With having 6 teens all at once I can relate to this article. Throw in a divorce in the middle of this time of disconnect and finding yourself, it's easy to think, "they want nothing to do with me, ever again, what happened to the good ol'days?"
I occasionally need an article that encourages me to "give it time, they come around".
And, fwiw, I don't believe that the kids "come around".
Rather, they (and you) form new relationships as they grow and as you grow.
Your relationship with an infant subtly changes as they become a toddler, then a kindergarten kid, then a school kid, then a teenager etc etc etc all the way on to when they are adults. Even then the relationship continues its' development (or, at times, regression)
My kids (adults now) have very different attitudes to what they had as teenagers (thank fuck !!) They still make (what I regard as) poor choices at times (just like I do) but there's a level of mutual respect there that wasn't greatly evident in their teenage years.
You've done a helluva job Brother greatcoastal . With that tribe of kids you've been juggling all sorts of relationships with all your kids, each at different stages, each unique. I was "lucky". Only had 2 and they were nearly 7 years apart, so one was coming out the end of teenagerism just as the other was going in to it. So I got a bit of a "breather".
Post by mypaintbrushes on May 12, 2018 11:05:16 GMT -5
My son turns 15 at the end of this month, and he hasn’t pulled away just yet. In fact, we may be doing something to celebrate our birthdays - which are 12 days apart - together.
He’s an only child, and has a mild disability. Maybe once he matures more, he’ll pull away. I’m looking forward to him gaining his independence but am in no hurry to see it happen. He’s a super sweet, loving kid!
Post by tooyoungtobeold on May 15, 2018 16:55:36 GMT -5
My kids are 18, 20 and 21 and have all pulled away and returned emotionally to the family in their own ways and own time. My daughter started at 13 and is just ending, one time my wife just started sobbing and said, "maybe it's not a phase, maybe she's just a bitch". God, that was a funny line but turns out she's fine. My 20 year old who never pulled away (typical get-along middle kid) is doing it right now. Honestly, it's waaaaay easier when they're younger.
solodriver: Happy Birthday shamwow!!
Oct 11, 2018 20:35:02 GMT -5
shynjdude: Andie seems to have deleted her account here. Hope she's OK.
Oct 12, 2018 9:41:52 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Oh, no! I hope she is okay...
Oct 12, 2018 15:31:30 GMT -5
solodriver: Maybe over what happened last weekend with the discussion board men vs. women
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jetcity: Had to have my cat put down today. He was very old and he let us know it was time this morning. My wife went to visit her mother today So now It’s just me, the cats and dog and a couple cold beers. Now that’s a party right?
Oct 12, 2018 21:57:32 GMT -5
solodriver: So sorry jetcity, I've done that many times over the years, never gets any easier.
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jetcity: I managed to create an avatar! The beard and mustache are kind of funky though.
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caballotierra: Hey all, I setup a new account since my W figured out my login and was using my posts against me. Since we're going through divorce, I thought it would be safer to remove my old name. Although I feel attached to it.
Oct 15, 2018 16:12:30 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Oh, wow. Sorry that happened to you!
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caballotierra: Does anyone know how to delete my old account? Right now, it's still searchable, which is a problem.
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