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Post by flashjohn on Jun 28, 2018 13:20:51 GMT -5
And for those who have stayed for decades, is that a large reason why you’ve stayed? Because you don’t want to cause pain to your spouse? If so, do you regret your decision? That was part of the reason. However, now I realize that I cared about her because I wanted to be liked & needed. However, that attitude lost me almost 30 years. And yes, I was stupid. I lost most of my life to someone who did not give a shit about me. What really helped was a few meetings with Codependent's anonymous. I realized that I am not responsible for another person's happiness.
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Post by flashjohn on Jun 28, 2018 13:22:48 GMT -5
Shyndude said: “I would be surprised if she could find another partner, though. ” Why? She did find and hold onto you.... I was young and stupid and trying to show my parents that I can make an adult decision despite their accurate misgivings about her. Did I mention stupid? I am right with you there.
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