Post by greatcoastal on Jun 25, 2018 4:46:42 GMT -5
My ex is a narc too! I've been divorced for 3 months. (after a 2yr. divorce, my ex went through 5 attorneys)
It's amazing the stories my teens tell me when it's their week to stay with me. It just confirms that I made the right decision, to get out.
Have you heard about greysexual? That fits my ex. Now comes the fun part of identifying a narc when the dating begins, and retraining my teens, that "it's okay to say no, and not be like that, and that they don't have to tolerate such behavior."
When your dealing with a sociopath or a narcissist, they can not love they just want to win.
They know how to seek out some of the kindest, most caring, giving, argument avoiding people out there, and abuse them.
My ex was certainly 'capable' of sex when it was time to procreate, and the 'just enough' during our first years of marriage.
I look back and remember her answers to our therapist about sex and intimacy.
She proclaimed " I don't see the need for it. It's not that important to me. it really doesn't matter".
So it's someone who "can" have sex, is capable of it, sort of has a small desire for it, when it fits their needs. Mostly ,enough to love bomb you in the beginning stage, or a bait and switch, then it's "nothing but small pecks, and a few scripted words.
Just enough to keep you fooled and going into years of doubt and a false "settling or contentment". The big "why" stage begins and lasts, and lasts.
Will my ex be capable of having sex again? Will it be more bait and switch to the next victim? I doubt it. Even more important, "it's no longer my problem, or my concern....FREEDOM!!!"
Well, enough about that, al that downer stuff!
You go out their and have a pleasant day, spoil your beautiful self!!
I hope you have a day full of wonderful compliments, YOU DESERVE IT!
Post by GeekGoddess on Jun 25, 2018 10:03:55 GMT -5
Good to see you post again, pointbreakgirl. We ARE surrounded by narcissists, I feel like. Most especially in our SMs, and sadly I’m some of my dating since divorce I have found myself attracted to similar. I’m very wary now, not look out for a person without this trait. I have work to do on ME to figure out why my “spark” is triggered by people who do not, in the end, seem to care for/about me.
I used to post a lot about my sexless marriage. I have been divorced now for several years. 🎉😁
Since my divorce, I have put up with continued bs bc of custody/visitation, you name it.
Turns out my x is a narcissist!
I have done a lot of reading up on narcissists (because we are surrounded by them shockingly enough!) It turns out there are several sexual styles of narcissists. One is hypersexuality, and the other is A-sexuality.
Just say no to narcissists! CHOO CHOO!! 🤠
Oh, welcome to the club. I had NO idea mine was an abusive narcissist. Just thought I was fat, ugly and needy. Turns out it was him that had the problem. Have now spent 18 months being subjected to his games. Every one is a confirmation that I did the right thing......
misssunnybunny: You're welcome! So glad to hear you had a great day
Jan 19, 2019 16:34:01 GMT -5
worksforme2: anyone hear anything lately from mrslowmaintenance or smartkat?
Jan 24, 2019 18:06:02 GMT -5
petrushka: Just saw the forecast for Mildura at 47C -- I hope you and Ms. Enna are going to be ok Baz. That's getting dangerous.
Jan 24, 2019 20:10:00 GMT -5
lifeinwoodinville: I last heard from mrslowmaintenance about a month ago. I have been in regular contact with her for the last year and a half. I feel comfortable in saying that her situation remains unchanged. If you want to know more PM me.
Jan 25, 2019 22:36:50 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey baza,...I know it's hot and dry down under. N.C. is having record rainfall. I would gladly trade some rain for some sunshine....
Feb 22, 2019 20:28:35 GMT -5
tamara68: Today it's steak and blowjob day! I suppose the steak is for those who don't get a blowjob.
Mar 14, 2019 16:49:49 GMT -5
petrushka: tamara68 Laughing with tears in my eyes. And my steak is going to be semolina gruel, due to some tummy upset :-\
Mar 15, 2019 1:11:10 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: So sad to hear the news from New Zealand. Boston Strong supports Kiwi Strong!!
Mar 15, 2019 7:46:22 GMT -5
petrushka: I was gobsmacked when I heard. This is just not us. In all of 2017 we had 37 murders in the country ..... I think the echo chambers of "social media" have a lot to answer for.
Mar 15, 2019 18:45:45 GMT -5
baza: Feeling for our Brothers and Sisters across the ditch Brother petrushka .
Mar 15, 2019 19:27:50 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: petrushka, I thought I read the headline wrong (this stuff happens here, not in NZ). It is frightening the hate that is being spread; it makes my heart hurt.
Mar 15, 2019 20:46:54 GMT -5
saarinista: All of us, IMHO, should try to be civil and kind as much as possible in person and online. I actively Tweet (civilly) on political matters and am horrified by the rancor & trolling on both sides of the spectrum, which only inflames unstable people.
Mar 19, 2019 23:21:20 GMT -5
saarinista: is anyone else watching March Madness?
Mar 24, 2019 11:44:48 GMT -5