Okay, I'm going to weigh in on this since I use this, "It's not a date," line all the time. This is what is going on inside of my head when I say this. Here is the decoder ring from the cereal box:
I'm not sure I'm into you (age, not knowing enough to have a good read yet, could be lots of factors). But here's the thing, if I AM into you, I will try switch that 'hanging out' into a date, PRONTO. I'm not going to announce, "OK, now it's a date!" My body language will change and you will notice you've been let out of the friend zone. It's not a game or tricky. When my hand goes up your leg, it's a pretty good green light. But what I'm also saying to the guy is, "Please don't put your hand up my leg. It's not a date." I don't want them to have expectations and then be disappointed if it's just not clicking.
Double standard. I agree.
Now, with my friend Bob, here-- we both already knew it was not a date, but it helps to say so when you are dealing with the opposite gender. We are on a therapeutic site, and really, we kept in line with what this site is all about: offering support and sympathy from others in the same predicament. Bob is a wonderful gentlemen. We had a good time, and that was that. And he has awesome taste in music, by the way. Now, about the cadet/midshipman mistake, he is joking. I yanked his chain for making such an egregious mistake (never confuse navy with army), but he is too smart to realize that that would end his chances (were he trying). Just saying this to clarify that surfergirl is
a nice ball buster.
So to summarize, if a girl backs off the language of a "date", it means she isn't into you romantically or isn't sure she is into you romantically
yet.
Now, I believe
baza (?) and I had a little back-and-forth regarding whether it was honest for me to post not great pics of myself, so that men would be pleasantly delighted instead of disappointed when we meet in person. The pics I posted were/are real, enough to make you say okay to meet, but I know they are not great pics. I'll let Bob weigh in if he wants to regarding whether it was "honest" or not.
Did you feel lied to, Bob? Honest question and you know I can take the real answer.
By the way, this could be taken as "Netflix and chill" which is code for booty call.