And, I think that a lack of self-awareness in many of our refusers is a big part of their inability to change.
In the case of my H (and others’ refusers?) I honestly think it’s a FEAR of self-awareness that leads to resistance to change rather than true inability.
Yup. Now where going near the "reasons for the fake mask" FEAR is a big one.
Which is really sad for our refusers and for us. So many fears are like worries. They really need to be no more than "concerns". And yet so many glorious aspects of life go un-attained never enjoyed, and we fail to tap into our full potential.
When I had issues with my husband's exes, it wasn't until I finally accepted I had the issues, felt the jealousy. But then instead of get pissed off at myself or damn myself for feeling such human emotions, I extended compassion to myself. There was a REASON I felt the way I did. I saw it. I accepted it. I was really able to move past it from that point.
What you RESIST PERSISTS.
It's true. Yet all around the world we RESIST thinking that will solve issues... it never freaking does. Banning drugs is "resisting" them... didn't work. I could go on, won't.
I just agree.
Those who feel lovable, who love, and who experience belonging simply believe they are worthy of love and belonging. - Brene Brown
worksforme2: hey nancyb, how are things perkolating with the older gentleman you spoke of a while back?
Jul 28, 2018 18:25:32 GMT -5
nancyb: worksforme2: Relationship died when we had a difference in opinion regarding UFO's and extraterrestrial beings. LOL I weighed in on the nay side and he believed they walk amongst us.
Jul 30, 2018 5:51:07 GMT -5
bc: I can’t stop laughing...go ahead, micromanage and analyze that marriage and see what she will do for you.
Jul 30, 2018 8:17:58 GMT -5
Dan: I think I'd have to see how good a new girlfriend was in the sack before I crossed her off the list -- or kicked her out of bed -- for believing in UFOs. I guess that makes me... male!
Jul 30, 2018 21:25:05 GMT -5
solodriver: It's been so long for me, I might see UFOs my first time. lol
Jul 31, 2018 1:42:47 GMT -5
beachguy: nancyb: He's right. It's all in the X Files, if you care to look.
Jul 31, 2018 3:45:13 GMT -5
nancyb: Dan: It was a tough decision, he was a good lover but the craziness ended things. Been dating since but nothing serious. I paint a lot.
Jul 31, 2018 5:57:00 GMT -5
petrushka: Thing is, someone being a fruit-loop about something like UFOs usually is not confined to one area; even if it is not immediately obvious. People who are nutty about one thing can go off at a tangent any time, I found (...out the hard way).
Jul 31, 2018 7:39:29 GMT -5
greatcoastal: nancyb: Sounds like you Identified a Fucking Object for what it truly is!
Jul 31, 2018 8:25:25 GMT -5
worksforme2: nancyb,...I am going to paint my living room soon as I can decide on the color.
Jul 31, 2018 19:15:08 GMT -5
worksforme2: When it comes to UFO's we always hear about "little green men", why are there never any "little green women"?
Aug 1, 2018 6:21:15 GMT -5
solodriver: I think I recall an episode of "Lost In Space where Dr. Smith was being chased by a green woman
Aug 1, 2018 21:29:17 GMT -5