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Post by thebaffledking on Jun 3, 2018 9:03:34 GMT -5
I am out. I am free. This is still raw, but I finally did it. I have been through hell a dozen times...…….but I finally did it.
I can't write anymore now but for those who remember me...…..I did it.
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Post by bballgirl on Jun 3, 2018 9:07:45 GMT -5
I remember you from EP and I'm happy you gave yourself this gift. Enjoy the rest of your life!
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Post by ironhamster on Jun 3, 2018 9:22:54 GMT -5
Congratulations, thebaffledking. I am new since your last appearance, but I am out, too. Almost out. Legal and financial strings still tie me down a bit.
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Post by misssunnybunny on Jun 3, 2018 11:54:51 GMT -5
I also remember you from EP. Congrats on escaping, and best of luck in opposite land!
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Post by GeekGoddess on Jun 3, 2018 16:29:21 GMT -5
I remember you - and congratulations on standing up for your own life.
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Post by shamwow on Jun 4, 2018 12:25:32 GMT -5
I am out. I am free. This is still raw, but I finally did it. I have been through hell a dozen times...…….but I finally did it. I can't write anymore now but for those who remember me...…..I did it. Had given you up for dead brother. Congrats!
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Post by thebaffledking on Jun 4, 2018 12:43:09 GMT -5
I will just add this.......I have heard all of the textbook things from her........"You're doing this just because I won't have sex with you?"(it's been ten years since we had our last) "You never listen, you never do", "I don't remember ever saying that!" (and it was a biggie - that I could see a prostitute if I wanted sex)........"You're going to throw all this away, throw your family away, miss out on weddings and special occasions?" "I'm homeless now, I could be homeless for months! You're leaving me with nothing!" (and we hadn't even talked finances yet)...........one thing I have not nor will I ever hear in this matter? "I love you".
If you're thinking of leaving, trust me on this: no one ground themselves to the bone, psychologically, on getting to that point more than me. I about destroyed myself in the process.seriously.....I'm lucky to be alive.
Advice: GET THE FUCK OUT AT ANY AND ALL COST. AND DO IT NOW.
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Post by choosinghappy on Jun 4, 2018 12:48:46 GMT -5
I’m sorry to hear you basically destroyed yourself psychologically, trying to make this work.
But I’m glad you feel proud of yourself for making the decision and leaving. Good for you.
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Post by saarinista on Jun 4, 2018 15:33:42 GMT -5
I’m sorry to hear you basically destroyed yourself psychologically, trying to make this work. But I’m glad you feel proud of yourself for making the decision and leaving. Good for you. Ditto on what lonelywifey said.
Like Phoenix (the bird, not the city) you shall rise from the ashes..because you are not just Standing outside the fire . You did the deal Better days are ahead.
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Post by Caris on Jun 4, 2018 16:54:32 GMT -5
Good for you. Just take the time to heal for awhile. Divorce can be traumatic, so be kind and patient with yourself. All the best.
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