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Post by tiredoftears on Jan 23, 2018 21:06:06 GMT -5
So sorry to hear tiredoftears. Nobody deserves to have their feelings dismissed in such a callous manner. I feel for you. To answer the question posed, I will probably be at a local bar on Valentines Day. I’m sure my roomie will be upset, but I’m going to be fucked one way or another. Might as well go out swinging at real opportunities. But I may end up at home with a new toy that I purchase for myself. ☺ Good for you, Brian!
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Post by flounder on Jan 23, 2018 22:11:15 GMT -5
Why do I get the feeling OP is going to get a bunch of PMs? Just FYI. I’m not getting laid either. Join the club dear.
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Post by rejected101 on Jan 23, 2018 22:18:52 GMT -5
So... Valentine's Day is coming up. I just wondered what people here have planned or usually do in a sexless relationship? I ask because apparently, expecting sex just because both partners are physically able isn't on the table, hasn't been there last two years, why should it be this year? In counseling last week, he was supposed to have an answer as to why after we found out i was pregnant years ago, he suddenly started denying me sex, while spending hours on porn or chatting with cam girls, because our last counseling appointment at the begining of December, i told him it has been long enough, I want a real answer. So at the appointment, I asked, and he chuckled amd said he had forgotten to think about it. HE CHUCKLED!!! LIKE IT WAS A FUCKING JOKE!!! The counselor then let out a chuckle too, and I erupted. I screamed at him that hasn't had a mere month to think about this, he has had TWO FUCKING YEARS to think about this, and I expect a real fucking answer, a real fucking apology without stupid god damn excuses, and some fucking dick on Valentine's day this year, because if he ain't gonna put out, I WILL find someone somewhere to give me a good dicking down. (Most likely through craigslist) Let me know your address then! My wife thinks Valentine’s Day is about exchanging sentiments of love, writing cards full loving words, having a candle lit meal in a lovely restaurant before returning to our home where the children aren’t (because they’re at nan and Grandad’s for the night). Once we are home we’ll may watch a nice film, and after we have done all this we go to bed, lovingly gaze into one another’s arms and......go to sleep. Why? Because sex is only for when she fancy’s a shag which is when the stars alone perfectly with the moon.
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Post by greatcoastal on Jan 23, 2018 22:24:29 GMT -5
Valentines day? I may end up before the judge getting divorced!" Aint that a kick in the head!"
Most likely I will be home, alone in my room, posting on here. See ya then!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 23, 2018 22:30:30 GMT -5
tiredoftears, I’m sorry you had such a bad experience with your husband and counselor. I can totally understand your anger and I, like you, would be looking for a way out. I agree with others who’ve suggested you fire both your husband and counselor. Besides her totally inappropriate laugh, I’m surprised she’s comfortable with your 19 month old attending sessions. I’ll assume he’s pre-verbal, but he’s still able to pick up the tension in the room and could be negatively affected. Besides that, I’m guessing you’d rather his first word not be the F bomb!! Hang in there, you are not alone in staring down a sexless Valentine’s Day. Most of us are in that very same boat.
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Post by appleaday on Jan 23, 2018 23:09:54 GMT -5
My husband bought me candy hearts so I think Valentines day is over right?
I don't bother bringing it up so don't expect to do anything. My husband will bring up going to a nice restaurant at the last minute and I will be non-committal and then we will stay home. And watch tv and go to bed. Or maybe play video games.
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Post by choosinghappy on Jan 24, 2018 10:16:34 GMT -5
I'm actually hoping my H is traveling on V Day so I don't even have to deal with it. I don't want a bullshit card from him like last year professing how in love with me he is when our definitions of being "in love" are so drastically different. And I certainly don't want him to attempt any sort of intimacy. Although the chance of that is slim to none, I'm now at the point where I no longer think I would be open to it with him so I don't even want to have that door open a crack.
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Post by northstarmom on Jan 24, 2018 10:23:35 GMT -5
If you see nothing to celebrate in V Day do what I did with my now ex. I told him calmly without rancor that we were long married companions and there was no need to trouble ourselves with celebrating on that day. He complied with no discussion. I was glad to no longer have to go through the motions.
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Post by wom360 on Jan 24, 2018 11:14:05 GMT -5
I'm actually hoping my H is traveling on V Day so I don't even have to deal with it. I don't want a bullshit card from him like last year professing how in love with me he is when our definitions of being "in love" are so drastically different. And I certainly don't want him to attempt any sort of intimacy. Although the chance of that is slim to none, I'm now at the point where I no longer think I would be open to it with him so I don't even want to have that door open a crack. Tossing the unopened card in the trash would be a strong statement.
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Post by worksforme2 on Jan 24, 2018 11:30:06 GMT -5
My X had a somewhat mercenary approach to V-day. She expected flowers, a mushy card and an evening out running an expensive piece of meat(not mine) down her neck. Then we would return home, watch some TV and head to bed to sleep off the meal. (Don't believe that crap that either red meat or chocolate are an aphrodisiac for women) She was well mannered enough to thank me for the evening, just not well mannered enough to f*ck me.
This year my new partner has made it clear that baring the earth opening up and swallowing one of us there will be some "poking" going on.
PS.....there may well be some swallowing going on, on both of our parts
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Post by Deleted on Jan 24, 2018 11:45:51 GMT -5
I'm actually hoping my H is traveling on V Day so I don't even have to deal with it. I don't want a bullshit card from him like last year professing how in love with me he is when our definitions of being "in love" are so drastically different. Not to defend him, but most guys grab whatever card they see and don't spend the time to find the card with the exact words to capture their feelings the way women tend to. We're jerks that way Just another Mars/Venus thing.
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Post by surfergirl on Jan 24, 2018 12:05:12 GMT -5
wom360I did that and he either didn't notice or say anything. (I made sure it was on the top of the trash.) Tomorrow is our anniversary and I'll do the same thing.
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Post by h on Jan 24, 2018 12:07:59 GMT -5
We will likely be going out to dinner. Nothing else though in the middle of the week. Work the next day means an early night. Dinner will last late enough that sex will be off the table by the time we get home. Like every V-Day, no V for me.
I know already some people here are going to ask me why bother if there's nothing in it for me... I fully understand that I won't get anything close to romance but I don't want to deal with a pouty, passive aggressive roommate. It's less stressful on me to just go through the motions and at least enjoy a nice dinner.
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Post by flounder on Jan 24, 2018 12:09:52 GMT -5
wom360I did that and he either didn't notice or say anything. (I made sure it was on the top of the trash.) Tomorrow is our anniversary and I'll do the same thing. Yikes. What a prick.
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Post by h on Jan 24, 2018 12:10:26 GMT -5
I'm actually hoping my H is traveling on V Day so I don't even have to deal with it. I don't want a bullshit card from him like last year professing how in love with me he is when our definitions of being "in love" are so drastically different. Not to defend him, but most guys grab whatever card they see and don't spend the time to find the card with the exact words to capture their feelings the way women tend to. We're jerks that way Just another Mars/Venus thing. Speak for yourself! I'm an awesome card picker!
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