Just happened to meet with an attorney yesterday here in my state in the Midwest just to get an idea of what a divorce might look like. Mine would be brutal in terms of cost. With regard to fault, my attorney indicated that my state is a no fault state, so no reason needs to be given for the cause of the divorce (and she indicated that most good attorneys won't put the reason into the divorce record to protect the parties unless someone is trying to make a point). The impact an affair can have here in my state is to cause the party having the affair to have to reimburse assets to the marital estate that were spent on the affair. (i.e. if you are taking your AP on a vacation, buying them gifts, etc., you may have to reimburse these funds and/or your share of the divorce award may be reduced by the amounts that you spent going outside the marriage). I guess the message is that you if are going to have an AP, find one that doesn't have expensive taste or has their own resources.
I was also told that here in my state, if you choose to go the divorce route, continue to live the life you were living before the divorce. Don't spend extravagantly, don't transfer assets out of the marital estate, don't go crazy, etc.
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