As the resident wet blanket, can I ask if the dissolvement of your ILIASM shithole is progressing ? Last time out - July 17th - your spouse appeared to have managed to bring your exit to a screeching halt.
I had the same first and second thought as you did, baz. My first thought, of course, is Congrats! You two already know that your your budding romance was an inspiration to me as I got to know ballofconfusion . You guys are rock stars to me.
But I also know first hand how hard it is to get something like this off the ground while still mired in the quagmire of a SM shithole. I'd already tied off all the loose ends (divorce finalized) on my marriage before meeting BOC in person, so no issues there. However, my lady is still going through her divorce and concerns such as mingled water bills, hammering out a custody schedule, court dates, foot dragging on financial disclosure, and a host of other issues can get the emotional hamster spinning in overdrive for both of us (when she hurts I hurt and vice versa). And that's with my SM ended and hers in its final death throes (California takes fucking forever to get divorced). I can only imagine the stress of a two act circus in progress.
I'm happy as hell for you two, but don't get too far down the path of your new life without first legally amputating your past spouses and everything that goes along with that (by that I'm mainly thinking of making sure the kiddos are OK).
Last Edit: Nov 13, 2017 14:24:28 GMT -5 by shamwow
Sham's Law #1: Everything in life is simple. First you figure out what you want. Second, you figure out how to get it. Third you do it. The first step, unfortunately happens to be the hardest.