Post by northstarmom on Nov 19, 2017 9:47:06 GMT -5
“But since we’ve got some extra $ coming in I’m going to keep raising the offer until they start helping. Screaming at them ain’t working. 50 bucks a week got their attention this morning... but they know they only get paid if they do the work!”
Everyone lives in the house so should have responsibilities. This could mean working a job and contributing towards the household expenses. It could mean doing chores to keep everything functioning. If your girls don’t do chores, simply stop their privileges. No phone, no rides places, no using the car, etc. I think offering them lots of money is a mistake because it indicates that they deserve to be paid for thing s That are necessary to keep the house running smoothly. I’m sure you do not ask them for payment for the many things you do for them.
I had the “talk” when I was 11, and I was mortified. In fact, I told my mother that I hope I get run over before “all that stuff” happens to me. My first instinct was to say, she’s too young, but then I recall I started menses at 12, so it’s just as well I was told because I would have thought I was hemorrhaging, and needed a doctor, so I guess 11 is not too young as long as It’s sex Ed. I agree with Baz, anything more is too much information for that age too handle.
11 is old to begin telling kids about sex. Sex should be an ongoing, age-appropriate education beginning when kids are preschoolers. For instance telling preschoolers the proper names for genitals and that no one but themselves or someone like a doctor should touch their genitals is appropriate. Elementary school aged kids should be taught pregnancies result from sex, not from angels or the cabbage patch. If they happen to see animals having intercourse, it’s fine to tell them the animals are making babies. Don’t lie and say they are playing.
Sex is s natural part of life and knowledge of its existence needn’t be kept a secret. Include info about your values. For instance, I was very clear with my sons that pregnancies can occur even with birth control, so I recommended that they not become sexually active until they had the wisdom and finances to be able to financially support and be a present father to a child. We also talked about abortion and how the decision is the woman’s, regardless of the man’s beliefs And I told them that love making is an important part of marriage.
One kept trying to find out how often his dad and I had sex. I just responded that was too personal a question to answer.
There are plenty of good books and articles that can help you know how to approach this important subject with your children and can help you do it in a way that doesn’t make it sound shameful.
Pre-school is far too young to be discussing sex. Let kids be kids before we indoctrinate them into the adult world. They grow up too fast as it is.
Post by northstarmom on Nov 19, 2017 21:12:35 GMT -5
Pre school is not too young to discuss sex. One discussed s c with kids in an age appropriate way. For preschoolers, it’s appropriate for them to know that babies grow inside their moms and come out through a special hole for babies. It’s aplropriate for kids to know the proper names of their sex organs and that others shouldn’t touch them in the areas their bathing suit covers them. They should know to tell their parents if anyone tries to touch them in those private
Keep in mind that preschoolers can be victimized by sexual predators and that being ignorant of the things I described could make them vulnerable.
Ignorance is not bliss. Sex Is natural and not dirty. Telling kids silly things like babies come from cabbage patches is silly. Learning about life in an age appropriate way is part of what parents should teach kids. If you don’t do it, probably they not only would be vulnerable to abuse but also they may learn false information.