Post by northstarmom on Oct 13, 2018 9:10:18 GMT -5
“ The last time I talked to my grandma she told me, that since he didn't molest the kids, he couldn't be that bad. He didn't leave me while I had 3 kids with autism. So she doesn't feel too bad about how he treats me. And that is that. she doesn't see him as the sociopath he is. And now my step-daughter got mad at me because I told my daughter that I wanted her to have a good husband. Not like her dad.
My step-daughter doesn't see him as doing anything bad. “
Your family is very dysfunctional so you will never get their support for leaving the man they arranged for you to marry. Turning to them for help or support is a waste of your time.
A while ago, I posted for you a link to an online site with low cost therapy from licensed mental health counselors. They also had extra help to make more affordable for low income people. I no longer have that info but you probably could google and find it. There also is free help available through domestic abuse hotlines.
You are the only one who can change your life. Your husband isn’t going to become nicer. Your extended family will not become more supportive. You are in a very difficult situation that is not going to improve unless you take steps under your control to get out of it. That includes talking to a lawyer to find out your rights.
Post by ironhamster on Oct 13, 2018 11:01:43 GMT -5
I do not know what the laws of Alaska allow, but in Illinois they throw the book at the income earner. You need to visit a divorce lawyer to see how things would shake out. I bet you'd do ok and be much happier.
Post by northstarmom on Oct 14, 2018 7:26:28 GMT -5
The people you probably can trust: iliasm, a lawyer and a therapist, domestic abuse volunteers and staff. People you can’t trust: your relatives, religious leader, acquaintances and friends in your place of worship.
misssunnybunny: You're welcome! So glad to hear you had a great day
Jan 19, 2019 16:34:01 GMT -5
worksforme2: anyone hear anything lately from mrslowmaintenance or smartkat?
Jan 24, 2019 18:06:02 GMT -5
petrushka: Just saw the forecast for Mildura at 47C -- I hope you and Ms. Enna are going to be ok Baz. That's getting dangerous.
Jan 24, 2019 20:10:00 GMT -5
lifeinwoodinville: I last heard from mrslowmaintenance about a month ago. I have been in regular contact with her for the last year and a half. I feel comfortable in saying that her situation remains unchanged. If you want to know more PM me.
Jan 25, 2019 22:36:50 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey baza,...I know it's hot and dry down under. N.C. is having record rainfall. I would gladly trade some rain for some sunshine....
Feb 22, 2019 20:28:35 GMT -5
tamara68: Today it's steak and blowjob day! I suppose the steak is for those who don't get a blowjob.
Mar 14, 2019 16:49:49 GMT -5
petrushka: tamara68 Laughing with tears in my eyes. And my steak is going to be semolina gruel, due to some tummy upset :-\
Mar 15, 2019 1:11:10 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: So sad to hear the news from New Zealand. Boston Strong supports Kiwi Strong!!
Mar 15, 2019 7:46:22 GMT -5
petrushka: I was gobsmacked when I heard. This is just not us. In all of 2017 we had 37 murders in the country ..... I think the echo chambers of "social media" have a lot to answer for.
Mar 15, 2019 18:45:45 GMT -5
baza: Feeling for our Brothers and Sisters across the ditch Brother petrushka .
Mar 15, 2019 19:27:50 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: petrushka, I thought I read the headline wrong (this stuff happens here, not in NZ). It is frightening the hate that is being spread; it makes my heart hurt.
Mar 15, 2019 20:46:54 GMT -5
saarinista: All of us, IMHO, should try to be civil and kind as much as possible in person and online. I actively Tweet (civilly) on political matters and am horrified by the rancor & trolling on both sides of the spectrum, which only inflames unstable people.
Mar 19, 2019 23:21:20 GMT -5
saarinista: is anyone else watching March Madness?
Mar 24, 2019 11:44:48 GMT -5