Post by northstarmom on Oct 13, 2018 9:10:18 GMT -5
“ The last time I talked to my grandma she told me, that since he didn't molest the kids, he couldn't be that bad. He didn't leave me while I had 3 kids with autism. So she doesn't feel too bad about how he treats me. And that is that. she doesn't see him as the sociopath he is. And now my step-daughter got mad at me because I told my daughter that I wanted her to have a good husband. Not like her dad.
My step-daughter doesn't see him as doing anything bad. “
Your family is very dysfunctional so you will never get their support for leaving the man they arranged for you to marry. Turning to them for help or support is a waste of your time.
A while ago, I posted for you a link to an online site with low cost therapy from licensed mental health counselors. They also had extra help to make more affordable for low income people. I no longer have that info but you probably could google and find it. There also is free help available through domestic abuse hotlines.
You are the only one who can change your life. Your husband isn’t going to become nicer. Your extended family will not become more supportive. You are in a very difficult situation that is not going to improve unless you take steps under your control to get out of it. That includes talking to a lawyer to find out your rights.
Post by ironhamster on Oct 13, 2018 11:01:43 GMT -5
I do not know what the laws of Alaska allow, but in Illinois they throw the book at the income earner. You need to visit a divorce lawyer to see how things would shake out. I bet you'd do ok and be much happier.
Post by northstarmom on Oct 14, 2018 7:26:28 GMT -5
The people you probably can trust: iliasm, a lawyer and a therapist, domestic abuse volunteers and staff. People you can’t trust: your relatives, religious leader, acquaintances and friends in your place of worship.
misssunnybunny: I'm also very sad to see that andie is gone
Oct 22, 2018 16:25:07 GMT -5
jim44444: hmisssunnybunny not only did andie delete her existence here she also deleted her tumblr account. Maybe her hubby found her online postings.
Oct 22, 2018 19:52:59 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Oh, no! Hope she is okay...
Oct 22, 2018 20:00:25 GMT -5
solodriver: I'm sad andie is gone too. She reached out to me when I first joined the group at a time when I was really sick, and talked to me everyday until I was well again and shared a lot of her stories with me.
Oct 22, 2018 20:58:28 GMT -5
isthisit: Apologies for being a techno numpty- can anyone help me to send a PM? When I choose the member as a recipient the error message indicating a staff member is required. Eh?
Nov 6, 2018 15:03:40 GMT -5
solodriver: isthisit you cannot send PMs until your membership changes to member
Nov 6, 2018 21:41:58 GMT -5
isthisit: Thanks solodriver and shynjdude for your replies. Is there some info somewhere about these divisions? I have had a mooch around and haven't come across it yet.
Nov 8, 2018 10:22:28 GMT -5
solodriver: I think it is/was under the Welcome tab, but not sure where.
Nov 8, 2018 21:52:19 GMT -5