Post by Deleted on Jun 10, 2018 15:21:50 GMT -5
My point in writing this is not to make cheating easy. It is for those for whom outsourcing is a necessary move, people who do not want to ruin their marriages at this time.
Last year I wrote a quick guide to keeping anonymous when talking to people, specifically potential APs, online. Here it is, slightly updated:
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First, create a completely separate electronic identity that has NOTHING to do with your real life. A new email, completely new nickname for all accounts, new Skype.
(Be careful with Skype because you have to remember to log out of your Skype accounts if you use it for both you real life and your alternate life.)
Only browse to sites like this or SW or Ashley Madison or whatever using incognito mode on your browser. (Facebook too if you want. ) Yes, you'll have to type the full URL in every time. Sorry.
Similarly, on your phone, download a different browser (or use incognito mode) and hide it as best you can. If you are super paranoid, get a burner phone.
Be careful allowing your kids to play with your phone!
Be careful about sharing your photo and especially any photos/videos that could be blackmail fodder.
A Google Voice account gives you a new number. But it has to be associated with a real number. However, you can make phone calls from Google Hangouts.
You can also use a free conference call service and arrange phone conversations on there, so both parties remain anonymous. If that is too much of a pain, at a minimum, block caller ID when you call someone. But your phone bill will still show the number you called if you don't use a separate voice over IP service.
Whatsapp has great security but uses real phone numbers so unless you have a dedicated phone, forget it.
Kik chat is nice in that you can just make up a user ID without associating it with anything else. It supports video chat as well. So altogether it is a very nice tool. (It also has groups for finding like minded people, although I don't know much about that.)
Delete old conversations that might be compromising on sites like Similar Worlds.
Never tell anyone your real full name until you are VERY sure who they are. Period. If someone insists on knowing your full name, they might just be cautious, but you need to be, too., until you trust them.
Of course, only meet people in public the first time if you get to that point.
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Things get more complicated for actual meetings.
I am not talking about one night stands. I have no idea how to do them, either logistically or emotionally.
Hopefully at this point you know the person you are meeting, you have had hours of conversations, and know each others' names and have Googled each other to make sure that their stories checked out, and you have a level of trust. If something seems off, then do not meet!
Make sure your phone (especially Android) has location services turned off months before the meeting, not the day of. To see if Google is tracking your location history, just go to www.google.com/maps/timeline and prepare to be scared at what Google might know about you. (Even photos you take at each location are saved unless you turn off the feature!)
It is hard to give a guide to alibis. If it can give your spouse reason to be suspicious, don't use it. It is better to wait months for the ideal time to meet than to scratch the itch now if there is a tiny chance that two families will be ruined.
If you are meeting during the day, DayUse.com shows local, good hotels that you can reserve for a few hours in the daytime. You may need your ID to prove who you are for reservations but you can pay with cash and there is no paper trail.
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Any other ideas?
Last year I wrote a quick guide to keeping anonymous when talking to people, specifically potential APs, online. Here it is, slightly updated:
=========================
First, create a completely separate electronic identity that has NOTHING to do with your real life. A new email, completely new nickname for all accounts, new Skype.
(Be careful with Skype because you have to remember to log out of your Skype accounts if you use it for both you real life and your alternate life.)
Only browse to sites like this or SW or Ashley Madison or whatever using incognito mode on your browser. (Facebook too if you want. ) Yes, you'll have to type the full URL in every time. Sorry.
Similarly, on your phone, download a different browser (or use incognito mode) and hide it as best you can. If you are super paranoid, get a burner phone.
Be careful allowing your kids to play with your phone!
Be careful about sharing your photo and especially any photos/videos that could be blackmail fodder.
A Google Voice account gives you a new number. But it has to be associated with a real number. However, you can make phone calls from Google Hangouts.
You can also use a free conference call service and arrange phone conversations on there, so both parties remain anonymous. If that is too much of a pain, at a minimum, block caller ID when you call someone. But your phone bill will still show the number you called if you don't use a separate voice over IP service.
Whatsapp has great security but uses real phone numbers so unless you have a dedicated phone, forget it.
Kik chat is nice in that you can just make up a user ID without associating it with anything else. It supports video chat as well. So altogether it is a very nice tool. (It also has groups for finding like minded people, although I don't know much about that.)
Delete old conversations that might be compromising on sites like Similar Worlds.
Never tell anyone your real full name until you are VERY sure who they are. Period. If someone insists on knowing your full name, they might just be cautious, but you need to be, too., until you trust them.
Of course, only meet people in public the first time if you get to that point.
=====================================
Things get more complicated for actual meetings.
I am not talking about one night stands. I have no idea how to do them, either logistically or emotionally.
Hopefully at this point you know the person you are meeting, you have had hours of conversations, and know each others' names and have Googled each other to make sure that their stories checked out, and you have a level of trust. If something seems off, then do not meet!
Make sure your phone (especially Android) has location services turned off months before the meeting, not the day of. To see if Google is tracking your location history, just go to www.google.com/maps/timeline and prepare to be scared at what Google might know about you. (Even photos you take at each location are saved unless you turn off the feature!)
It is hard to give a guide to alibis. If it can give your spouse reason to be suspicious, don't use it. It is better to wait months for the ideal time to meet than to scratch the itch now if there is a tiny chance that two families will be ruined.
If you are meeting during the day, DayUse.com shows local, good hotels that you can reserve for a few hours in the daytime. You may need your ID to prove who you are for reservations but you can pay with cash and there is no paper trail.
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Any other ideas?