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Post by elkclan2 on Jan 12, 2018 5:27:16 GMT -5
When my son was smaller (he's 10 now so he would have been 6 or 7 at most) he turned to me apropos of nothing and said "I don't want a stepfather, because he'll never accept me as I'm not his real kid." My ex and I weren't separated yet. But he knew that shit wasn't right.
He was less upset by the prospect of the marriage breaking down (it was most unpleasant at home), but more by the prospect of me taking on a new partner.
In the end, I've only introduced him to one guy, my current partner, who has two children of his own about the same age and they seem to be developing a very good, very affectionate relationship.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 12, 2018 15:26:45 GMT -5
I work on a college campus and if the K-12 education makes you worry about it, the sexual consent language on US college campuses is just short of "all sex is rape". In an era when we should be moving toward more enlightened decisions, it seems like too much of what we teach is just a new version of screwed up.
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Post by solodriver on Jun 3, 2018 21:14:39 GMT -5
This is a helpful thread, albeit a slightly painful one to read as I think about what my young son is learning about relationships when he almost never sees his parents kiss or hug or touch, or even really talk much with one another 😕 As for me, I do remember while growing up that all us kids knew that Saturday nights were strictly Mommy and Daddy time. I remember my mother getting a little dressed up, I remember perfume, I remember seeing the light on under their door when I got up late at night to use the bathroom and hearing the murmur of their voices or hushed laughter. As I came to understand what that truly meant I was grossed out as any kid would be, haha, but now as an adult in an intimacy-free marriage I find I am jealous of what they had. They DID model a healthy sexual relationship for me and the lesson carried over. Perhaps that’s why after only 5.5 years of this SM I am seriously contemplating an exit plan. I am thankful for the lesson they taught me. I don’t want to set my son up for failure in his future relationships because I am afraid. your parents had it right
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