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Post by james on Dec 28, 2017 4:07:12 GMT -5
Yes. I made a 10 point plan with help from GP and psychologist not to get seasonal affective disorder this winter and so far IT IS WORKING!!! I am so happy not to be depressed. Second I am formulating my exit strategy and it is a very positive thing for me, even though it is a very gradual one. And thanks to the lovely people on this forum who have helped me with it. Love you all.
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Post by Chatter Fox on Dec 28, 2017 9:18:19 GMT -5
Such a good (but very difficult) question.
I voted "about the same". It's so hard for me to rank my happiness. It's like having one arm submerged in a bucket of ice water and the other arm submerged in a nice warm hot tub and someone asks me if I'm comfortable. If I ignore the freezing cold arm, then yes, I'm comfy.
Some parts of me are happy some are sad. Compared to last year, the happy and sad is probably about the same? It's certainly not a noticeable difference.
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Post by shamwow on Dec 28, 2017 9:20:58 GMT -5
They need a "fuck yeah" choice.
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Post by ironhamster on Dec 28, 2017 21:39:01 GMT -5
Happier. I knew I would be when I let go of the idea of being carried out of my house feet first decades from now, and accepted the idea that it really was not mine, any more. I can find places to live, but I already gave up too much of my life waiting for an empty promise to be delivered.
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Post by choosinghappy on Dec 29, 2017 21:34:50 GMT -5
Debatable.
One year ago I was still fully lying to myself and not yet dealing with the reality of my situation. Now that has changed and it does not give me much hope for my marriage. That is something I am grappling with. However, I have connected with someone who makes me feel really good about myself again and it has enabled my sexual side to come out again so that is most definitely a positive.
It’s a mixed bag for me.
Rather than saying I’m “happier” than a year ago, I will say I’ve made progress in the last year and that is a good thing.
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Post by mescaline on Dec 30, 2017 1:52:38 GMT -5
Nope, certainly not happier. Wiser and more accepting of the truth definitely, but this does not make me happy. However, I am hopeful it will do in the longer term, I have more motivation and less fear of my own future.
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Post by baza on Dec 30, 2017 23:35:52 GMT -5
I'll start here at December 2008 (the last year I was in my ILIASM deal) 2009 - much happier than 2008 2010 - happier than 2009 2011 - happier than 2010 2012 - at least as happy as 2011 2013 - at least as happy as 2012 2014 - happier still 2015 - at least as happy as 2014 2016 - at least as happy as 2015 2017 - had a big fight with Ms enna and a rather unenjoyable xmas. Happiness level probably back to about 2012 or thereabouts. Still a country mile ahead of 2008.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 30, 2017 23:44:47 GMT -5
Since the poll will close in only two days, I'll say that I am definitely happier, but it is entirely for reasons outside my marriage.
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Post by elkclan2 on Dec 31, 2017 11:16:17 GMT -5
I am sooo much happier than I was this time last year. Yes, I do despair about the state of politics in my home and adopted countries. But these were things I was despairing about last year! I finally see some hopeful solutions for getting out of my marriage (i'm out, but not legally) and I'm with a man I adore. I feel more settled with the current custody arrangements and the step-parenting thing is going soooo much better than I expected.
I didn't get to spend xmas with my son or stepsons, so that was a bit of a downer, but I had a lovely quiet Christmas in a big rambling farmhouse in the mountains of the south of france with my partner - we got this amazing house sitting opportunity so are having a vacation we could never have afforded otherwise. It has been so relaxing and hopefully next year we get a big, noisy non-relaxing Christmas with all the lads. Both are good in different ways.
I'm having some health problems, but hopefully they are fixable. Job is a bit stressful but I think this could be good this coming year.
I'm really looking forward to next year.
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Post by M2G on Dec 31, 2017 11:26:31 GMT -5
I am sooo much happier than I was this time last year. Yes, I do despair about the state of politics in my home and adopted countries. But these were things I was despairing about last year! I finally see some hopeful solutions for getting out of my marriage (i'm out, but not legally) and I'm with a man I adore. I feel more settled with the current custody arrangements and the step-parenting thing is going soooo much better than I expected. I didn't get to spend xmas with my son or stepsons, so that was a bit of a downer, but I had a lovely quiet Christmas in a big rambling farmhouse in the mountains of the south of france with my partner - we got this amazing house sitting opportunity so are having a vacation we could never have afforded otherwise. It has been so relaxing and hopefully next year we get a big, noisy non-relaxing Christmas with all the lads. Both are good in different ways. I'm having some health problems, but hopefully they are fixable. Job is a bit stressful but I think this could be good this coming year. I'm really looking forward to next year. Good for you elkclan2 - always like to hear the happy news as it can be rare here Happy New Year!
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