you use it to make light bulb filaments? hehe
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Post by saarinista on Jul 4, 2018 21:11:45 GMT -5
Neither of us wear our rings. Havent since year 1. Probably was a sign Probably? PROBABLY? Dear Lord, girl! No offense intended. I'm just as messed up. If not more so.
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sufferinhubby
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Post by sufferinhubby on Jul 4, 2018 21:23:51 GMT -5
I don't wear my ring anymore either and my wife has also either not noticed, has never said anything, or just doesn't care. But NOT wearing something doesn't really count as an outward sign of SM (although your friends who know you're married may pick up on it). Is there some general indicator that you are married but looking?
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