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Post by time4intimacy on Jun 27, 2018 16:50:42 GMT -5
Well, after 4 months it happened again for me.
It was Sunday night, the night before I was leaving on a business trip to France with my 30 something female (prior model) sales rep. My wife will never admit jealously or insecurity, but the last time we had sex is after I had a 5 day trip with my sales rep in the states. My sales rep lives in the Netherlands. Regardless of the reason we did have sex.
My wife started to makes some sexual comments and I took the opportunity to make a move and she actually reciprocated. Sex was going pretty well, although a bit strange after going 4 months without. I did have an issue, she got off and enjoyed her orgasm and then it happened, I popped my shoulder out and ended up rolling over in pain before finishing. I can't believe it, finally having sex again (probably still will not get to 10 times this year) and I actually injure myself during the act and was in so much pain I could not finish
I am afraid the rain check will be another 4 months. UGH.
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Post by DryCreek on Jun 27, 2018 19:19:09 GMT -5
Sounds like you need more business trips. Can you help it if they get cancelled at the last minute, or you forget to tell her it got rescheduled to the next week? Two can play that game.
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Post by bballgirl on Jun 27, 2018 20:20:46 GMT -5
Sounds like she wants to make sure you aren’t hungry before you go to the grocery store - maybe a control thing?
Hope your shoulder gets to feeling better.
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Post by workingonit on Jun 27, 2018 20:44:31 GMT -5
ooooh. Rough! So sorry that happened to you- dislocations are REALLY PAINFUL! Heal fast!
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Post by elynne on Jun 27, 2018 20:48:33 GMT -5
Well, after 4 months it happened again for me. It was Sunday night, the night before I was leaving on a business trip to France with my 30 something female (prior model) sales rep. My wife will never admit jealously or insecurity, but the last time we had sex is after I had a 5 day trip with my sales rep in the states. My sales rep lives in the Netherlands. Regardless of the reason we did have sex. My wife started to makes some sexual comments and I took the opportunity to make a move and she actually reciprocated. Sex was going pretty well, although a bit strange after going 4 months without. I did have an issue, she got off and enjoyed her orgasm and then it happened, I popped my shoulder out and ended up rolling over in pain before finishing. I can't believe it, finally having sex again (probably still will not get to 10 times this year) and I actually injure myself during the act and was in so much pain I could not finish I am afraid the rain check will be another 4 months. UGH. How do you pop your shoulder out during sex?!!! My thoughts go to exotic tantric positions or overly enthusiastic thrusting.
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Post by ironhamster on Jun 27, 2018 20:54:15 GMT -5
Heal up, and consider doing some Pilates and/or yoga. Sex can be vigorous exercise.
Oh, and I love the idea of more business trips suddenly cancelled. Increasing frequency will either convince her she wants sex with you more often, or convince you that sex under duress is not the kind of sex you want.
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Post by baza on Jun 27, 2018 22:43:31 GMT -5
From the 9 posts you've put up Brother time4intimacy , it seems the trajectory your marriage is on is pretty well set. And where-as 'business trips' appear to spark up a bit of rooting pre trip (and sometimes post trip) it's probably not realistic to embark on say 26 'business trips per' year in the hope of generating say, 52 roots a year. Do you see this situation as sustainable ? PS - shoulder dislocations hurt when you do them, and ain't it even better "fun" when they are putting them back in ??
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Post by saarinista on Jun 27, 2018 23:20:31 GMT -5
baza , how do they put the shoulder back "in"? Just curious. I don't think I've ever dislocated anything though I've hammered my thumb a couple of times breaking it. (Pro tip-get a broken bone fixed right away. They can't do much two years later.)
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Post by ironhamster on Jun 27, 2018 23:32:39 GMT -5
The shoulder joint is a ball socket. The shoulder is dislocated if the ball of the humerus comes out of the socket on the shoulder blade. It will end a fight really quick, and, I bet the same for a romp. From what I have seen, have someone pop it back in. It is more like legos than other joints that rely on cartilage and ligaments alone.
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Post by time4intimacy on Jun 28, 2018 0:26:25 GMT -5
Sounds like you need more business trips. Can you help it if they get cancelled at the last minute, or you forget to tell her it got rescheduled to the next week? Two can play that game. I love this idea, I can certainly create some fake trips that require cancellation. Hiring a good looking employee I have to travel with certainly did not hurt the situation.
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Post by time4intimacy on Jun 28, 2018 0:27:16 GMT -5
ooooh. Rough! So sorry that happened to you- dislocations are REALLY PAINFUL! Heal fast! Thank You, it is still very painful, but getting a little better.
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Post by time4intimacy on Jun 28, 2018 0:30:05 GMT -5
How do you pop your shoulder out during sex?!!! My thoughts go to exotic tantric positions or overly enthusiastic thrusting. Well, I am not very good at drawing diagrams with stick people. I was a little too enthusiastic, I was balancing with one arm and she moved her body over quickly, I went with her without moving my hand position and my shoulder just popped out. Never happened before.
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Post by time4intimacy on Jun 28, 2018 0:33:51 GMT -5
And where-as 'business trips' appear to spark up a bit of rooting pre trip (and sometimes post trip) it's probably not realistic to embark on say 26 'business trips per' year in the hope of generating say, 52 roots a year. Do you see this situation as sustainable ? PS - shoulder dislocations hurt when you do them, and ain't it even better "fun" when they are putting them back in ?? In all honesty baza, my business trips sure don't help the intimacy. I take around 30 business trips a year. That should generate 60 roots a years, right? I have had many trips since the last time her and I had sex. It seems to be the international trips that provide the most benefit for me. If I don't count Mexico and Canada, I only take about 5 or 6 international trips a year.
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Post by catsloveme on Jun 28, 2018 8:41:15 GMT -5
“I take around 30 business trips a year. That should generate 60 roots a years, right? I have had many trips since the last time her and I had sex. It seems to be the international trips that provide the most benefit for me. If I don't count Mexico and Canada, I only take about 5 or 6 international trips a year.”
Does your wife ever accompany you on a trip? Or do you ever travel together? Does that change your dynamic or improve frequency / her interest?
(Wishing you speedy healing!)
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Post by time4intimacy on Jun 28, 2018 9:00:22 GMT -5
“I take around 30 business trips a year. That should generate 60 roots a years, right? I have had many trips since the last time her and I had sex. It seems to be the international trips that provide the most benefit for me. If I don't count Mexico and Canada, I only take about 5 or 6 international trips a year.” Does your wife ever accompany you on a trip? Or do you ever travel together? Does that change your dynamic or improve frequency / her interest? (Wishing you speedy healing!) My wife rarely accompanies me on business trips. She did a few times, but she realized I have so little down time on a trip, it is not worth it. We do travel for pleasure about 4 times a year. That use to almost, always mean a lot of sex, but we took several trips in a row with zero sex. The last trip we took, about 4 months ago did result in sex, which was the last time before Sunday we had sex again. I am hoping when I come home from this trip, there is hope.
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