And, I think that a lack of self-awareness in many of our refusers is a big part of their inability to change.
In the case of my H (and others’ refusers?) I honestly think it’s a FEAR of self-awareness that leads to resistance to change rather than true inability.
Yup. Now where going near the "reasons for the fake mask" FEAR is a big one.
Which is really sad for our refusers and for us. So many fears are like worries. They really need to be no more than "concerns". And yet so many glorious aspects of life go un-attained never enjoyed, and we fail to tap into our full potential.
When I had issues with my husband's exes, it wasn't until I finally accepted I had the issues, felt the jealousy. But then instead of get pissed off at myself or damn myself for feeling such human emotions, I extended compassion to myself. There was a REASON I felt the way I did. I saw it. I accepted it. I was really able to move past it from that point.
What you RESIST PERSISTS.
It's true. Yet all around the world we RESIST thinking that will solve issues... it never freaking does. Banning drugs is "resisting" them... didn't work. I could go on, won't.
I just agree.
Those who feel lovable, who love, and who experience belonging simply believe they are worthy of love and belonging. - Brene Brown
handy: Cutiecakes, I see you posted on another forum. How about copying that other post and place it here. It hase some very relevant information and I think this forum will be of more help.
Dec 3, 2018 17:17:52 GMT -5
worksforme2: Watching the funeral....RIP George Herbert Walker Bush
Dec 5, 2018 12:46:01 GMT -5
worksforme2: Man oh man, look at all that snow. Looks like snow cream is going to be on the menu today.
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