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Post by greatcoastal on Jan 15, 2018 9:35:08 GMT -5
When I see this tittle "sex for chores" I instantly relate it to my dislike for the 5 love languages. Mainly "acts of service". It's a never ending vicious cycle. Once you GIVE an act of service, you may receive an empty "thank you" (like that cold worthless piece of paper you get from a ATM machine with your balance, a cold "thank you" printed on the bottom. Then you realized they stiffed you for $2.50 just to get your own money!)
Or like the empty coke machine. When you don't get a drink and you don't even get your money back!
Like many on here I am a giver. I love doing acts of service, for others. In return my love language is.... (you guessed it) touch and a distant second, quality time. At the bottom of my love languages was RECEIVING or expecting acts of service. I need someone who will do acts of service with me, beside me, together. Not totally independent and receive nothing forever. ( Maybe that's being to co-dependent?)
Once you do those chores they quickly become a "expected duty" and no longer a gift that deserves giving in return.Just like the SM. All take, take, take, with zero giving in return.
That is where I would rather be alone and search for someone else who wants touch and side by side giving. I will also be happy single person knowing the burden that has been removed,and I can love being myself. My chores will be done for me. Someone who appreciates them.
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Post by hopingforachange on Jan 15, 2018 9:58:00 GMT -5
greatcoastal doing the acts together would speak to quality time. Is that your 3rd love language?
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Post by greatcoastal on Jan 15, 2018 10:32:30 GMT -5
greatcoastal doing the acts together would speak to quality time. Is that your 3rd love language? Actually I think I got it wrong! I haven't read it or discussed it for a while. Quality time was number two for me. Words of affirmation a more distant third. Touch was way up there. Receiving gifts and acts of service was rock bottom. They say opposites attract. I want to avoid that in the future. Yup, doing things together is quality time. Heaven is when there's some touch involved. You can't do that being across the room in separate places. I think that's why I love the show M.A.S.H. so much, all there Quality time working, eating, living, side by side with each other.
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Post by lostintime on Jan 18, 2018 22:23:25 GMT -5
Chores equals time and time equals money. I can make money more efficiently at work and hire someone to do chores. Its like paying your wife to have sex with you. I tried being with prostitutes that looked great but was never able to enjoy it. That is why I do not pay for sex.
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