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Post by darktippedrose on Jan 16, 2018 12:35:56 GMT -5
"Counter-refusal" is an aversion to sexual intimacy with a person for a reason. Just like your spouse has an aversion to sexual intimacy with YOU for a reason. That reason might not be spoken of or thought through with any degree of cognizance, but there is a reason, even if it's simply "I'm not that into you." As such, "Counter-refusal" is a bit like the word "reverse-racism" - the prefix adds no valuable information about the behavior and serves to offload one's agency to the partner. I'm not quite sure what you mean by this. Ive always thought it was a survival technique, to protect yourself.
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Post by Apocrypha on Jan 16, 2018 16:58:26 GMT -5
"Counter-refusal" is an aversion to sexual intimacy with a person for a reason. Just like your spouse has an aversion to sexual intimacy with YOU for a reason. That reason might not be spoken of or thought through with any degree of cognizance, but there is a reason, even if it's simply "I'm not that into you." As such, "Counter-refusal" is a bit like the word "reverse-racism" - the prefix adds no valuable information about the behavior and serves to offload one's agency to the partner. I'm not quite sure what you mean by this. Ive always thought it was a survival technique, to protect yourself. Sure. That's your reason for not having sex with your partner. Your partner also has a reason for not having sex with you. You both refuse to have sex with each other for good reasons - reasons that are worth choosing celibacy over not.
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Post by darktippedrose on Jan 17, 2018 15:58:08 GMT -5
that much is obvious, I was just curious as to why you dislike the word so much.
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