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Post by surfergirl on Jun 27, 2018 18:05:11 GMT -5
Papers came in the mail yesterday.
I’m divorced.
I bought a house six doors down from our primary residence (which my husband gets the house we are living in, I didn’t want it) and will move next month when it’s finished. Holding off on telling the kids until we can assemble them all together.
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Divorced
Jun 27, 2018 18:08:03 GMT -5
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Post by surfergirl on Jun 27, 2018 18:08:03 GMT -5
For those of you who need a little refresher on my story:
21 years of SM, even on the honeymoon 6 Kids (4 at home now) And lots of looping and pain and therapy
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Post by Deleted on Jun 27, 2018 18:09:46 GMT -5
Congratulations!
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Post by surfergirl on Jun 27, 2018 18:16:36 GMT -5
As an aside, I paid something like $173 for my divorce.
My husband and I worked out the finances—none of the lawyers understood it, not trying to diss them but it was true—-and so I had a few legal missteps but corrected the paperwork a few times: wrote my own dissolution, deposition, etc.
Worth it.
Just throwing it out there that —even with my husband’s level of hostility—he is smart enough to avoid the lawyers.
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Post by bballgirl on Jun 27, 2018 18:25:13 GMT -5
Congrats!! Wonderful that it was amicable.
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Post by misssunnybunny on Jun 27, 2018 18:26:42 GMT -5
Congratulations. Best to you as you start this new path in life!
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Jun 27, 2018 18:29:12 GMT -5
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Post by surfergirl on Jun 27, 2018 18:29:12 GMT -5
Question for the forum:
We rehabbed and flipped houses for many years. I had a question for my husband about the house being built by a general contractor. It’s six doors down. I asked him if he’d look at something specific, and he said, “No.”
Why did he say no?
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Post by surfergirl on Jun 27, 2018 18:31:52 GMT -5
^^^^
Keep in mind he regrets his behavior toward me and “is trying to win back his wife”. (Apparently he has given up.) Why be mean like that but cook a beautiful dinner for the whole family the same night? And we eat together with laughing and stories like normal?
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Post by flounder on Jun 27, 2018 18:35:06 GMT -5
Because he is a horses ass ?
Glad to hear it went as painlessly as possible.
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Post by surfergirl on Jun 27, 2018 18:35:57 GMT -5
By the way, I recommend moving out BEFORE the divorce is final. It’s just that I couldn’t pass up the opportunity to live within walking distance from my kids so I think the extra month of discomfort is worth it.
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Post by catsloveme on Jun 27, 2018 18:36:02 GMT -5
Question for the forum: We rehabbed and flipped houses for many years. I had a question for my husband about the house being built by a general contractor. It’s six doors down. I asked him if he’d look at something specific, and he said, “No.” Why did he say no? Putting on my “benefit of the doubt” hat, he might be trying to set boundaries and create distance/separateness between you. Or, he could just be saying no out of spite.
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Post by flounder on Jun 27, 2018 18:37:20 GMT -5
Responded before your last post. Trying to win you back ? That is why. He doesn’t want you to go anywhere.
Oh and he might just be a horses ass.
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Post by catsloveme on Jun 27, 2018 18:40:07 GMT -5
^^^^ Keep in mind he regrets his behavior toward me and “is trying to win back his wife”. (Apparently he has given up.) Why be mean like that but cook a beautiful dinner for the whole family the same night? And we eat together with laughing and stories like normal? Keeping things “normal” for the kids since you haven’t told them yet?
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Post by greatcoastal on Jun 27, 2018 18:45:14 GMT -5
Question for the forum: We rehabbed and flipped houses for many years. I had a question for my husband about the house being built by a general contractor. It’s six doors down. I asked him if he’d look at something specific, and he said, “No.” Why did he say no? Personally, I can't answer that. It's a bit to vague. Was that all he said? Did you offer specifics? I received, documented, email answers like that. Very blunt, very controlling. Sigh.... Just more confirmation that I /you made the right choice. I found my ex's behavior very childish actually.
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Post by greatcoastal on Jun 27, 2018 18:55:24 GMT -5
Papers came in the mail yesterday. I’m divorced. I bought a house six doors down from our primary residence (which my husband gets the house we are living in, I didn’t want it) and will move next month when it’s finished. Holding off on telling the kids until we can assemble them all together. Congratulations are in order! I raise my glass to you! Here's to new beginnings---and no ATTORNEYS!! Cautious, sincere, careful, loving congratulations, all at that same time. You've got a full plate my friend. Keep leaning forward.! So much for "Zip Code Therapy" LOL! ( I'm in the same zip code as my ex. 2 miles away. It was all about , kids jobs,school districts, Buses, and college location)
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