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Post by carl on Feb 17, 2018 11:08:46 GMT -5
When sexlessness crept upon my marriage I soon started to look for solutions. Doing some exercise today for myself and not for my marriage brought back memories of how in the past I had pushed my body hard, desperately at times, in case my physique was the problem. Or in case being ultra fit would kick start things. I tried loads of other stuff which didn’t actually involve changing me or my actual body but I had been thinking today of the long runs and the heavy weights that I unnecessarily put my body through. I remember the exhaustion and fatigue I experienced as now today I control my exertion as I don’t want to fix a sexless marriage with my body but just want to stay fit. Of course it never changed anything when I worked so hard on myself but the memories made me wonder what kind of things other people have put their selves or their bodies through in order to try to resolve the refusals. Did anyone ever injure themselves working out take on harsh diets, waste hard earned money or undergo unnecessay prodeures even.
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Post by obobfla on Feb 17, 2018 11:20:34 GMT -5
carl, I really should have your problem. When I do exercise, I tend to go at it too hard at first then burn myself out. I need to start again, going slowly and building myself up. I need to get in shape to have sex again.
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Post by ironhamster on Feb 17, 2018 12:32:30 GMT -5
My wife never had interest no matter if I was in my best shape or my worst.
Money? Flowers? Nice dinners? Vacations? New vehicles? All flops. Heck, until this year, every time I purchased a new vehicle for her I would ask to have sex in it. No vehicle was ever properly christened. Not by her, anyway, and not until this year.
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Post by idgaf96 on Feb 17, 2018 15:16:37 GMT -5
My wife never had interest no matter if I was in my best shape or my worst. Money? Flowers? Nice dinners? Vacations? New vehicles? All flops. Heck, until this year, every time I purchased a new vehicle for her I would ask to have sex in it. No vehicle was ever properly christened. Not by her, anyway, and not until this year.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 17, 2018 16:05:41 GMT -5
Changing yourself, FOR yourself, never hurts and always helps. Changing yourself for another person... never works. Be the change you wish to see in yourself and the world. And choose change before change chooses you. I don't think I've ever said so many variations of the word /change/ so many times in one post.
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Post by lwoetin on Feb 17, 2018 16:31:35 GMT -5
And choose change before change chooses you. hi, my name is change. Big Change.
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Post by choosinghappy on Feb 17, 2018 17:46:16 GMT -5
My wife never had interest no matter if I was in my best shape or my worst. Ditto with my H. Unfortunately, that meant I stopped trying/caring and now that I'm planning to leave I have to get back in shape again. But for ME this time. (And, let's face it, a hopeful future relationship.)
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Post by Deleted on Feb 17, 2018 18:17:49 GMT -5
And choose change before change chooses you. hi, my name is change. Big Change. Possible responses to this post: A: Mmm, I love Change, especially Big Change. B: Do tell, Lwoetin. There's gotta be a story (or a joke) behind a post like that.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 17, 2018 18:27:18 GMT -5
FYI, I am probably the most literal person I know, so while I think there's a joke there lwoetin, I was half-hoping there was real change in your world. (Elle hits head with hand, feeling dense.)
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Post by lwoetin on Feb 18, 2018 0:12:20 GMT -5
hi, my name is change. Big Change. Possible responses to this post: A: Mmm, I love Change, especially Big Change. B: Do tell, Lwoetin. There's gotta be a story (or a joke) behind a post like that. none. Change sounds like a cool name. Kinda like Rich. He's Rich, I'm not. Sorry, just another crappy weekend.
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Post by choosinghappy on Feb 18, 2018 7:50:37 GMT -5
Are you guys speaking in code? Lol
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Post by saarinista on Feb 19, 2018 1:45:32 GMT -5
My wife never had interest no matter if I was in my best shape or my worst. Money? Flowers? Nice dinners? Vacations? New vehicles? All flops. Heck, until this year, every time I purchased a new vehicle for her I would ask to have sex in it. No vehicle was ever properly christened. Not by her, anyway, and not until this year. what's your status? ironhamster I only ask because I could use a new car-and I put out! 😁🤣😂
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Post by saarinista on Feb 19, 2018 1:49:01 GMT -5
My wife never had interest no matter if I was in my best shape or my worst. Ditto with my H. Unfortunately, that meant I stopped trying/caring and now that I'm planning to leave I have to get back in shape again. But for ME this time. (And, let's face it, a hopeful future relationship.) Come on choosinghappy let's face it: nobody ever gets in shape for themselves! If not for concerns about what the rest of the world would think of us including, hopefully, future paramours, we'd probably all weigh 500 lbs. 😁kidding/not kidding
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Post by ironhamster on Feb 19, 2018 2:06:30 GMT -5
My wife never had interest no matter if I was in my best shape or my worst. Money? Flowers? Nice dinners? Vacations? New vehicles? All flops. Heck, until this year, every time I purchased a new vehicle for her I would ask to have sex in it. No vehicle was ever properly christened. Not by her, anyway, and not until this year. what's your status? ironhamster I only ask because I could use a new car-and I put out! 😁🤣😂 LOL! Seven months ago we might have been able to work something out. My status is complicated. My wife has the papers to give me, but won't. The only commitment I have with idgaf96 is that we will be honest with each other. That being said, I am quite infatuated with her at every level and neither looking for nor accepting applications.
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Post by h on Feb 19, 2018 5:31:41 GMT -5
Ditto with my H. Unfortunately, that meant I stopped trying/caring and now that I'm planning to leave I have to get back in shape again. But for ME this time. (And, let's face it, a hopeful future relationship.) Come on choosinghappy let's face it: nobody ever gets in shape for themselves! If not for concerns about what the rest of the world would think of us including, hopefully, future paramours, we'd probably all weigh 500 lbs. 😁kidding/not kidding I'll second that. I basically only keep in just good enough shape to pass my physical for my second job. That's a fairly low bar also.
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