Post by TheGreatContender -aka Daddeeo on Mar 4, 2018 8:37:36 GMT -5
"Marriage dates back to ancient societies. Our ancestors needed a safe environment in which to have children and a way to handle property rights. Marriages based on love didn’t become popular until the Romantic Era...:
Marriage, like anything, could be whatever the couple decides it is, if they would actually put thought or intentions into it before tying the knot. But, hindsight...
I love my intentional marriage. We DO have sex and commitment. Sure, together just 4 1/2 years, married 2 1/2.... will we be the same in 20 years, in our 60s? I hope so!! That's our shared goal anyway.
Those who feel lovable, who love, and who experience belonging simply believe they are worthy of love and belonging. - Brene Brown
Yes, the marriage contract is absolutely about property rights. But don't believe that people didn't fall in love and seek to form lifelong relationships. There are love poems The marriage contract is to support each other when things go wrong - esp. in the shaky days of bad health and no birth control.
This is from a love poem 4K years old.
Bridegroom, dear to my heart, Goodly is your beauty, honeysweet, Lion, dear to my heart, Goodly is your beauty, honeysweet.
You have captivated me, let me stand tremblingly before you. Bridegroom, I would be taken by you to the bedchamber, You have captivated me, let me stand tremblingly before you. Lion, I would be taken by you to the bedchamber.
Now as it happens, this poem might be about a symbolic marriage and not a real one, but still... There are Egyptian love notes seeking marriage. Yes, property rights evolve as does our understanding of family law, but the need to be desired is apparently pretty eternally human.
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