This article may hit home for others in one, or many areas.
For me, it confirms my choice of divorcing . It was necessary to separate in order to have a voice. Had I remained, the only voice would have been my controlling, helicopter mom ex. Especially as we are entering the middle and peak of the teen years. I can imagine my teens thinking (well my parents this... and my parents that...) when in reality it was/is my controlling, ex spouce.
I did not want to wait until I was dead, or when they had their own children for them to learn, ("dad wasn't like that, that was all mom"- or the reversal as is true in many other couples)
Daily when my teens are with me, I find myself giving them a lot more freedom, and more distant guidance than what they receive/received when at their mother's house.
For now ,it is such an improvement to be able to offer an alternative, and it helps me to find and be my true self again.
Here's to years ahead, and an alternative lifestyle for everyone!
This is so true. My oldest is starting college this year and I am at constant odds with my W because she can't lay off and let him learn basic lessons for him self. Also my 14 year old is catching more and more anger as she looses control over the oldest.
Both of my kids have had conversations with me about her being overbearing and they appreciate me standing up for them or being an ear that doesn't judge. They will tell me anything and withhold as much as possible from her.
She is a great mom don't get me wrong but she can helicopter....
You are doing a great job and being consistent and loving will bring you a better relationship. Much of you kids following her is out of fear and co-dependency. You watch the future will tell.
worksforme2: hey nancyb, how are things perkolating with the older gentleman you spoke of a while back?
Jul 28, 2018 18:25:32 GMT -5
nancyb: worksforme2: Relationship died when we had a difference in opinion regarding UFO's and extraterrestrial beings. LOL I weighed in on the nay side and he believed they walk amongst us.
Jul 30, 2018 5:51:07 GMT -5
bc: I can’t stop laughing...go ahead, micromanage and analyze that marriage and see what she will do for you.
Jul 30, 2018 8:17:58 GMT -5
Dan: I think I'd have to see how good a new girlfriend was in the sack before I crossed her off the list -- or kicked her out of bed -- for believing in UFOs. I guess that makes me... male!
Jul 30, 2018 21:25:05 GMT -5
solodriver: It's been so long for me, I might see UFOs my first time. lol
Jul 31, 2018 1:42:47 GMT -5
beachguy: nancyb: He's right. It's all in the X Files, if you care to look.
Jul 31, 2018 3:45:13 GMT -5
nancyb: Dan: It was a tough decision, he was a good lover but the craziness ended things. Been dating since but nothing serious. I paint a lot.
Jul 31, 2018 5:57:00 GMT -5
petrushka: Thing is, someone being a fruit-loop about something like UFOs usually is not confined to one area; even if it is not immediately obvious. People who are nutty about one thing can go off at a tangent any time, I found (...out the hard way).
Jul 31, 2018 7:39:29 GMT -5
greatcoastal: nancyb: Sounds like you Identified a Fucking Object for what it truly is!
Jul 31, 2018 8:25:25 GMT -5
worksforme2: nancyb,...I am going to paint my living room soon as I can decide on the color.
Jul 31, 2018 19:15:08 GMT -5
worksforme2: When it comes to UFO's we always hear about "little green men", why are there never any "little green women"?
Aug 1, 2018 6:21:15 GMT -5
solodriver: I think I recall an episode of "Lost In Space where Dr. Smith was being chased by a green woman
Aug 1, 2018 21:29:17 GMT -5