Deleted
Deleted Member
Posts: 0
|
Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2018 0:37:20 GMT -5
Tonight while she was at her computer and I was at mine I googled.
Yep, he I was googling sensitive men. I even found a category of HSM, highly sensitive men. So I asked wife if I was a sensitive man. (I know that I am and that she would say yes, but being a sensitive man, I had to ask anyway)
apparently I am very sensitive man. I know I am but what are you?
What has this got to do with SM? SEX...yep, us sensitive men are, apparently, good lovers. There were many articles and other references that said that women should, and often do, choose sensitive men. You know what? These sensitive men turn out to be really good lovers. Also it was said that these guys are much more concerned about her pleasure rather then theirs. They will even forgo their own orgasm for the sake of hers. I certainly know that I am this way. Also the more the ladies enjoy our pleasuring them the more we like it. Does that sound a bit like feminine sexuality? Sometimes I think it does.
I have often wondered how I appear to people, especially women. Do I appear sensitive, I think? There have been times that I have been a little insecure about this. I dont want to appear to be a sissy. Is it a fine line that we sensitive men walk? I cant tell as I am me. I like this about me though, even if it may have cost me some dates....
a few years ago I met up with "my first girl". We dated for a year and each took the others virginity, back in the 70s (lol). Back then she was a bit wild and enjoyed dating a lot. So I know that she has been with a fair amount of men. She was even married for 15 years. She told me how great a lover I was compared to the other men and the she did not appreciate it at the time. We are now FB friends. Wife even likes her and is her FB friend. Funny thing life is.
so where am I going with this? I have no fucking idea. It is almost 2 am and my mind is liquid. I will say good night, take a shower, collect wife, and go to bed, tuck her in, and pet the kitty.I have been having lots of trouble sleeping. I keep hearing my heart beat in my head. Lub dub, lub dub, 57 beats per minute.
Maybe I just wanted to say that I am a sensitive guy and let you know.... now you know.
|
|
|
Post by baza on Mar 26, 2018 1:36:23 GMT -5
Ah well, the scourge of ILIASM is completely egalitarian. Male/Female, Rich/Poor, Tall/Short, Fat/Skinny, Religious/Heathen, Sensitive/Insensitive. ILIASM plays no favourites.
Nor does insomnia ! Sleep well Brother @lostsoul.
|
|
|
Post by elynne on Mar 26, 2018 3:46:25 GMT -5
Tonight while she was at her computer and I was at mine I googled. Yep, he I was googling sensitive men. I even found a category of HSM, highly sensitive men. So I asked wife if I was a sensitive man. (I know that I am and that she would say yes, but being a sensitive man, I had to ask anyway) apparently I am very sensitive man. I know I am but what are you? What has this got to do with SM? SEX...yep, us sensitive men are, apparently, good lovers. There were many articles and other references that said that women should, and often do, choose sensitive men. You know what? These sensitive men turn out to be really good lovers. Also it was said that these guys are much more concerned about her pleasure rather then theirs. They will even forgo their own orgasm for the sake of hers. I certainly know that I am this way. Also the more the ladies enjoy our pleasuring them the more we like it. Does that sound a bit like feminine sexuality? Sometimes I think it does. I have often wondered how I appear to people, especially women. Do I appear sensitive, I think? There have been times that I have been a little insecure about this. I dont want to appear to be a sissy. Is it a fine line that we sensitive men walk? I cant tell as I am me. I like this about me though, even if it may have cost me some dates.... a few years ago I met up with "my first girl". We dated for a year and each took the others virginity, back in the 70s (lol). Back then she was a bit wild and enjoyed dating a lot. So I know that she has been with a fair amount of men. She was even married for 15 years. She told me how great a lover I was compared to the other men and the she did not appreciate it at the time. We are now FB friends. Wife even likes her and is her FB friend. Funny thing life is. so where am I going with this? I have no fucking idea. It is almost 2 am and my mind is liquid. I will say good night, take a shower, collect wife, and go to bed, tuck her in, and pet the kitty.I have been having lots of trouble sleeping. I keep hearing my heart beat in my head. Lub dub, lub dub, 57 beats per minute. Maybe I just wanted to say that I am a sensitive guy and let you know.... now you know. I want to say I think it takes enormous strength to be sensitive. To be open. To be vulnerable. I think you should take pride in your sensitivity. Cherish it as a unique aspect of who you are. I think there is nothing sexier than someone being sensitive and strong. That combination is truly beautiful. Hold your head high @lostsoul. And get some sleep! Everything is a bit easier when you take care of yourself.
