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Post by orangepeel on Dec 26, 2017 5:22:43 GMT -5
OMG I’ve just had a terrible thought!
I’ve been counter-refusing for so long now (as in not initiating) that I’m wondering whether my W (who is assiduously not initiating too) is on this site thinking I’m the refuser!
None of you ladies are my wife, are you? Please say you’re not!
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Post by emptynside on Dec 26, 2017 6:24:10 GMT -5
wow! you mentioned this and now I am having the same thought, LOL! I am wondering whats the worst that could happen if true
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Post by brian on Dec 26, 2017 6:51:52 GMT -5
wow! you mentioned this and now I am having the same thought, LOL! I am wondering whats the worst that could happen if true Ummm... that you discover the true depths of vindictiveness that your spouse has for you? Anyone who belittles you for your feelings isn't worth your time, IMO. Interestingly enough, turning that around is also applicable... you shouldn't belittle your spouse for not wanting to have sex with you. All you can do is decide WHAT you are going to do about it. Is it bad enough to leave? Are you willing to accept the consequences if you outsource (IMO, "cheating" is the wrong word)? Or are you willing to just suck it up and continue down the road you are on? I use my real name on this site. My profile shows the real city I live in. If my roomie wants to read what I have posted, let her. I no longer care. There is nothing in my posts that I haven't already told her straight up, including that, if someone were to offer, I would gladly have sex with them.
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Post by M2G on Dec 26, 2017 6:56:25 GMT -5
I can only wish for that: maybe she would see the disaster of hurt that I am, most days.
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Post by h on Dec 26, 2017 7:05:13 GMT -5
I left this site bookmarked on the computer. If she finds it and reads it, who knows what would happen...
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Post by brian on Dec 26, 2017 7:30:10 GMT -5
I left this site bookmarked on the computer. If she finds it and reads it, who knows what would happen... I have a pretty good idea what would happen if my roomie found this site... "How could you tell others about our situation?!?" (implication is that I have embarrassed her) "I hate it when you call me 'roomie'!" "That site is just a bunch of perverts." "All you ever want is sex. All you ever talk about is sex, sex, sex." She might call me an asshole a few times too, but that's about it. There wouldn't be any actions to deal with. Hell, she "offered" a tandem bath in our jetted tub for 2 years, yet couldn't put forth the effort to place a single bottle of wine in the refrigerator to help set the mood. 6 years later, we still haven't had that bath. At least she recognized the silliness of her continuing to offer. So, much like baza has stated about playing the divorce card, if you don't follow through, then it's just empty words. Likewise, my roomie's words are just words if there is never any follow through... and I tell her that... and she gets mad. One of my kids found this site, joined, and send me a derogatory PM. That was fun. Don't much care though.
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Post by h on Dec 26, 2017 7:38:12 GMT -5
I left this site bookmarked on the computer. If she finds it and reads it, who knows what would happen... I have a pretty good idea what would happen if my roomie found this site... "How could you tell others about our situation?!?" (implication is that I have embarrassed her) "I hate it when you call me 'roomie'!" "That site is just a bunch of perverts." "All you ever want is sex. All you ever talk about is sex, sex, sex." She might call me an asshole a few times too, but that's about it. There wouldn't be any actions to deal with. Hell, she "offered" a tandem bath in our jetted tub for 2 years, yet couldn't put forth the effort to place a single bottle of wine in the refrigerator to help set the mood. 6 years later, we still haven't had that bath. At least she recognized the silliness of her continuing to offer. So much like baza has stated about playing the divorce card, if you don't follow through, then it's just empty words. Likewise, my roomies words are just words if there is never any follow through... and I tell her that... and she gets mad. One of my kids found this site, joined, and send me a derogatory PM. That was fun. Don't much care though. Ouch. That's an awfully cold kid.
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Post by northstarmom on Dec 26, 2017 7:53:30 GMT -5
“One of my kids found this site, joined, and send me a derogatory PM. That was fun. Don't much care though.”
What a demonstration of how remaining in a sm can poison future generations. There’s something perverted about an offspring’s injecting themselves into a parent’s sex life like this. And the PM suggests the offspring thinks it’s normal to not have a sex life while married. Did you talk to them about the inappropriateness of their behavior and assumptions? I presume your wife put them up to coming here which also is very inappropriate.
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Post by M2G on Dec 26, 2017 9:10:22 GMT -5
None of you ladies are my wife, are you? Please say you’re not! Well, if that's what you want... (sorry couldn't stop myself)
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Post by M2G on Dec 26, 2017 9:15:38 GMT -5
"All you ever want is sex. All you ever talk about is sex, sex, sex." Hmmm - maybe if we (the refused) actually HAD some sex we'd be too fuckin' tired to talk about it! But then we could get this one: "Now just because I let you starfish me don't get the idea its a regular thing." Also: did I just use "starfish" as a verb?
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Post by M2G on Dec 26, 2017 9:18:44 GMT -5
..There’s something perverted about an offspring’s injecting them self into a parent’s sex life like this. Yes, HIGHLY inappropriate, sounds like the refuser has been talking to the kids? Wow. That's called parentification, and triangulating the child between H & W. Disgusting.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 26, 2017 12:10:37 GMT -5
OMG I’ve just had a terrible thought! I’ve been counter-refusing for so long now (as in not initiating) that I’m wondering whether my W (who is assiduously not initiating too) is on this site thinking I’m the refuser! None of you ladies are my wife, are you? Please say you’re not! I'm not your wife. IIRC, you've been sexless for 5 years. I've only been sexless for 13.5 months. But who's counting? I also have this fear though, as a fellow counter-refuser, that my H will no doubt one day turn this around on me - saying that I've been refusing him for [insert # of months/years] now. Shrug.
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Post by darktippedrose on Dec 26, 2017 15:28:52 GMT -5
"All you ever want is sex. All you ever talk about is sex, sex, sex." Hmmm - maybe if we (the refused) actually HAD some sex we'd be too fuckin' tired to talk about it! But then we could get this one: "Now just because I let you starfish me don't get the idea its a regular thing." Also: did I just use "starfish" as a verb? what is starfishing?
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Post by darktippedrose on Dec 26, 2017 15:31:40 GMT -5
i highly doubt my husband would ever join a site like this. and if he did, he'd do it just to spite me and talk about how bad I am.
He claims I'm too old to want sex. I'm just not the fresh teenager i was anymore. He thiniks its normal for married men to not touch their wives and be with a side *itch.
He denies denying me. literally.
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Post by hopingforachange on Dec 26, 2017 16:01:39 GMT -5
Hmmm - maybe if we (the refused) actually HAD some sex we'd be too fuckin' tired to talk about it! But then we could get this one: "Now just because I let you starfish me don't get the idea its a regular thing." Also: did I just use "starfish" as a verb? what is starfishing? Having sex with a person that is completely uninterested. They lay there with there arms and legs out to the side.
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