Post by time4intimacy on Jul 7, 2018 5:35:50 GMT -5
"She sounds like a prime candidate for solo therapy to work through whatever is causing her this anxiety. She sounds ready, willing, and able - but needs some help to overcome some issue in her past."
Where's the evidence? Is she in therapy? If she's ready, willing and able then she would be getting the professional help to overcome her sexual aversions. She wouldn't be expecting her h to accommodate himself to her aversion to sex.
No, she’s not in therapy. Shame on her. Maybe that’s where the story ends, maybe not. In my experience, the obvious is not always apparent to the participants.
She *is* a woman who acknowledges the lack of sex, isn’t afraid to mention it, seems remorseful about it, and actually does enjoy it when she initiates. That alone is leaps and bounds better than many here are dealing with.
She has an issue with him initiating. Regardless of root cause, I see this as a focused issue that could be overcome with help. time4intimacy hasn’t said that she refuses to seek counseling, so suggesting it isn’t exactly a waste of typing. While the issue is often too vague for counseling to help, I don’t think that’s the case here.
However, you are right that I should see the glass half full. I am in a much better position than many of you and I feel so bad for many of you where it seems there is little to no hope to restore a sex life.