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Posts: 0
|
Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2018 5:46:20 GMT -5
Tonight while she was at her computer and I was at mine I googled. Yep, he I was googling sensitive men. I even found a category of HSM, highly sensitive men. So I asked wife if I was a sensitive man. (I know that I am and that she would say yes, but being a sensitive man, I had to ask anyway) apparently I am very sensitive man. I know I am but what are you? What has this got to do with SM? SEX...yep, us sensitive men are, apparently, good lovers. There were many articles and other references that said that women should, and often do, choose sensitive men. You know what? These sensitive men turn out to be really good lovers. Also it was said that these guys are much more concerned about her pleasure rather then theirs. They will even forgo their own orgasm for the sake of hers. I certainly know that I am this way. Also the more the ladies enjoy our pleasuring them the more we like it. Does that sound a bit like feminine sexuality? Sometimes I think it does. I have often wondered how I appear to people, especially women. Do I appear sensitive, I think? There have been times that I have been a little insecure about this. I dont want to appear to be a sissy. Is it a fine line that we sensitive men walk? I cant tell as I am me. I like this about me though, even if it may have cost me some dates.... a few years ago I met up with "my first girl". We dated for a year and each took the others virginity, back in the 70s (lol). Back then she was a bit wild and enjoyed dating a lot. So I know that she has been with a fair amount of men. She was even married for 15 years. She told me how great a lover I was compared to the other men and the she did not appreciate it at the time. We are now FB friends. Wife even likes her and is her FB friend. Funny thing life is. so where am I going with this? I have no fucking idea. It is almost 2 am and my mind is liquid. I will say good night, take a shower, collect wife, and go to bed, tuck her in, and pet the kitty.I have been having lots of trouble sleeping. I keep hearing my heart beat in my head. Lub dub, lub dub, 57 beats per minute. Maybe I just wanted to say that I am a sensitive guy and let you know.... now you know. I want to say I think it takes enormous strength to be sensitive. To be open. To be vulnerable. I think you should take pride in your sensitivity. Cherish it as a unique aspect of who you are. I think there is nothing sexier than someone being sensitive and strong. That combination is truly beautiful. Hold your head high @lostsoul . And get some sleep! Everything is a bit easier when you take care of yourself. Thank you. I am still awake. Was in bed, watched a movie, watched you tube, now I am have and it is 630...oh well. My mom told me I was sensitive when I was in grade school. I wondered if she may have thought I was going to be gay, LOL. I like that I am sensitive, but it is painful at times. Save
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Posts: 0
|
Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2018 5:49:46 GMT -5
Ah well, the scourge of ILIASM is completely egalitarian. Male/Female, Rich/Poor, Tall/Short, Fat/Skinny, Religious/Heathen, Sensitive/Insensitive. ILIASM plays no favourites. Nor does insomnia ! Sleep well Brother @lostsoul . Thanks B, I have never slept much or well. Since my 30s I sleep about 4 1/2 hours a night. In my 20s I often slept every other day. For the past few weeks I cant sleep at all. It is pure crazy. Save
|
|
|
Post by shamwow on Mar 28, 2018 18:02:32 GMT -5
Ah well, the scourge of ILIASM is completely egalitarian. Male/Female, Rich/Poor, Tall/Short, Fat/Skinny, Religious/Heathen, Sensitive/Insensitive. ILIASM plays no favourites. Nor does insomnia ! Sleep well Brother @lostsoul. Can I check "all of the above?" Kind of depends on the day you're asking.
|
|
|
Post by darktippedrose on Mar 30, 2018 10:48:49 GMT -5
I am a woman and hypersensitive, physically and emotionally and I still get crap for it.
I think there's nothing wrong with being sensitive. For a man, there's a big difference between sensitive and gay. I've met plenty of sassy gay men who aren't sensitive at all. Only the ignorant can't tell the difference.
Its hard being sensitive. It truly is. I often get dismissed. Like its not a problem, I'm JUST sensitive that is all. Its hard. Hugs.
|
|
|
Post by northstarmom on Mar 30, 2018 12:01:42 GMT -5
I’d rather be with a sensitive man than an insensitive man.
|
|
firefollower
Full Member
Only you can prevent forest fires
Posts: 154
Age Range: 51-55
|
Post by firefollower on Mar 30, 2018 12:19:56 GMT -5
Tonight while she was at her computer and I was at mine I googled. Yep, he I was googling sensitive men. I even found a category of HSM, highly sensitive men. So I asked wife if I was a sensitive man. (I know that I am and that she would say yes, but being a sensitive man, I had to ask anyway) apparently I am very sensitive man. I know I am but what are you? What has this got to do with SM? SEX...yep, us sensitive men are, apparently, good lovers. There were many articles and other references that said that women should, and often do, choose sensitive men. You know what? These sensitive men turn out to be really good lovers. Also it was said that these guys are much more concerned about her pleasure rather then theirs. They will even forgo their own orgasm for the sake of hers. I certainly know that I am this way. Also the more the ladies enjoy our pleasuring them the more we like it. Does that sound a bit like feminine sexuality? Sometimes I think it does. I have often wondered how I appear to people, especially women. Do I appear sensitive, I think? There have been times that I have been a little insecure about this. I dont want to appear to be a sissy. Is it a fine line that we sensitive men walk? I cant tell as I am me. I like this about me though, even if it may have cost me some dates.... a few years ago I met up with "my first girl". We dated for a year and each took the others virginity, back in the 70s (lol). Back then she was a bit wild and enjoyed dating a lot. So I know that she has been with a fair amount of men. She was even married for 15 years. She told me how great a lover I was compared to the other men and the she did not appreciate it at the time. We are now FB friends. Wife even likes her and is her FB friend. Funny thing life is. so where am I going with this? I have no fucking idea. It is almost 2 am and my mind is liquid. I will say good night, take a shower, collect wife, and go to bed, tuck her in, and pet the kitty.I have been having lots of trouble sleeping. I keep hearing my heart beat in my head. Lub dub, lub dub, 57 beats per minute. Maybe I just wanted to say that I am a sensitive guy and let you know.... now you know.
|
|
firefollower
Full Member
Only you can prevent forest fires
Posts: 154
Age Range: 51-55
|
Post by firefollower on Mar 30, 2018 12:24:44 GMT -5
Lostsoul...I hear you...I have also been accused of being sensitive. Here is my take...it is awfully convenient when you are the refuser to justify why you are refusing by placing a label on the refused. "If I make him too sensitive then it explains why I am right for not wanting sex". Why is that he gets so upset about having sex...must be that he is too sensitive. What does it really matter anyways....no sex is a fact independent from whether or not you are too sensitive. It exists on it's own undisputed plain and simple.
|
|
|
Post by ihadalove on Mar 31, 2018 11:19:56 GMT -5
I'm in the sensitive camp. I've always been that way, often to my detriment. I actually don't understand how to relate to most men and don't share any common interests with them either.
|
|
|
Post by nyartgal on Mar 31, 2018 20:45:43 GMT -5
My (new) husband is very sensitive (in the best ways), and proud of it. He is very attuned to feelings, emotions, an incredibly generous friend, a selfless teacher, and thoughtful person in every way. The idea of hurting another person would horrify him.
He's also very manly, confident, and a rockstar in bed!
Seems to me that the problem isn't your sensitivity, it's being married to someone who doesn't appreciate it!
I had terrible insomnia while married to my ex when I was in a SM. In my experience, sexless marriages create terrible anxiety and loneliness, and that is a direct cause of not being able to sleep. It's like a psychological rash you can't itch and will never go away.
But, the moment I kicked him out my insomnia went away and I've never had that kind of chronic sleeplessness since! It also cured my digestive issues, migraines, and shoulder pain. I felt ten years younger the second he was out the door too.
Life is short...I hope you find a way to love yourself and who you are more, so you can find someone who loves you just as much.
|
|
firefollower
Full Member
Only you can prevent forest fires
Posts: 154
Age Range: 51-55
|
Post by firefollower on Mar 27, 2019 13:34:53 GMT -5
Ah well, the scourge of ILIASM is completely egalitarian. Male/Female, Rich/Poor, Tall/Short, Fat/Skinny, Religious/Heathen, Sensitive/Insensitive. ILIASM plays no favourites. Nor does insomnia ! Sleep well Brother @lostsoul. Yes, well said...SM the great equalizer.
|
|